It's a debate because it's not a black and white issue. I used to be 100% pro-life. Morally, I'm still very much against abortion. Realistically though and from my experience working in the real world with impoverished families and women who have considered abortion, I now understand why it happens and I'm much less judgmental of women who feel like they have to make that choice now.
1) For someone living in poverty who can barely afford to keep a roof over their head or food on the table for themselves, how can they afford diapers and other basic childcare necessities? It's very easy to say "just use birth control" but the fact is, birth control isn't 100% effective, it does fail sometimes. Then you have people who can't easily access birth control. You also have uneducated people who simply don't know! In the United States, we don't have consistent, proper sex education in all of our schools and not all parents talk to their kids about how sex works or how to have safe sex. This can be a cultural issue in some communities and a lot of it boils down to lack of education or sociocultural stigmas surrounding talking about sex and birth control.
2) People who are pro-life often say to give up a child for adoption rather than get an abortion. I completely understand why this is said but I think it's coming from a place of ignorance from people who don't truly understand what the foster care system looks like or what children within this system experience. I work with foster children ALL the time and I can tell you, it breaks my heart to see how many unloved children there are in our foster care system. I even see failed adoptions ALL the time. I see people adopting or fostering for the wrong reasons and causing further hurt and trauma for kids who have already experienced enough trauma for a lifetime. It's sad and if every woman who didn't want a child gave birth and gave up their child to foster care/adoption, it would completely overwhelm the system more than it already is. There already aren't enough *good* families willing to foster or adopt.
3) Awful things like rape happen. Even being against abortion for myself, if I were raped I would absolutely consider it and I think forcing a woman who was raped to give birth to their rapists baby is completely disgusting.
4) Outlawing abortions doesn't mean it won't happen. Back alley abortions will still occur, it will just be a lot more unsafe for women.
I could go on but ultimately, no, I don't agree with abortion on a personal level but through learning more about society, experiencing the real world, and talking to people who are in different circumstances than myself, I understand why it happens and it's certainly a LOT more complicated than many people think. I would love for our government to find ways to fix our systems so that the rates of abortion naturally decrease. I want abortion to be rare and for more women to get pregnant on their own terms and want to keep their babies. Our society simply isn't there yet.
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Of course abortion it's wrong you killing a baby
I think it's wrong for me and the women I'm with. At the same time, if other people want to go to California, New York, or Colorado and have parties for turning back time on a creampie, that's none of my business. I wouldn't sleep with that girl sober in the first place.
I tell people on the left who are panicking and considering crime with Roe v Wade being overturned to let states work it out, same as back in the day I told other people to not bust up those road flares and put them into pipes. America is huge, seriously, pull out a map and compare the land area of the US to pretty much every other country excluding Russia. Region to region, and state to state we're going to have different values.
Like aside from $300k+ there is no way I'd live on the west coast, and I'm sure a lot of them feel the same about living in the south... aside from Texas... Anyway, if you feel it's wrong, live in an area with similar people who vote and feel the same way, and/or just go to church. If you feel it's right at any point in time, go to the east or west coast.
I appreciate your courage.
You took a beating for this post.
Don't change.
Keep educating yourself on this issue and every issue that is important to you.
Stick to your conscience.
There are a lot of really cruel and wicked and ignorant people out here.
Don't waver in your beliefs.
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Most people are pro choice. If you don’t like abortion, don’t get one. But you’ll not dictate what others do. So no it shouldn’t be a debate.
