What are some examples of narcissistic behavior in a relationship?

[black]

What is a narcissistic relationship pattern? How do you realize it in a relationship? Give me some tips...

[jewel]

Dealing with a narcissist in a relationship can be quite the emotional roller coaster. Narcissistic behavior often makes a relationship feel more like a one-man show rather than a partnership. Here are some classic examples:

Love Bombing at First: In the beginning, they might shower you with attention and affection. But beware, it's often not sustainable and just a tactic to reel you in.

Everything's About Them: They tend to make every situation and conversation about themselves. It's like living in their personal movie, and you're just a supporting character.

Lack of Empathy: They often struggle to recognize or validate your feelings. It's like talking to a brick wall when you need emotional support. Your needs and feelings just don't seem to register on their radar.

Constant Need for Admiration: They thrive on compliments and praise. It's like they're on a never-ending quest for a pat on the back. If you're not providing that constant adoration, they might seek it elsewhere.

Manipulative Behavior: They can be masters of manipulation, often twisting words, playing emotional games, or gaslighting to keep you off-balance.

Never Taking Responsibility: It's always someone else's fault, never theirs. Even when they're clearly in the wrong, admitting fault is not in their playbook. They can turn the tables so quickly you start doubting your own version of events.

Jealousy and Control: They might get super jealous, not just of people but of your achievements or time spent elsewhere. It's like they need to be the center of your universe, and anything else is a threat.

Lack of Boundaries: They often don't respect personal space or boundaries. It's like your life is theirs too, and they can intrude or impose as they please.

Emotional Highs and Lows: One minute, you're the love of their life; the next, you can't do anything right.

It's when these traits are persistent and pervasive, causing significant issues in the relationship, that they point towards narcissism.

[Hawkes_Lady]

If you have a narcissist in your life, I am so very sorry. I have dealt with one, and in my experience once they get their claws into you it is extremely hard to get them to release you. They will alienate you from your friends and family until you have no one left except the narcissist. And then they will slowly take every ounce of your self esteem and self confidence until you feel dependent upon them for everything. They will drain you of your life, abuse you until your nothing, just an empty shell.

Run as far and as fast as you can in the other direction and hope that he has sunk his claws too deep to get away. Good luck, you're going to need it if you really are dealing with a narcissist.

Signs you're dealing with a narcissist.

1. Narcissists have to be the best, the most right, and the most competent; do everything their way; own everything; and control everyone.

2. Narcissists constantly need attention—even just by following you around the house, asking you to find things, or constantly saying something to grab your attention. And validation for a narcissist counts only if it comes from others.

3. Narcissists need everything to be perfect. They believe they should be perfect, you should be perfect, events should happen exactly as expected, and life should play out precisely as they envision it.
Narcissists want and demand to be in control, and their sense of entitlement makes it seem logical to them that they should be in control of everything.

4. Narcissists never want to be responsible unless everything goes their way. They often place all the blame and responsibility on someone else to maintain their own façade of perfection.

5. Narcissists lack boundaries. They believe that everything belongs to them and everyone thinks and feels the same as they do.

6. Narcissists have very little ability to empathize with others and often lack an understanding of the nature of feelings.

7. Narcissists perceive everything as a threat. They frequently misread subtle facial expressions and are typically biased toward interpreting facial expressions as negative.

8. Narcissists make most of their decisions based on how they feel about something. They always look to something or someone outside themselves to solve their feelings and needs.

9. A narcissists personality is split into good and bad parts. Any negative thoughts or behaviors are blamed on you or others, whereas they take credit for everything that is positive and good.

10. Narcissists are constantly afraid of being ridiculed, rejected, or wrong and often struggle to trust other people.

11. Narcissists typically deal with anxiety, and typically project their anxiety onto their closest loved ones, accusing them of being negative or unsupportive.

12. Narcissists don't feel much guilt because they think they are always right, and they harbor a lot of shame and often bury their insecurities, fears, and rejected traits that they are constantly on guard to hide from everyone, including themselves.

13. Narcissists can't truly love or connect emotionally with other people because of their inability to understand feelings, their lack of empathy, and their constant need for self-protection.

14. Narcissists don't have the capacity or the motivation to communicate or work as part of a team.

[Bethany22]

• Narcissists are good at making people feel sorry for them, and making other people feel like it's their job to cheer them up.
• If you try and confront them about something they did, they'll say 'you made me do it's
• If you go to family counseling with them, they'll wait until after the session to tell you that you jabbed them, even though all you did was respond to the counselor's questions. This makes you insecure about telling the psychologist how you really feel in the following sessions, because you start valuing the narcissist's opinion more than an actual expert!
• They're form of guilt trip is worse than usual guilt trip, because as soon as you reasure them that you'll do want they want, they say no, even though they're clearly still upset with you, so now you're left to still feel guilty, but with no way of feeling better about the guilt.
• A tip I have to deal with what a narcissis wants you to do but you don't want to do, is do lots of research into the activity they want to do (ex. A vacation whereby you'll be stuck with them for several weeks). Do all of the dirty work, figuring out all of the costs, and time it will take to get there and back, and how long for the vacation, and ask them if that's what they want to do. They will feel guilty that you spent all that time figuring things out (that they generally hate doing themselves), that they might actually ask you what you want to do! It's actually worked with me before 😅

[Light_beam]

You have described it well, hands down.. but of course you are talking about men.. the problem here is that most girls do all that especially the guilt trap.. and yet they get away with it.. it is ok that they be like that becoz they are women.. and women are sensitive.. so we men aren't mature enough if we don't accept that

[Leapfrog00]

Speaking from experience, narcissists seem controlling, have to be right all the time, will try to humiliate you when other people are around and make you look like the one who is the embarrassment.

