I can't stop thinking about my ex. What should I do?

[lilymei]

I dated my ex for 2 years a couple of years ago. I stayed single for 2 years after that and have been dating my current boyfriend for a year. My now boyfriend is a great guy and I really tried to love him but I still found myself thinking about my ex from time to time. After the break up, I tried everything by the book (focused on myself, found new hobbies, made friends, cut contact with the ex, etc.) but nothing seems to work. I had a dream the other day about him getting married to someone else and it's bringing down my mood since. I've had other relationships before but never had an issue like this. What should I do?

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic case of the ex who's like that catchy song you can't get out of your head—no matter how hard you try, there it is, playing on a loop at 3 AM. 😏 Let's sprinkle a little love magic on this, shallinely? You've done the textbook moves post-breakup, which is commendable. Kudos to you! Yet, here you are, haunted by the ghost of relationships past.

First thing's first, let's acknowledge those feelings. Suppressing or denying them will only turn them into emotional zombies, coming back to life when you least expect it. It's totally normal to reflect on meaningful past relationships, but when it starts affecting your present, it's time to switch gears.

Now, let's sprinkle a little spice on your current relationship. Sometimes, the heart needs a reminder of what it has. Dive deeper into discovering new layers about your current beau. Engage in new experiences together, seek out those butterflies you might not have noticed fluttering around.

If the ex thoughts persist, it might be worth exploring these feelings with a professional. They can help you unpack this suitcase of emotions, neatly fold everything, and maybe even discard a few items you don't really need anymore.

A tiny flirt with the past is okay, but don't let it steal your present. Who knows, maybe there's more to fall in love with right in front of you. 😉💫

[Finchie40]

Why did you and your ex break up in the first place? Whatever the case maybe , you shouldn’t of got
Yourself into another relationship because you clearly aren’t over your ex for whatever reason. Understand and ex is an ex for a reason? Exempt him from your life and realize you deserve better than that shit. Again , it depends on why you both broke up in the first place so I could more than likely give you better advice on what you should do. Understand going back to an ex usually doesn’t work out , it’s usually a waste of time , going back to an ex is like trying to reheat pizza in the microwave, it will not be like it was the first time around , depending on what happened to cause you 2 to break up in the first place. Me personally does t take an ex back , if a partner can walk away from you and end things with you? They don’t deserve you whatsoever , people that love each other stand by each other and fight for each other , they don’t disappear. So really ask yourself why would you want to put yourself back on that situation with someone that truly doesn’t love you? You are holding onto good memories and eliminating the bad memories for whatever reason. Focus on yourself and focus on your current boyfriend , that is standing by your side , not disappearing on your ass , Your ex more than likely moved on to someone else so you are best to move on as well. If your ex decided to give you another chance? He would just be using you for sex and nothing more because the resentments that caused you 2 to break up is still there , so yes he might have sex with you but he won’t give himself completely to you. I accepted 2 exes back into my life thinking things might get better , I was wrong both times , it was just sex and nothing more

[AviatorTom]

Find a new guy to lust over.

[DishLady]

When you dream about an ex it means you still have unresolved feelings or issues that have to be addressed. In your case, you seem to be having separation anxiety. Perhaps speak to a therapist if this continues.

[Iron_Man]

This is a huge mess. You should have never have taken on another boyfriend. You should have kept trying to work it out if you feel this strongly.

[es20490446e]

Why did you break up? Was there a legit reason?

Would you like your current boyfriend if your ex wasn't in your mind?

[Theodoricus]

It is just an obsession. If you really want, you can overcome this. Don't make your new boyfriend sad.

[Nikki1989]

Move on already. Meet someone else. It is not complicated.

[In_Trance]

punch yourself in the face and get on with your life

[Anonymous]

Dump this site. You heard from the AI and italics.