Just because you see it as wrong doesn't really make it actually wrong. What's holding you back is you view it as a human being there for you give it a human right. But in the end, that's just your point of view and you're pushing it to the law book. Also it's so easy to just say "because Science said so" to favor your argument when anyone can also do the same thing when it comes to a counter argument for your belief. Making laws for abortion just interfere's with people's view. I don't view fetus as humans so does sperm and egg cells so I wouldn't say it's killing but rather shedding or discarding. But saying those are humans, well those are your views. I don't like sex being taken for granted not because I'm concerned for the fetus but for the mother's health but I still give them choice to abort with their own consequences. People can make mistakes and abortion is a solution to fix that mistakes just like accidents can happen to everyone not just when it comes to getting pregnant. So what do you do if you break a bone by accident? Most people would go to the hospital and have a surgery to fix it. Same goes with an accidental pregnancy. That "keep your legs closed" BS is also another way to blame someone doing what humans naturally do. Of course you can say abortion is not natural but what is indeed natural is killing a new born or abandoning an infant if they're not committed to raise it like what animals sometimes do. You want that instead? Also that's just like saying, if you don't wanna get a broken bone, don't go out and be a basement dweller. If you Pro lifes want every baby to be born, but they don't care if that baby is going to be an orphan all their childhood, or if the baby is going to suffer malnutrition, or if the baby has no medical insurance and end sick and dies or if the baby is going to grow up feeling unwanted, develop depression and suicide. They want all babies but they are not going to take care of them. If they really cared that much they would offer themselves to take care of every unwanted kid of people who are going to abort. The funny thing is that many pro life aren't that pro life when it comes to death penalty. So what you called "murderer" is wrong except when it's justified. "But where's the justice in that? The baby didn't do anything" Yeah the baby didn't do anything that she have to keep it either. I can also say, the baby didn't do anything except for the fact that it's inside the mother causing her pain and can cause her a lot later on in life so I'm a pro choice because I'm concerned about the mother, the child (Who's gonna suffer as a human being later on), the husband, the family and the government. Kids not taken care of properly can go violent and be suicidal which is a very big issue to society and last I check, Earth has over 7.5 billion people polluting the world.
How do you create a society with the least abortions possible? It's with sex education and avaliable birth control including access to abortions. This has been proven time and time again. So this pro life agenda has nothing to do with abortions. It's to create as much human suffering onto people outside of your fold.
These anti abortion people are the same people that force there 13 year old daughter to marry their rapist so god dosen't deem them a whore. Be it 20 to 70 year old men. That ultimately leaves the mother the only option to commit suicide. Also what's the most common way pregnant women die? If you said homicide by there partner you are correct. Then if you want to avoid all that is a home abortion that might kill yourself accidentally anyway.
Even by your own standards of when life begins, more people die by every metric by being anti abortion. I can't see any argument other then wanting to salivate over people's suffering. Like a commodity you create situations to make it grow and grow and feast upon the suffering of others.Yes, abortion is okay.
Have you ever heard of an ectopic pregnancy?
It's when a fertilized egg gets stuck in a woman's fallopian tube, rather than the uterus (where the baby is supposed to develop). There is no way for a woman to control for this - it just has a chance of happening with every pregnancy.
There is no way to move the egg and preserve it. It must be removed, or it stays there.
If it stays, the fetus doesn't have enough room to develop and this will kill the fetus eventually because it has no room to develop. If it stays, the mother WILL die because the fallopian tube is not meant to develop a baby and its stunted development will be enough to damage the mother's body to the point of death.
Abortion is the only way to save the mother.
She can then try again and there's still a chance an ectopic pregnancy will happen again.
Perhaps the baby develops without organs necessary for life - again, nothing a mother can do to prevent this. Even the healthiest of mothers sometimes have to deal with this.
Sometimes a mother has an accident or something else happens and she must terminate the pregnancy to survive.
There's many reasons for an abortion to happen. It's not just a black and white moral question - rarely is there anything like that in life.
I urge you to research pregnancy while you're young and before you birth children, if you so choose to have them. It is more complicated and risky than you know, with dramatically more serious long term effects on your health than you currently know about.I just think you don't have the ability to reason for yourself. You were fed this nonsense and you swallowed it without questioning. It is so simplistic. . . it doesn't even seem rational.
Let's say if you wanted to have a baby. But something went wrong with your pregnancy and it is so bad it could endanger your life. You do realize in some states, you may not be able to get permission for the abortion. Because the decision would not be made by a doctor. It would be made by a politician. The same ones who gave you vaccine advice. And even in the case where a doctor could, not many doctors are going to risk a murder charge to save your life. You could die in a country where abortion is illegal. Or die trying to get to a state or nation that allowed you the procedure. . . that ultimately could save your life.
That is only one example.
Mind you some of these same states are also enacting legislation restricting access to birth control. So a 16 year old girl, who might be raped, or just sexually active, couldn't even take the medication preventing her from facing such a decision.
