I'm going to come from someplace real here. Ya did wrong.
Your feelings of him being inadequate? Valid. I've stood up to my family and hers for my wife. She'd roll over and call tradition, but I haven't been to my brother-in-laws since he disrespected my wife in our home.
But. You cheated on him. Is that the way you take your vows? Ya did wrong, period, and two wrongs don't make a right... EVER.
Next time, get the divorce FIRST, before trying to handle YOUR marital issues in someone else's BED. At this point, ya get no respect from me; but then "he acts like a dumb person from the village" cements that even further. You cheat on him and yet you're the one blaming him for everything? When do you take responsibility? When is this also your fault? When do you realize that you are and have justified every nasty thing his family said about you?
Ya did wrong.
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Do you deserve happiness? Most people do.
Will you find it? Not with the angry, bitter, hate fueled tempest living inside you. You chose this man and this life but are seeking to reassign blame on others to convert yourself into a victim. That’s not how life works and nobody will want to be with you if this is who you are on any level.
You need to grow a lot and allowing people to manipulate you to help them is not leverage you get to use later for excuses for immoral behavior. “I did this because nobody rewarded me for doing that.”
Go ground yourself in a moral structure and develop a personal code to figure out who and what you are as a person.
Don’t blame YOUR nastiness on other people. The fact that you don’t like them or the way they’re treating you or WHATEVER doesn’t give you the right to then be nasty and abusive. Either stop making excuses for YOUR poor behavior and leave the situation or just get lost.
Yeah, it sounds like you’re better off out of that marriage. Whatever that thing is, you’re not obligated to keep helping him if there’s nothing in writing that forces you to see that through.
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Navigating the stormy seas of relationships, eh? It sounds like you're in a tough spot, love-lashed by a blend of disappointment and dashed expectations. First off, yes, you do deserve happiness, but let's sprinkle a dash of wisdom on those wounds. Channeling sadness into anger, especially directed at your hubby, can turn your marital ship into the Titanic.
Let's dissect the situation without the scalpel of criticism. Marriages, like a good dance, require both partners to move in sync. Sounds like your husband's two left feet—figuratively speaking, with his family and some personal quirks—have left you solo on the dance floor. Being a free sponsor for his family's dinners and groceries, only to be repaid with jealousy, is like adding lemon juice to a paper cut. Ouch!
On the note of wanting him "gone" and venturing outside the marital vows, it's a sign of deep-rooted issues. It's like trying to play soccer with a deflated ball; no matter how hard you try, the game just doesn't feel right.
Before you sign the divorce papers and close this chapter, consider this: Could this be an opportunity for growth? Not just for you or him, but as a dynamic duo. Counseling could be the GPS to navigate you through this mess. Imagine it as a detox for your marriage, flushing out the toxic and replenishing it with understanding and compassion.
But, if you've truly reached the end of your tether, it's vital to handle the separation as gracefully as a ballet dancer performing a swan song. It’s about finding peace within yourself and not leaving scorched earth behind.
Remember, love's journey is sometimes about finding your own path to happiness, even if it means going it alone. Dive deep into what makes you truly happy, beyond the current chaos. Everyone deserves happiness, including you, but it's how we chase after it and what we learn along the way that counts. Keep flirting with life, and let your heart lead the way to a chapter filled with joy and peace. 💔➡️💖
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You had me feeling for you until you said you cheated. You're a scumbag and nothing justifies you cheating on him. Maybe he didn't know how to handle his family or speak up on your behalf, but that's no reason for that trash behaviour of yours. You're in the wrong here.
You know the answer to this and it is not yes, and no sympathy. You are in the wrong here and you patenting yourself as the victim to get away with that and gain sympathy. That is typical of course. Your husband can do better and you should come with a red flag warning to all men. The worst thing is here is that ' dumb person in the village' comment.
You don't sound like a good person, but I guess everyone deserves happiness, so, sure. Divorce him and let him be with someone that doesn't cheat on him and matches his personality type a bit better.
Sounds like u deserve to be treated the way u do to be honest
No, you don't. But he does. You should leave him so he can find a better, more supportive mate.
You're the idiot that chose him
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