Could you date a partner who isn't actively in the church?

[cth2188]

I do daily devotion, Bible study 2 a week , and attend church 2-3 times a week. The men approaching me aren't involved in church at all and questions why I'm involved in the church as much?

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Are you involved in the church?

[AI Opinion]

I totally get where you're coming from! It's like trying to mix oil and water if your spiritual vibes and daily practices aren't aligning with your partner's, especially with something as personal as your faith and religious activities. It's all about finding that sweet spot of understanding and respect between you two. If you're deep into your church-going and devotionals, and they're more like, "Church, who?" it might feel a bit like you're dancing to completely different beats. Love is a lot about harmony, so finding someone who gets your rhythm, or at least appreciates the tune you're playing, can make all the difference. Imagine both of you grooving to the spirituality beat, even if one is more into gospel and the other likes a bit of soulful hymns—you're still at the same concert, right? Keep your heart open; maybe your devotion will inspire them, or perhaps you'll find someone who's already in the choir. Keep shining your light, and you'll attract the right moths or, should I say, fellow stars. 😉

[AviatorTom]

As an agnostic, that's never been a problem for me. People can believe, or not believe, whatever they want. There are more important things in relationships.

[cth2188]

Yea and people who want a partner will choose someone that aligns with true believers anyway. - compatibility is important

[PeachyPie93]

I believe in god but I have never believed in going to church. Seems like a waste of time to sit with a bunch of usually bad people pretending to be good. Then have a guy stand and read passages out of a book and then sing songs and give donations. It is just so boring and doesn't enlighten me in the least. I used to have to go with my grandma and sister on Sundays when I stayed at her house, and I hated it.

[cth2188]

I don't follow traditional churches as I'm apostolic and with a ministry

[cth2188]

Total difference

[PeachyPie93]

Oh you are a protestant branch, even worse.

[cth2188]

No I am not I'm affiliated with a ministry so I don't know what you're talking about - we don't associate with traditional churches

[cth2188]

I don't know what a protestant branch is ministry work is doing work with the community and church not has nothing to do with religious indoctrinations

[cth2188]

Nor * or pushing religion

[cth2188]

I don't follow religions or any of that

[PeachyPie93]

Oh I just looked into it. Never heard of you guys before lol

[DishLady]

Yes bc frankly as an avid church-goer the dbag hypocrites who come and then do bad things all week aren’t for me. I’d rather have a good, honest guy who will spruce up perhaps for a major holiday and join me than a dbag who doesn’t know how to be a gentleman or a good person.

[spartan55]

Amen

[cth2188]

I met men who are Christians and not same outcome - it doesn't matter what their religious background is and when it comes to my beliefs I rather a man who is a believer and not into these pagan holidays

[cth2188]

I follow the Bible and God not man

[cth2188]

At the end of the day scriptures can't be altered or disregarded

[DishLady]

Yes, @cth2188. Same goes. I love my faith — it’s a deep part of who I am — but I use it to find people with hearts of gold to be on my path and in my life. The posers who swallow eucharist every Sunday then go out there to do/say bad things the rest of the week just aren’t for me.

[cth2188]

Number 1 Sunday isn't the Sabbath it's Saturday! I don't follow like warm Christians in traditional churches.. most Christians do what they want go against scriptures and God

[cth2188]

I'm apostolic and affiliated with a ministry

[DishLady]

Oh? Which ministry is that? DM me, let’s chat. ❤️✝️☦️

[cth2188]

Ask any traditional Christians about holidays they worship pagan holidays like Christmas and etc. I don't celebrate pagan holidays , but their pastor didn't tell them about the mark of the beast that has been here 4 years now

[cth2188]

No I don't take most traditional Christians serious and that ministry is Impact Nation

[spartan55]

I thought the Pagans were a 1% outlaw motorcycle club...

[cth2188]

They go against the Bible and live how they want yet call themselves believers they are not church because the most hight didn't instruct us have to have a building or assembly in his name with these different religions

[cth2188]

Like warm Christians exist @DishLady not are they the church

[DishLady]

@cth2188: Ah! I get you now... Thanks for clarifying. :)

[DishLady]

@spartan55: Sigh...

[HighValue]

From what I have seen IRL, most people that are very much into religion, are bad people with a bad past that suddenly start being much more involved in chirch to hide how bad of life decisions they have made, and then they try to judge others that are religious but not obsessive about it and had never made very immoral choices in life. Basically hypocrites. That has been what I have seen IRL.

[cth2188]

I don't know anything about that I don't judge people nor do I call myself a Christian - not affiliated with traditional churches

[cth2188]

I can't deal with people who don't have the same beliefs as me or walking the same path when it comes to faith

[cth2188]

I dated a guy who was an atheist and it didn't work out never again - so if he's not a believer it's a no

[Booklover_90]

You should wait to get with a man who has your shared beliefs and values. Don’t settle. 😊

[cth2188]

Agreed 💯 only open to Christian men l

[cth2188]

Christian men

[Booklover_90]

Me too. 😊❤️

[idonotlikeyou]

I don't care about his religion as long as he doesn't try to force it on me. And as long as he doesn't devote more time to it than he does to me.