And I only learned this because, my ex nearly died over an irregular period. In your version of Gilead, she would be dead as a doornail. Because the only way doctors could stabilize her was to put her on birth control. And the only reason why we were okay is because of my healthcare coverage. If we had none, in your Gilead, she is dead.The NPCs have been programmed for decades. That hardcore China-serving brainwash doesn't disappear overnight. It took Russia 20 years to erase the Soviet Union from the public psyche. And after over 30 years, many in the west still don't know that the Cold War ended.
Toxic as Roe is, badly as it needs to be extinct, simply handing that power back to the states isn't going far enough. And we still need to reverse Lawrence, which has been even more destructive in even smaller a time window.
We also need to flood the ballot box with third party candidates. No R or D! Red and Blue Kool Aid are the same poison! Piglosi, who pretended to be afraid of January 6th, had zero problem laundering money in Ukraine, after stink like her stoked the flames with Russia to turn Ukraine into a war zone. Yet, Cocaine Mitch and even Turncoat Crenshaw are just as bad!
Throw all the monkeys out! Reboot the entire zoo!
Without this, even if we reverse Lawrence next, the gangsta gubmint will always ensure that the opposite of the actual law is what gets enforced!Since you've already adopted the language and mindset of abortion=murder, and anything BUT carrying the baby to term is murder, is there really any point in having a discussion with you? Do you realize that on the political scene, the majority of the "pro-life" people who claim they are protecting the "rights of the unborn" rarely give a shit about what happens to an unwanted baby once it's born? Well, that's an aside, so back to the point.
First, let's check your "facts":
"Condoms are 99.98% guaranteed". Guaranteed what - to prevent pregnancy?
Not on your life.
Little known facts about condoms
Theoretically, the are 98% effective when used perfectly and properly, but in the REAL world, that doesn't happen and their effective rate drops to 87%. Not only that, but if condoms are the ONLY method of birth control, you can expect a failure rate of anywhere from 46% - 52%. This is just one source, but you can find corroborating information in many others.
There's a larger question that encompasses everything from the right to govern one's own body to whether you think abortion is morally wrong or not, and your personal relationship with your Creator, if you even believe in that.
You would be wise to learn that other viewpoints dissimilar to your own do not take on the simplistic, righteous sense of condemnation that yours does.You know you have a a lot of valid arguements but the one things you're missing is the perspective of the women have gone through this procedure or are contemplating this procedure. I commend you for having such strong morals and convictions and I hope that if that's your belief that you continue to live by them. However, you are young and is still much you have to learn about life and the world in general. Whether a woman chooses to be pregant or chooses to end a pregnancy really doesn't have any bearing on your life but it does on hers. If it bothers you then pray about it, pray for the change of social values, pray for better access to birthcontrol, pray for a better justice system to keep sexual predators off the streets, pray for the medial profession so they can find ways to save the women who's lives are in danger when carrying a pregnancy to full term and definitely pray for the aborted fetus if that helps you as well. If you live in the U. S. maybe someday you'll get to vote on this issues. God bless!
I just got an abortion the other day. It was a very hard decision, noone finds out their pregnant and says "fuck I want an abortion" no it sucks and it kills you afterwards, but I couldn't afford another child we're barely getting by as it is. I can't afford to be healthy and go to the doctors all the time. My first pregnancy was terrible I was high risk and sent to bed rest for the last whole month... Don't even get me started on labor. If I would have kept that fetus inside of me and allowed it to grow in into a baby it would have probably had a hard shitty life because again I'm barley getting by as it is. This abortion debate isn't about what's right and wrong, it isn't about religion or any of that bullshit the media is spilling. It's about MONEY the number of new babies is decreasing by a lot and the government doesn't like that. Who's going to work and pay taxes? That's what it's all about. They need more workers for future generations they don't care how shitty they are brought up if they are barely surviving just as long as you don't get an abortion. Like seriously none of you people who are against abortion gives a fuck about what's going to happen to those children after they are born to someone who straight up doesn't want it and can't take care of it properly.
You are very smart and am proud to see someone so young to understand abortion is unnecessary with all the contraceptives and plan B. I feel like because abortion is legal, people choose to make irresponsible decisions they wouldn't make if they couldn't have an abortion to fix their mistakes.
