1. Not being Christian. (In which many other general life values are counted).
2. Not wanting children.
3. Materialistic goals in life.
4. "Dislikes" animals. I've heard a few women say this, and even though it isn't clear exactly what they mean, I am an animal lover and I do not trust those who openly say they "dislike" them. I genuienly don't believe such types to be decent people.
5. Loathes exercise/keeping a healthy and fit lifestyle. No couch potatos. I want her in the gym with me. Which includes after birthing children, some women let themselves go completely afterwards. While I realise it's easier said than done to stay active, sometimes especially after, I'll support her remaining so and want someone open to that.
6. Someone who equates love with gifts/expensive presents. "If you really loved me you'd get me that X trinket".
7. Someone without a sex drive or who views sex as a chore or only as an obligation to indulge me in ocassionally and reluctantly. That's never going to be my marriage, and I want my sex life to be mutually passionate and intentional.
8. As a continuation, a woman who tries to control me with sex. One, that's not gonna happen, 2. that's not a foundation for any functional and healthy marriage.
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* Cheating
* Non-Exclusivity
* Manipulative Behavior
* Abusive Behavior
* Disrespectful Behavior
* Lack Of Loyalty
* Lack Of Commitment
* Lack Of Effort
* Lack Of Cooperation
* Lack Of A Growth Mindset
- Cheating or finding out he has a history of cheating.
- Lying, I won't lie to him, and lying to me will get him booted.
- Smoking & Drugs
- Excessive Drinking to the point of getting drunk
- Full body tattoos, tattoos on their face (a few are okay, but having them cover your whole body is too much for me.)
- Ear gauges, or lots of piercings
I am sure there are probably more, but I am tired and can't think of any more at the moment.
i have a few.
- dishonesty
- cheating
- different values and beliefs
- no effort
omg i think that's it 😭 for now, im too tired to think : (
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1, Using drugs or smoke (also vapes)
2, Tattoo's & piercings
3, Rude/bad bahaviour against others/strangers
4, Lack of communication
5, Non-Exclusivity
6, No loyalty
7, Bad mindset
8, Lack of effort
9, Cheating (history as well)
10, Bad friends (this almost always shows a bad side of the person itself)
11, politics behaviour (I truly hate it when people are so excessive when it comes to politics or beliefs)
12, The way they talk about their friends or familly behind their back.
13, different sleep schedule (this was a thing with my ex, she slept during the day and was awake from 6PM till 5AM)
14, Social media addiction or basing the perfect life on tiktoks
15, no job or school
My ex was like this with 1, 4, 7, 10, 12, 13, 14 and 15. Smoked a lot, used drugs such as weed and (party-) pills, had no job and never finished school (she actually now goes back to school after we broke up), had bad friends who drank a lot and were stoned almost daily, communication was terrible and sometimes she let things bottle up till I got random message about it in the night (which even was one of the reasons we broke up), had a complete different sleepschedule than me so communication was always for only some hours before I slept and was always talking negatively about her parents and herself.
We broke up because she watched loads of romance/love tiktoks showing the âperfect lifeâ and couldn't accept the fact that I was studying and worked in the weekends to earn money. Then that bottled up in her mind a lot, so yeah I couldnât be the perfect boyfriend from those romance tiktoks and she broke up by a WhatsApp message because of that.Conservative views.
If they think I should filter myself.
Wanting a child, I've got one life and I ain't spending my youth on a child and who knows how they will turn out. Adoption of a kid when I am 40ish sure that could be fine.
Cheating.
Other than that not much else, other things are more red flags but not necessarily dealbreakers.
Cheating is obviously one or if I find out they have a history of it
They don't care or stopped caring about their appearance once in the relationship
They don't workout or stopped working out once in the relationship
Being rude, insulting, and condescending
Does not communicate what is on their mind. I'm a very open person and I expect the same from my partner
Lots of piercings. Tasteful dangling earrings (not spacers or cartilage piercings) are fine, everything else is too much. I especially hate nose ox rings
Too many tattoos. A tattoo here and there can be aesthetic and/or have a deep meaning to the girl, but when you're covered in sleeves or tats on your face or neck, it's a no from me
They want sex after marriage. I'm not a nymphomaniac by any means, but I do like to be physically intimate with my partner and would like to try living with them before marriage
Expect you to pay for everything and not help around the housePerhaps a woman who has a DDLG fetish might be a deal-breaker for me. I am not sure. It depends on the person. I don't want to kink shame or limit my options. Sometimes in life, you have to work with what you got.
Like most people, there are many:
1) lack of consideration for others. This covers a lot.
2) sexual incompatibility
3) intellectual incompatibility
4) incompatible values
5) smoking, excessive drinkingselfishness... and hatred/resentment
you know, the sexist, the racist, the classist... all those -ists and -phobesheavy smokers as well, I don't really think I could do that, lol- Always lying or keeping many secrets
- Cheating
- Drugs
- Abuse
Will not eat me out/let me sit on their face and will not rub/kiss my feet/suck my toes. I need this daily. Lmao. I just need constant sexual attention, I can deal with most anything else.
If she hops on another manâs dick, she might as well hop out of my life
My number one requirement in a relationship and dating period is that we must be able to laugh easily together. Having a similar sense of humor is important to me.
Hiding the TV remote or leaving the toilet seat down.
Read most of the comments from men on here, and you will see most of the dealbreakers in full display. Men who think they can control and insecurity.
Not giving it up on the first date... like grow up sheesh.
Any signs of aggression or attempts to be physical or damage shared property in anger
Wordly , Not living christian standers. Not taking God seriously.
Infidelity. Everything else can be worked through but that shatters trust
Smoking, drinking to excess (getting drunk) drugs.
I guess I'll just sum it up as not having similar morals and values, heavily smoking, partying animal.. Everything else can be worked out..
Cheating, turning into a feminist, not cooking and doing the house chores...
These are the basic deal breakers for me!
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