Is being 8 years younger than your partner a big deal? Do you think it's a big age gap?

[Anonymous]

More specifically if we're talking about a 32 year old woman dating a 40 year old man.

Is that one of those age gaps that can cause problems in long term?

[AI Opinion]

Aim to charm and disarm! Eight years might seem like a passport to the land of age-gap wonder, but in reality, it's more about where you both are in your journey. A 32-year-old woman with a 40-year-old man? Now that sounds like a plot with potential! The real deal-breaker or maker isn't the candles on the birthday cake but rather how you align on big ticket items—values, life goals, the vibe you have for fun, and handling the rollercoaster of life. If you're coasting along, understanding each other and mastering the art of compromise, then who cares about a little number crunching? Keep the communication game strong, sprinkle a little fun, and you might just have yourself a love story that defies the digits! Love knows no bounds, after all. 😘✨

[OlderAndWiser]

If you were talking about a 20 year old guy dating a 12 year old girl, obviously that would be a huge problem. But at your age, I don't think 8 years is a big difference. I am 69 years old and my wife is 60. Our biggest difference is culture (Chinese vs. American) rather than age.

[Apple1996]

It's a bit of a gap. You could struggle relating/having similar interests or having compatible sex drive especially if the man is older.

[Asker]

His sex drive is higher than mine. Maybe that will change...

[Finchie40]

No , that age gap is fine for sure

[RavVid]

It is a substantial, infrequent but far from uncommon age gap. About 10% of marriages have a ten (10) year age with the husband being older.

In the reverse the wife being older is uncommon with only 10% (from memory) in all being so across all age gaps. Girls like men to be older and men like girls to be younger.

Given most married people have dated I guess you can expect those stats to broadly pertain to dating couples

It isn't a big deal in my view. After all the dating process is to do discovery on the other as to how suitable they are. If they qualify they qualify.

[Asker]

" About 10% of marriages have a ten (10) year age with the husband being older." - I read about that and it was a surprise to me. I thought it was more uncommon.

[RavVid]

Yes more common than you would think. We tend to notice more when theual wife looks older than the husband but that can be due to her aging less well than him. But a husband looking older is just usual and he doesn't dye his hair or wear makeup.

[Flash1512]

I'm 41 and my girlfriend is 25. We have been together for almost 3 years and I can honestly say it's the best relationship I've ever had. I thought I knew what love was but boy I was wrong. I've never loved anyone as much as I do her and she is the same with me. Age is but a number and if it works it works.

[Asker]

It's good to hear that you and her found love. 😊

[TheRealPepperPotts]

I don't think that's a problem at all. I would date someone who was 40 if they were a close match to me (intellect, values, goals, fitness, hopefully doesn't look like Gollum...). :D

[Asker]

"... hopefully doesn't look like Gollum." - This comment 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Nope, Crystal and I were 8 years a part, she was age 21, and I was age 28 going on age 29 when we were together. She is my ex.

[Asker]

I'm sorry to hear that she's your ex.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thank you for your kindness, yeah, it happens to the best of us.

[Asker]

You're welcome. Yes, unfortunately it does.

[es20490446e]

The relationship success starts to decrease when the age difference is greater than ten years.

Less than that, when both people are adults, poses no disadvantage.

[Asker]

I agree with your comment about women's fertility.

[4ngelic]

at your age no. age gaps are only a problem when the younger person is underage or barely not

[Asker]

I agree with you.

[FunkyMonkee]

No, not at all. My parents were a decade apart and they were together 50 years! It would've been much longer had dad not died 18 years ago.

[Asker]

I'm sorry for your loss.

[FunkyMonkee]

Thank you.

[Asker]

No problem. May your father rest in peace.

[FunkyMonkee]

Thanks! Mom, too. She died 10 years after him.

[Asker]

I'm sorry. May your mother rest in peace too.

[FunkyMonkee]

Thanks, again.

[Asker]

You're welcome.

[luvstoned4him]

Not at all.

Its the compatibility and the feelings we share that matters most to me

[luvstoned4him]

@32 and 40 are still within range and in the generation. It should hopefully be easy for both to relate well

[Asker]

"@32 and 40 are still within range and in the generation." - That's what I used to think.

[Berethor]

It not a big age gap at those ages, otherway it a problem as she might be too old for kids.

https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/age-and-fertility

[es20490446e]

Woman's fertility starts declining rapidly at the age of 38.

At 32 fertility is still pretty high.

[Berethor]

After 30 woman's fertility starts start declining, at mid-30s the decline speeds up, at 40 women become pretty much useless, by other otherway I meant if she was 40.

[Chevy1_kb]

No it's not bad at all it's your choice nothing wrong with it not one bit

[BonzoInBitburg]

It's only a problem if you notice an age difference.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Big age gaps are happening for centuries. Even our ancestors did it. I don't see any problem with it as long as you're both compatible.

[Asker]

"Big age gaps are happening for centuries" - I know that and it still shocks me.

[Nikki1989]

Nah, once you are both well into your 20s or 30s, 8 years is nothing.

[Lucyloopy]

My age gap relationship as I’ve got older has
Only become effected as the older I get the less sex drive I have and I know he wants it
A lot like we did when we
First got together 4 years ago!
So this does cause problems 🥺

[Asker]

I'm sorry to hear that. If you're still together, he probably don't see your sex drive as a problem.

[Asker]

*doesn't see

[ProbablyClueless]

32 and 40 would not be a big deal. 22 and 30 would be.

[Asker]

"22 and 30 would be." - Yeah, in this case it would be worse.

[sage2021]

Nah! That's fine 🙂🤷🏼‍♀️

[DishLady]

Depends on how emotionally mature this person is.