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That sounds like a nightmare. You should probably think about acutally getting legally divorced here soon if your kids are older
A couple of things spring to my mind. Not saying I'm right. But is my initial opinions.
Firstly... yes I was unhappy and falling out of love with my husband after our first child was born. I held on 3 years 'for sake of our child'. Sometimes I'd think maybe it was getting better or would. But those moments never lasted.
I was so so happy when we broke up. And even my daughter was happier despite also sad for her dad. There's much longer parts to this. But fir your question this answers one part.
Secondly everyone deserves to be loved and staying for the kids is not healthy. As long as you maintain being and active, supportive and present dad in their lives separating will do both your and your wife good.
Thirdly... I doubt any genuine woman looking for a genuine relationship is going to take you seriously when she hears your story. So many "cheaters" also tell similar tales of "we are not together. We don't even have sex" but are lying. Even if you are not. A guy living with another woman whom he was intimate with let alone mother of his children will be a HUGE red flag to any decent woman. Hence you will not attract a good woman whilst still having a foot in the door of your old life.
Thirdly.. having children can put a lot of women off. Just as it can put a man off. Especially if they are quite young still and in your age group. I went to a speed date thing yesterday for ages 40 to 55 and this is what all the women were saying. At our age our kids are pretty much teens or adults and we have more freedom so we want a man with same. And if you go for younger women well it's likely they want a man to have a family with who's time and resources can go to her and not family no1. Just an observation. And it's not that everyone feels like this. Just putting it out there that finding sexual partners I'd easier. Finding love and commitment is not. But don't let that make you stay in an unhappy non-relationship. Just be prepared that you should be thinking how to support yourself and kids separate from your wife whilst also working on building a happier life for yourself and healing before trying to jump into another relationship.
I'm one... here because of kids mainly, that and the wife works and pays for everything. I'm basically eye candy and I spend my days lifting weights, and playing video games... and of course, spending time with my kids. I still fuck the wife because sometimes I just need a cum dumpster. I just pretend she's someone else most of the time... like a black chick or a midget...
Don't know where I was going with that rant, but I bet you get the point. I cheat all the time and it's not a big deal if I get caught. "But D_Bone, why don't you work and just move on?" Did I not point out I don't have to work?
Let me show you my sleeping room and gym...
That's 2 rooms where I keep to myself... I also have the music studio with all the guitars and a garage with guns and cars... yeah long guns too for the anti-gun fags. Why would I leave this when I don't lift a finger to make it happen? Yeah, I'd rather be happier somewhere else, but I have my own space and I know the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
I'm just a man that refuses to work... but I'm fucking sexy and use it to my advantage. I worked until I was almost 27 and gave that the fuck up. Just get sexy and make bitches pay for everything. It's time for us men to have the soft guy era... Drizzle drizzle mother fuckers. Make bitches pay for everything and do all the work.
I forgot to mention my condo in Japan... which you've probably seen if you've seen me post before, but right now I'm with the big tiddied wife, not the other one. Make these bitches pay... that's my advice.
From many different perspectives, children can benefit if parents get along and don't divorce too early. However, it is important to remember that children learn patterns from those closest to them, so if the parents do not enjoy their closeness, that is the kind of relationship model they will pass on to their children. Whatever is decided must be done thoughtfully and without unnecessary emotions.
My ex wife and I decided to divorce when the kids moved out. It made things civil and we started to get along better. Once I moved out and the divorce was final I started dating again. I wouldn't recommend dating before that. You need to live a little, take some vacations and get yourself on good financial footing. There's no rush, it's easier to date after 50 and you've got no baggage and your shit is together
I’m exactly in your same situation. I’m sorry you’re going through that. Well, I’m actually a it behind you. I’m technically separated, we’ve tried to work things out for too many years and it’s never worked so I decided to stop trying and built a wall around me. She’s also very selfish and wants things her way. But we’re together for the kids and because weirdly she says she wants to make it work but after trying too many times I know it’s not going to work.
I haven’t had any relationship or seek one. I’ve had a couple of flings but those are not fulfilling in the long term. So I’m also trapped just waiting for the kids to be older so I can leave. Good luck man!a great one? yes, of course... no reason to break it, lol
I've only been the kid in that fucking shit. Don't DO IT!!
No, that is worse for the kids
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Oh, the twists and turns of the heart's journey! 🌪️💔 I'm here to sprinkle a little wisdom on that tough spot you're in. Staying together "for the kids" is a classic move, but oh boy, does it come with its own set of challenges. It sounds like you've got a big heart and a lot of love to give, but you're stuck in Relationship Limbo. Not the best dance floor, is it?
First off, big kudos for being upfront with the ladies you meet. Honesty is the sexiest trait, after all. 🌟 But diving into new waters while still tied to the dock... that’s tricky, my friend. Love-bombing yourself into a new romance while the ink on the current chapter hasn't dried yet might just lead to more ghosting than Casper the Friendly Ghost's annual reunion.
The key? Close one book before you open another. It's not just about legalities; it's about emotionally freeing yourself from a relationship that's running on fumes. You crave that connection, partnership, and shared journey, which is totally valid! But ensure your heart is truly ready to embark on that adventure. 🚀
Navigating this relationship maze requires patience, self-reflection, and maybe a map drawn by a professional relationship coach (*winks*). Remember, transitioning from a full-time partner to a co-parenting superstar can be smoother with open, honest communication and perhaps a pinch of external guidance.
Now, onto your quest for love: Focus on rediscovering who you are outside of your current situation. What makes Brad, well, Brad? Engage in activities that elevate your spirit, meet new people with no expectations other than enjoying the moment, and let authenticity be your compass. 🧭
In essence, it’s about ensuring your own emotional cupboard is stocked up with self-love and clarity before inviting someone else to dine with you. The kind of love that builds empires, parts seas, and—yes—does the dishes together, is out there waiting for you. 🏰💞 Just ensure you’re truly free, in every sense, to meet it with open arms and an open heart.