[cth2188]

Yeah I couldn't deal with someone who doesn't align because religion will get brought up at some point in the relationship especially if a believer is involved with the church or religious activities. True believers are instructed not to deal with non believers

[cth2188]

Anyone going against that isn't a true believer

[idonotlikeyou]

We don't have to be together if I don't like what he decides. Life is too short to adapt to every guy I meet.

[cth2188]

I'm just saying according to the Bible and instructions to avoid those issues you're mentioning... so there's no clashing

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It’s possible to have a good inter-faith relationship, it mainly depends on how much you both respect each other’s views and how you handle that in a relationship in regards to support

[cth2188]

It would be considered unyoked

[cth2188]

It would be challenging and difficult to maintain?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Again, that depends on you and your partner. I knew a catholic woman who had 3 kids and never divorced her atheist husband. They both respected that the other had their choice of beliefs and that neither did any real harm. The kids were raised in the church, and enjoyed having the option not to go on Sunday if they felt like it. Neither said the other was wrong for believing what they did

[cth2188]

We don't do Sunday worship only Sabbath service - my kids will have a choice no compromise and no I couldn't deal with a partner who doesn't have a relationship with God

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Then that’s that. You need a partner with religious beliefs. If that’s the case, try dating within your church

[cth2188]

Thanks and yes

[Klandestina]

Just wait, I pray you find the right person for you. One that shares same values and beliefs as you. Don't hurry and settle for some dork who questions why you're involved in the church as much. It's your life, your values. Pretty sure they wouldn't question another girl why you're involved with the clubbing so much.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Let me ask you this: How are you meeting these men who are non-believers and approaching you? Are you dating online or something?

[cth2188]

Why does it matter how I'm meeting them - I don't online date, but I'm meeting them in private groups

[TheRealPepperPotts]

@cth2188 I asked because you might be looking in the wrong places. Have you been a Christian long? This just helps me to understand where you are coming from and gives me a bit of context. Your question is about dating a partner who isn't in the church, and technically you are meeting eligible singles outside of that. I also am curious if a man who did attend church and was a Christian would meet up to what you believe, because I suspect some of the things you believe are more rigid than mainstream Evangelicalism. Also, are you a single mother and why?

[cth2188]

I just told you I don't do dating apps and ATP I'm not interested in dating or relationships, but I do meet men in these private servers and groups I'm in to meet like minded people with my interests. The dating pool is a mess and I will remain single / celibate

[cth2188]

No, I'm not interested in weeding in the dating market at this time

[cth2188]

I am divorced and was previously married nor have dated since that.. further more I'm in a ministry and I'm apostolic... I don't do traditional churches nor deal with like warm Christians

[cth2188]

No, I don't want anyone to set me up.. just confused why people disregard the Bible and God and expect others to follow them in their will of disobedience and WICKEDNESS

[TheRealPepperPotts]

cth2188 I misunderstood, then. When you said "I don't online date" I took it to mean you just aren't doing that right now. If you are not interested in dating or relationships, why are you asking the question about dating someone not in the church?

[Staximus]

Sounds like you need to get a life outside of church. I personally would not date or marry a woman who goes to church for any reason besides weddings, funerals, charity benefits, pancake breakfasts, or to drive her grandma there.

[cth2188]

I don't date non believers sorry - I'm a believer in Christ and will only deal with a partner who has a relationship with Christ. Even scripture says not to align with the unbelievers or the unyoked. Most of the men approaching me don't go to church or have a relationship with Jesus Christ red flag ❌❌❌

[cth2188]

You will not be leading me anywhere if you can't submit to God or have a relationship with him

[Staximus]

I'm not submitting to an imaginary being

[Staximus]

Dumbest thing ever

[cth2188]

Well then find an atheist or non believer woman - men shouldn't get upset when religious beliefs are mentioned.. any man approaching me will get asked about faith and God

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't have anything to do with anyone remotely religious. I can't tolerate that level of weakness in a person.

[cth2188]

I couldn't deal with someone who doesn't have a relationship with God- I'm sorry

[Juxtapose]

Haha anon you're hardcore straight up!

[cth2188]

No, anonymous sounds atheist or a non believer - no thanks !

[Anonymous]

I’d prefer they don’t go to church. I think most devoted church-going types tend to be very stuck in their ways, judgey and, hateful.

[exitseven]

Yes, since I am not ether

[Juxtapose]

I am atheist and don't care either way.

[cth2188]

Couldn't date a non believer sorry tried that years ago and it didn't work until I referenced back to scriptures

[cth2188]

No thanks

[NathanDavis]

I'm agnostic

[cth2188]

Couldn't date a non believer

[NathanDavis]

I would be more than okay with that

[CubaPirate]

Absolutely 💯

[Pterodon]

Yes and I have

[eagle1951]

yeah