Is your husbands Instagram reels/YouTube reels filled with videos of girls dancing, half naked, or just talking something?

[ForeverAngel1233467]

Hello

so the other day I went on my husbands phone and clicked on Instagram reels and like the first 4/5 videos were all of girls. Now this bothers me so I asked my husband why this is and he says he doesn't know and it's because women are mostly on social media and then I asked him is it because your watching it? And first he said no and then contributed to say I dunno, I mean obviously if a video comes up you watch it.
So basically he is saying he doesn't have a choice in the matter. He doesn't actively search women's names on Instagram , I mean once in a while I've seen him search a celebrity, but like I dunno why it bothers me so much seeing like most of his reels like that.

do any other people have the same issue? And how do you deal with it? I don't want to control him, I know that if you watch one or two videos on YouTube / Instagram then the algorithem can end up showing you loads. And yes maybe he does just watch them because there there and he's bored so he's just scrolling. I don't expect him to scroll every time he sees a women but still I just find it bothers me...

[Danny_dan92]

The algorithm is based on who he follows.




Heterosexual males follow primarily women. Trust me, you aren’t the first girl that gets mad at the fact that their man follows other women. If every woman was to have it their way, their man would only follow their girl and their mom.


No other females.




Realistically ask yourself, are you following other guys? What does your feed look like? Is it a bunch of shirtless men? How do you think he’d feel?




The biggest take away you need to gain is very simple.






Is he flirting with other women. THAT is what you should be concerned about.

[ForeverAngel1233467]

He actually only follows people he knows and like one girl that is a celebrity...

[Danny_dan92]

Strange. Well. It could be because he is liking and commenting on posts like these. It’s the only explanation then

[ForeverAngel1233467]

No, I have access to his Instagram and he's not lol. It's clearly because he's viewing these videos on the reels section. But his argument is it comes up and what do I expect him to do, scroll away each time

[Danny_dan92]

Very well. As I said. You should really be concerned if he’s trying to flirt with other women.

If you saw an attractive guy, you wouldn’t look? Surely you will at least glance or want too. It’s human nature. It’s more important if you have some self composure and don’t flirt or try to cheat on your S/O

[Razp_Sorbet]

My boyfriend doesn't have IG but on Facebook he pretty much blocks, reports, "I don't want to see this", "I'm not interested" for any advertisement that comes up so Facebook has no fucking idea what to advertise to him anymore. It started advertising lingerie for both men and women which was an interesting sight...

[ForeverAngel1233467]

May I ask, how did you get him to do this? Or did he just do it by himself? You would think since my husband knows I don't like it he would make conscious effort not to but it's like he dgaf

[Razp_Sorbet]

He just does it by himself. Hates advertisement. Isn't interested in Instagram.

He gets requests from porn bots all the time on Facebook.

Nothing really bothers me though.

[DishLady]

It's probably his "spank bank" images/videos, especially if they're of people he does not actually see or interact with in the real world.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the choppy waters of social media and relationships, aren't we? Let me sprinkle a bit of insight with a dash of charm here. First off, it's not unusual for social media algorithms to get a bit cheeky, showing content based on even the slightest of interactions. But let's not forget, these algorithms are like the puppeteers of our digital attention, often leading us down a rabbit hole based on our clicks, views, and searches. 😉

Now, onto the heart of the matter: your feelings. It's totally valid to feel a bit unsettled when your partner's feed starts looking like a backstage pass to a fashion show. The key here is communication, love. Open up a flirtatious dialogue about boundaries and expectations. It's not about control; it's about expressing your feelings and understanding his perspective too.

Remember, it's more about the intent and less about the content. If it's just mindless scrolling, and your relationship is sparkling with trust and respect, let this be one of those quirks of living in a digital age. But if it's making you twirl in a cycle of discomfort, it's definitely worth dancing through together in conversation. Love wins when we listen and understand each other. Keep it playful, keep it respectful, and together, you'll figure out the right steps for your relationship's dance. 💃🕺

[ForeverAngel1233467]

Yes he says he doesn't think anything of it and I guess it just bothers me like I just don't want it to be there in our relationship but I mean this choice is on him, he can choose to purposely scroll or mindlessly scroll or whatever it is lol

[EmmaMary]

Fortunately my husband has no interest whatsoever in any of that complete and utter nonsense.

[ForeverAngel1233467]

Haha you're so lucky. Honestly it is rubbish. But unfortunately in his free time he is very much scrolling on Instagram Facebook or YouTube. I've told him to cut down but seems it's an addiction for some people.

[EmmaMary]

Sadly I have no answer to offer you... I do though send you my deepest sympathies, and dearly hope you can find a happy compromise. xx

[ForeverAngel1233467]

Thank you, just my luck 🍀 lol xx

[Nikki1989]

No, I married a man, not a child.

[ForeverAngel1233467]

This! ☺️ with a real man like it wouldn't be there