So many have been desensitized to thinking these human lives are just clumpsvof cells. Honestly we are all clumps of cells. Doesn't mean we aren't living beings. These babies have heart beats, brain activity, the ability to feel pain, can suck their thumbs. They even breath as early as 10 weeks.Spot on! I don't understand it either. I mean, I CAN understand the necessity for it at times (ex. if the mother's life is in danger), but as I understand it, those instances are relatively rare in this day and age with our modern medicine being able to perform virtual miracles. I could be wrong, of course (I don't work in the medical profession), but if I am I'd appreciate not being called names.
Abortion "on demand" is completely wrong, and I say this as someone who used to believe the exact opposite, as someone who used to hate "all those crazy religious folk who are trying to control our lives". I changed my mind, I woke up to the reality of what was really going on.Imagine you are pregnant,
the doctor comes in after your scans and bloods etc,
they tell you that your developing baby if it is born will only live at most a year and due to defects will be in constant pain which they cannot do anything for.
will leave that moral decision for you.
to have a human baby lying there in complete pain, knowing you could have prevented it or not.
now imagine it is twins, for one to live, the other must be terminated,
you can have both die by doing nothing or one live by doing something,The problem with abortion is, people feel SO strongly that what they believe is right, and the other view is wrong that there is no room for discussion.
Look at you for example. I'm not saying you are right or wrong, but you have a set belief, and anyone opposing it simply cannot be right.
Until you accept there could be extenuating circumstances to abort a child, such as being raped by a sociopath that you know will spawn a monster into society, what is the point of there ever being a discussion?Because bodily autonomy, a person cannot be forced to have their body parts used against their will. Hell, even body parts from a corpse cannot be used with out prior consent. Forced pregnancy is torture, no one should be forced to put their life in risk against their will just because some guy decides to ejaculate inside a girls vagina...
You're 16, do you really think that if you got pregnant the government should have the right to force you to carry that pregnancy to term and give birth to that baby? What about a 13 year old girl? Or an 11 year old?I agree but I still think with the millions of women that have been assaulted etc… it will always b legal. It’s wrong yes. It’s morally wrong. It’s jus more about the funding of the ridiculous “planned parenthood “. I’m sure it was good in theory…. But has bcom a serious cash cow for liberals.
Look up the donations that it gives. Taxpayers dollars go to it then liberals receive the money or the pay lobbyist etc. it’s sickening. Something needs to change… not allowing 20-25 week abortions either.Just so you have an understanding of my opposing view:
1) bodily autonomy should be a funded mental right. Nothing goes in or comes out of it without our say. Anti vaxxers used the same arguments pro-abortionists use. And ultimately it’s right. I walked a fine edge of saying a society should be able to e not vaxxed. Not force them to get vaxxed.
2) a fetus is not a baby. It’s human, but so is sperm. Should sperm be regulated?
3) ultimately, anti abortion laws are like the government forcing all of us to donate blood.I don’t think it’s ok because you still killing and I think it messed up because well actually my experience my friend almost got one 13 years ago but I stopped her reminded her her real mother could of done that to her but gave her up for adoption instead Wicth is always a option and my mom was single and 20 it could of been me always other options are going to be There never is it OK to kill anything alive or not even born yet
Do you know how difficult it is to be pregnant and have a baby? It can literally be deadly. Why force a women to be have a baby when it is life threatening? Like sure women that want babies would be more then willing to risk their life and go through trauma to have a baby but those that don't it's torture to them so it's best to let everyone choose instead of forcing them to be pregnant.
It’s a debate because not everyone has the same moral code. You can’t expect others to feel exactly as you do. I don’t like abortion either. It’s not something I would ever consider. However, I understand the argument for it. Some people see a fetus as not a fully formed human being with rights yet. It’s part of the mothers body until he/she can survive outside the womb. This issue argues morality vs individual rights…….. two things people are very passionate about. So I try to understand both sides and not be too preachy.
Because a lot of woman ultimately view children as a form of slavery and in their view they are actually fighting for their "freedom" rather than being "shackled" by raising a child or even giving up to adoption.
Because recovering from childbirth is still something they have to deal with, and they want to be free from that
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