I think he is cheating in me?

[Anonymous]

I don't have anything based on it or any proof, but I just have a feeling that he is cheating on me not sure why
Whenever he hangs up the phone or don't answer my calls I just think he is talking to someone else.

I have never ever been paranoid or overthinking like this. In any of my relationships I always let it be as it is and never doubt or suspect anything except this time I Don't know why.

He once asked as a joke if he talks to another girl would he be a cheater and i told him if you ever wanna do that , its okay just let me know and we will have a clean break up a peaceful break up where no one hurts the other. And he said that there is no way he would think about anyone else while he has me in his life

I just can't get over that feeling or be relaxed I can't have a full trust in him and i can't talk to him about it i have nothing to explain to him why i have such feeling

I do like him and love him a lot

[Finchie40]

The fact that he doesn’t answer your calls or send ya text is a Red Flag that he possibly might be up to No good , Does he not respond in a reasonable amount of time? Does he make excuses for not calling you back right away? If your gut instincts are warning you that something might be off , than more than likely your gut is telling you something is off , it’s normal to feel this way , if things aren’t lining up like they use to , My advice is don’t accuse him of cheating on you , because once a cheater knows you are on to them , they will cover their tracks even more , making it harder for you to bust them , you are best to start distancing yourself from him and see how long it takes for him to reach out to you , also do not have sex with him , because if he is cheating on you , you are putting yourself at risk of possibly catching something from him. Just makes
excuses to him like he is making excuses to you but as you are doing that to him? investigate and try to bust him in the act. Without him knowing you are on to him. The thing is we can’t stop someone from cheating on us , if someone is going to cheat they are going to cheat , so the best thing to do is not let them know you are on to them and act like everything is fine , the same time you are focusing on yourself and distancing yourself from him. If he truly loves you and cares about you , he will come to you and ask what’s wrong , just say nothing , I been focusing on myself and doing my thing. If he gets upset and mad at you? He is clearly being up to no good and trying to play a victim. Don’t fall for that shit

[Asker]

He does answer in reasonable time. And each time i distance myself he comes back checking and caring more in like a day. But yet i can't help yo think that for example if he calls me and said he needs to go finish his work i just feel he is lying and going to call sb else

[Finchie40]

Well if he is reaching back out to you in a reasonable amount of time? Than he more than likely isn’t being up to no good , what gives you the impression that he is? What other things does he do to make you feel like he is up to something? Next time he says he is getting back to work , you should surprise him at work with some food or something to see if he is actually at work. I am just trying to help ya out on how you can find out the truth , without making him feel you don’t trust him. It’s normal to feel somewhat insecure in a relationship with someone , it pretty much happens to everyone , but the thing is you will never feel happy or content with someone , if you constantly feel they are being on to no good. So the best thing to do is focus on yourself and still treat him the same way you been treating him , but focus on yourself at the same time , if he wants to cheat on you? That’s something he has to live with knowing he is a POS , so whether he is cheating on you or not? that’s something only you can figure out , If it sounds like he Is constantly making excuses to not call you or see you than he is more than likely up to something. When a guy really Likes a girl , he makes her his priority , meaning he wants to see her and talk to her as much as possible , he will pretty much include her in pretty much everything he does , because he wants her by his side , if it seems he is prioritizing other things or people over you on a consistent basis? Than he is more than likely being up to no good , and just likes the convenience of you , and that’s when you should draw the line and not tolerate that shit if you feel like you are a convenience to him. Never be a convenience to anyone , whether they are cheating or not , they still aren’t giving what they want to receive in return and that’s when you can make the decision to walk away from them. Why I said focus on yourself if you feel that way. When a girl starts making me feel like I am a convenience to

[Finchie40]

Her I start treating her the same way she treats me , by playing her game the same way she is playing me , by distancing myself from her , By doing that? it makes them feel that maybe you are being up to no good and if they love you and want to be with you? they will come running to you if they truly care about you , if they don’t? That’s your answer to move on from them.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the mysterious gut feeling! It whispers doubts into your ear, and here you are, tangled in thoughts of love and possible betrayal. Let's unravel this intricate knot with a dash of insight and a sprinkle of humor. 😉

First off, it's essential to recognize that feelings, especially intuitive ones, shouldn't be ignored. They are like the sixth sense in the realm of love and relationships! However, becoming Sherlock Holmes without any clues might just leave you running in circles. In relationships, communication is as crucial as love itself. It might feel like you're about to jump without a parachute, but talking to him about your feelings can actually be quite liberating.

