Do you think it's wrong to check out the other gender when you're in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

The world famous meme haha

[Maebo44]

No, I dont care. If it’s only looking it’s fine.
If I see my husband checking someone I just say: ‘I saw you looking!’ and we laugh about it. He always denies but he is a bad liar haha

I check people too and he doesn’t care about it as well.

If you can trust eachother, your relationship is healthy and you respect eachother, then I think checking someone once in a while should not be a threat or be disrespectful. We have all checked out people sometime (;

[Gabriella2005]

No it’s window shopping. I check people out regardless of genders. And attractiveness. Where they are gorgeous or a train wreck.

[Asker]

Window shopping lol. Quite a way of expressing haha..

[AI Opinion]

Aiming to sprinkle a little bit of my relationship wisdom here! 😄 Let's chat about wandering eyes in relationships. It's all about balance, honestly. Checking someone out occasionally? It’s human nature to notice beauty and attraction around us. The important part is what happens next. It becomes a red flag parade when it shifts from a passing glance to actively pursuing or fantasizing about another person. Like my mom always said about dessert, "Appreciating doesn't mean eating." Just keep things respectful towards your partner, and don't let those glances turn into stares. Remember, it's the intention and action that follows that glance that truly counts. Keep the lovebombing for your significant other, not your eye candy! 😉

[paledreams]

Brad delivering the goods as usual - figure of speech 💬🤔😀

[Apple1996]

It's weird to check out someone even when single. Keep your eyes to yourself unless you have the other persons consent to be looking at them

[Joshydavid25]

🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️

[Apple1996]

@Joshydavid25 staring at people is super creepy

[Joshydavid25]

Yeah staring, but they were talking about simply checking someone out.. You know getting a good quick glance at them to profile and then looking away.. I'm sure you've probably checked plenty of people out..

[Apple1996]

@Joshydavid25 not something that I do

[Joshydavid25]

😏😏😏... Okay..

[AviatorTom]

It's not wrong to look, just don't do.

[Lliam]

Yes. But not being a dick about it like the guy in that meme.

My wife notices hot actors on film and has her crushes. And I will occasionally see an actress and say "She's really pretty."

I definitely notice particularly outstanding specimens when the two two of us are out and about. My wife knows that I love the female form. I don't ogle or anything, but we might see a gal with big tits and cleavage, or a super shapely ass in a tight outfit. I'll look at my wife wide eyed and she looks back at me with amusement. Sometimes she'll even call my attention to a pair of bulging tits with cleavage on display.

We used to go the Venice Beach in SoCal. If a voluptuous gal in a tiny bikini was roller skating/blading towards us on the bike path, we would both watch as she approached, then turn to watch her pass and sashay away.

One time we were on a ferry in San Francisco Bay and a sail boat passed very near. Two girls on the boat raised their tops to flash our boat. My wife grabbed my arm and pointed so that I wouldn't miss it.

One time, we went to a frozen yogurt shop at a lake. Four young people, maybe age 18 or 20, were in line ahead of us. The girl right ahead of us was wearing a beach top that only covered the very top of her ass. She must have been wearing a thong because it looked like her particularly plump, white ass was bare naked. My wife and I both looked at each other like "Dang!" Then I reached out and gestured like I was grabbing a handful of that fat, squeezable goodness. Nobody else noticed. We both laughed silently.

I've taken photos of paintings and sculptures of nude women when we were in art galleries.

She knows I look at photos and sometimes watch porn, too. She's not into porn but doesn't mind that I do, as long as I give her all the attention she desires.

I appreciate the sight of the feminine form just as I do particularly gorgeous sunsets, flowers, landscapes, cute puppies or beautiful art. Just because it's pleasurable doesn't mean that I have to own it.

And my wife knows that I adore her most of all. She's glad that I like the female body because that's why I love hers. She has everything. She loves when I ogle and squeeze her. She's mine. I want no one else.

[HawkPerception]

In front of your partner it's better to hold back on the looks or at the very least not be obvious, just out of respect for them. But the truth is we don't lose our attraction to the opposite sex just because we're in a relationship. It's normal to look.

[meepmeeperton]

I think it is wrong, you should respect your partner and not have wandering eyes. There are cases where it’s obvious though, like where me and my girlfriend were talking to a girl at a party who clearly had a big chest with cleavage out. We kinda glanced at each other and smirked. You don’t even need to have wandering eyes to see that, just eyes at all.

[northerngal]

It can be done respectfully. Actually if you are obviously holding back that can be worse! lol ...

[Asker]

Lol! I see what you mean haha

[blueonblack22]

The old saying is “thoughts become things”. So one thing can lead to another. You notice someone > you talk to them > you talk to them more and they are in your orbit > you have a moment of anger at your partner and/or lustful thoughts about the person > you coincidentally run into them again > temptation overrides better judgment.

It’s human to notice other people. Question is can you control your thoughts?

[Purpleronnie]

I couldn’t care less if my girl “looks” at other men , I’m certainly very well aware of what she finds attractive eye candy. She just laughs when she catches me looking or says something like “even I would”. We trust each other in this area completely.

[Hollyjjm]

If it’s subtle and you don’t make it obvious to your partner, yes.

if your partner and/or the person you’re checking out can tell, its disrespectful to your partner.
if a man I’m dating is making other women think he’s interested in them, I’m out. That’s not the type of man I want. That behaviour is embarrassing to and can cause your partner to feel insecure in the relationship

[Asker]

Couldn't agree more

[FunkyMonkee]

No, I did it all the time with my fiance and she knew I wasn't looking for a replacement for her and was just admiring the beautiful works of art being presented and didn't mind at all. At least I stayed 100% loyal to her! More than I can say for her!!

[Chrissydamusicgirl]

Check out it doesn’t matter to me. Just don’t go violating trust and experimenting behind her back. If you wanna do that you should communicate. If you don’t wanna communicate then don’t experiment until situations change

[MrOracle]

No. Everyone looks sometimes, and as long as you don't do it like a complete ass, it's not a big deal.

Actually pursuing conversation/contact with other people is where you have a real problem. Just looking isn't going to hurt anyone.

[EmmaMary]

I guess anyone can "window shop" providing you don't go in and make a "purchase!".

[Asker]

Purchase! 😂😂😂

[bannacookies]

No. Not wrong, but don't be all googly-oogly eyes over them, ya know? Like, in an admiration sort of way more than a stalker way, haha.

[Asker]

Admiration of her curves and assets is okay? lol

[bannacookies]

You're in a relationship, not dead or blind, lol. You cannot turn off the acknowledgement if someone is attractive or not. It's how you act on it (not acting on it would be preferred) is what is what matters.

[nastyb]

Any man who doesn't care about what his partner thinks about this, the relationship won't last. Or if it does last, i promise, it will be an abusive or subpar relationship. Relationship is all about respect and consideration

[Crazyced]

I feel like there's a general consensus on what's considered normal eyeing of other people. I think a lot of people who have a rigid opinion on this would have their hypocrisy revealed rather quickly if we put eye trackers on them.

[GeminiDiamond]

I've checked out the opposite gender, and I've watched him do the same. If I got mad, or he got mad everytime, so much drama.

[Anonymous]

Ya, I think it's rude. If your with someone you should pay attention to them and not anyone else. I mean just ask yourself, would you want your partner checking out other people? Probably not. You'd probably get a bit jealous

[PeachyPie93]

Only if you do it while you are with your partner, I think that is disgusting. On your own time I don't care because we all look.

[JustinTheGreat]

we all look a little bit. You’re gonna find other people attractive even while in a relationship. But if you’re checking out people in front of your partner, that’s super disrespectful.