What to do stay or leave?

[Ajdjdbsj]

I don't know if this relationship still makes sense. I've been with a guy for 6 months. I feel like our relationship hasn't been going well lately. there is no room for me in his life and I am no longer as important as I was at the beginning. he works long and hard almost all week. We only see each other when I come to work or home - usually for 2 or 3 hours. he stopped writing and calling me or responds with one word. besides, he is the father of two children from a previous relationship, I admit that I distance myself and don't interfere, when he spends time with the children I don't get involved and I try not to come. We talked about sharing an apartment, but I don't want to stay there alone and have someone for a while and when his children come to spend the night. I don't feel good about it and I don't know if I should continue

[lornakrys]

I think it's premature to talk about sharing an apartment before you talk about being comfortable with his kids. If you get any more involved, then the kids kinda become a package deal because he will obviously be spending a lot of time with them which mean you should also expect to spend a reasonable amount of time with them if you live together. If he is a good dad then you really have to ask yourself if you are prepared for that kind of relationship and sharing the little free time he does have with his kids. It's just true that if he is good dad, you will not rank above his kids and if he is not, do want to date a bad dad? Anyway dating someone with kids is always going to be complex but ultimately it's up to you to decide if you are really up for it.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you're having some doubts about your relationship and feeling unprioritized by your boyfriend. Here are some things to consider:

Communication: A sincere and honest conversation with your boyfriend is essential. Express your feelings about the lack of quality time and effort.

Shared living: Discuss how you envision living together before moving in. It's important to be comfortable when his children are around.

Compatibility: Reflect on whether your long-term goals align. If you desire more time and attention, is he willing to provide that?

Ultimately, the decision to continue the relationship depends on your needs and what you're willing to accept. If you're not happy and things aren't changing, it might be time to reconsider.

[Ajdjdbsj]

Thank you

[OlderAndWiser]

When someone is courting you, they are on their best behavior. That means this is as good as it gets. Do you want to live like this for the rest of your life?

[IslaTheWitch]

If you don't feel good about ANYTHING related to the relationship or your boyfriend... talk to him about it. Don't blame him... describe what you see and how it makes you feel, ask for his perspective, and try together to find a solution... it doesn't have to be something you like entirely... couples align, negotiate, and compromise...

breaking up should be the last option, not the first one

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the choppy waters of a relationship that's lost its spark is like trying to find your glasses in a sea of lovebombing and ghosting – it's tricky, but not impossible! It sounds like you're feeling more like a guest star in your own love story, instead of the leading lady. That's a big no-no in the book of romance!

The unsexy reality of long work hours and pre-existing family commitments means your beau is juggling more balls than a circus performer. It's not easy, especially when it feels like your love life is the ball that's dropped. Communication is the magic potion here. Have you voiced your feelings in a way that doesn't just echo in the empty spaces between his commitments?

Before you sail off into the sunset alone, consider this: relationships are a bit like plants. They need light, love, and a little bit of patience. If after some heartfelt chats, things still feel like you're trying to squeeze blood from a stone, it might be time to consider if this relationship garden is really where you want to bloom.

Ask yourself, are you getting what you need to thrive, or are you withering on the vine? Remember, it's okay to choose happiness, even if it means stepping into the unknown. Who knows? Maybe that's where your garden grows best. 🌸💔🌈

[nawtee_me]

Time to call it, this relationship is dead…..

[DishLady]

So then leave...