Remember, it's not about accusing him; it's about expressing your feelings. Say something like, "I've been feeling a bit uneasy lately, and I can't quite put my finger on why. It's probably just me being a bit silly, but I just wanted to talk about it." This approach is non-confrontational and opens up a space for honest communication.

Also, reflect on why you're feeling this way. Has there been a change in behavior, or is it the joke that set off your alarms? Sometimes, past experiences or insecurities can paint our perspectives without us realizing it.

Love is a dance, and trust is the rhythm. If the music feels off, it might be time to tune in together and find your melody again. Stay confident, and remember, in matters of the heart, honesty and openness always lead the way. Sending you positive vibes and hoping you two find your rhythm again! 💕

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's definitely a tough situation. Sometimes our gut feelings can pick up on subtle things even if our logical brain hasn't figured it out yet. A few thoughts:

- Trust your instincts - if something feels off, there's usually a reason even if you can't pinpoint it. Our intuition evolves to sense danger/dishonesty.

- His behavior of not answering calls/hanging up quickly could be innocent, but also lends to suspicion if he's normally very responsive. Is he being shady about his phone?

- That joke he made about cheating is a red flag. Why even plant that seed of doubt in your head?

- Lack of transparency builds lack of trust over time.

I know confronting without proof is scary. If it was me, I might subtly snoop - like check his phone when he's in the shower or leave unlocked around you. Not the best option but could give peace of mind or answers.

Or have an honest talk - say the not answering makes you nervous, you want to feel secure, and his joke comment lingers - ask him to reassure you or your doubts may grow. See how he reacts. A loyal guy would want you feeling loved, not paranoid.

Trust is so important. If he can't make you feel secure again, it may not be the relationship for you. You deserve to feel cared for freely

[Asker]

He is not shady about his phone at all
He even give it to me sometimes when listening to music and he is driving and once he was texting sb and i turned away as i don't want him to think i have doubts and he said why did you turn away you van see whatever you want

The joke about cheating i know he made it once before when we started dating to see if i get jealous but not sure why he did it again
But yes i wanna be secure not paranoid and i will try to talk to him and explain that this makes me need see what he respond

Thank you

[Oliverlogan263]

Okay, it sounds like from what you're saying that he isn't really acting that shady with his phone or hiding things from you. That's definitely a good sign.

If he's letting you use it and everything, he doesn't seem too worried about you seeing what's on there. And the fact that he offered for you to look at his messages before shows he's not trying to hide anything from you specifically.

The joke about cheating was kinda weird that he brought it up again, I'll give you that. But some guys can be dumb and not realize saying things like that would make their girl worried, you know?

Since you've been feeling off lately, an honest conversation is probably the best bet here. Just be straightforward that you've been feeling a little paranoid and need some reassurance from him. As long as you go into it from a place of caring about each other and not accusation, I'm sure everything will be fine.

He seems like he's been open with you so far, so I bet he'll understand where you're coming from. Hopefully getting everything out in the open will help you stop worrying so much. Try to go into it positive and trusting that he'll give you honestly. It'll all work out, I'm sure of it! Let me know how it goes.

[IslaTheWitch]

you feel insecure, and it has nothing to do with him, as all insecurities always start in us... in such situations, always focus on facts, not your thoughts or feelings

also, you both should take responsibility for the relationship... you could propose something new...

[DishLady]

Talk to him about it -- no jokes, just a plain and simple conversation -- and ask him if he's chosen to cheat.

[In_Trance]

Ridiculous

[jahaims]

Don't be with someone you don't trust

[DreamLife7]

He doesn't love you back boo

[Anonymous]

Yes he is,