They will even go as far as causing you legal issues. If you sau or do something that angers them, they will call the police and say you got violent with them. Narcissists are dangerous people.

I've dated girls who were narcissists, and last year I was living with an aunt who was one. You're constantly walking on broken glass. I feel bad for anyone who is with someone like this. Sometimes you don't even realiz you're with one until after you walk away.

[RavVid]

That was my experience

[Finchie40]

When they call you a narcissist, they are usually the narcissist, crazy to say, but everyone has a narcissistic trait in them , some just have more than others but to be a full blown narcissist is very rare apparently I believe it's 7 traits to be a full blown narcissist which studies have shown only like 1 percent of the population is a full blown narcissist, so the chances of you dating a full blown narcissist is very rare

[Sonorous]

When they get fast food but don't order you nothin

[Lokiion]

This has to be the most accurate reply I’ve seen here

[Sonorous]

🤣🤣🤣

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

As I’ve heard, women are more likely to be histrionic instead of narcissist.

[RavVid]

Interesting and I have seen men are more prone to nacrcissm. Not entirely easy to distinguish between but possibly that is unimportant in that, at the least, they are hard work.

Amber H had BPD and HPD

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@RavVid Yes. Must have been pretty difficult to live with her.

[RavVid]

Especially as she brought guys back to JD place.

AH will be arrested if she ever steps foot in Australia again. It is one thing to break a quarantine bio security law but it gets more serious if you lie to a court.

[SolsticeSnow]

The best thing you can do is realise BEFORE you get into the relationship with them. Look for red flags lldurung dating.

Overt narcissists are a bit more obvious as they are often braggers. They may tell huge fantastic, enjoyable stories... that don't quite seem true. They may turn your experiences/achievements or even your bad days, into competition. Trying to one up your experiences. You may find yourself rushing to finish things you are saying because you just get that feeling that they want to be talking again... about themselves. Things like that.

For more covert narcissists it can be harder to spot.

Look out for boundary pushing behaviours. Look out for them not liking being told no. Look out for how your instincts react to them. Not your ego (which is easily flattered) but your gut instincts.

It's so important to recognise them in the early dating stages. Because once they get past those with you, they can start working on eroding your boundaries bit by bit. Once they have their claws in they are much more difficult to remove.

[RavVid]

Good tips so thank you.

[Minahh]

All narcissists operate by a DARVO pattern: deny, attack and reverse the roles of victim and offender. Here are examples just to illustrate.

Example n1 male is the narcissist, she clearly stated what she doesn't want to do, he is violating her boundaries and making her do the things she doesn't want to do by using manipulation, blame and guilt.

Woman says: I don't want to have sex with you.
Man says: No idea what you're talking about. You don't care about me or my needs in this relationship. It's all about you. I don't feel loved.

Example n2 female is the narcissist, he clearly stated how he feels about her wasting enormous amounts of money on bags, she is denying, gaslighting and blaming.

Man says: I don't want you to be wasting all my money on expensive designer bags.
Woman says: What are you talking about dear? You gave me the money. So it's mine now I can do whatever I want with them. Look at all the things I do for you. I deserve it.

[Tina19]

I have been in relationship with narcissist at first you will get the most special treatment you will start to feel you are so lucky to have them all of this is love bombing to trap you and make you fall in love with them and suddenly they stop and then you go after them as you crave for the special treatment they have you at first... narcissist are very controlling and extremely manipulative they will say every possible thing to brainwash you also sometimes they will insult you in sarcastic way you will get hot and cold treatment which will always make you confused about their intention when you try to leave them again you will be manipulated they will cry and beg you to not leave make you feel like a bad person they will make up fake sad stories and gain your sympathy

[RavVid]

mine would invariably have a medical issue after a disagreement.

[Tina19]

They will say they are feeling 🤒 sick "whenever you confront them for their wrong behavior" mine use to say i am getting headache talk to you later when he starts to loose argument 🤣 all narcs are same

[Anonymous]

Narcissist do not respect boundaries.
Narcissist do not care how their behaviors or actions affect those around them.
Narcissist are always right, their ways of living are the only way and your ways of living are wrong.
Narcissist deflect your point of view and make you the one in the wrong when confronted during discussion.
Narcissist work effortlessly to make you loose your cool.
Narcissist hope you give up on your multiple attempts at showing them their error.
Narcissist just want you to leave them alone so they can continue doing what only matters to them.

[Liesl]

Some early red flags you may notice:

• Person uses excessive flattery, (e. g., “your smile is more radiant than the sun,” “you’re the only person who understands me”) within the first week of meeting or starting dating
• They’re usually very into and judgmental about some sort of superficial nonsense (e. g., attractiveness, wealth)
• After a while with them, they will start to put you down and insult you, oftentimes in front of others
• If you do not realize that their actions are insincere and a manipulation, you will develop feelings and get sucked in. Then, usually at the pinnacle of investment, they will drop you out of nowhere and it will be like the relationship never happened

[D_Bone_Steak]

They're controlling, really into themselves and think they're special, will isolate you, and gaslighting is one of their favorite tools. If they are dropping seeds of doubt all over the place about your own sanity, but you know you were fine before they were around... yeah... you have a narcissist on your hands.

[RavVid]

I'm interested in this too. Sharing what I have

1. Everything revolves around them (yeah that's her - tick)
2. Has to be right (woops that's me but I can prove it)
3. Has a melt down when wrong (her again - tick)
4. Lack of empathy ( cat agrees her again - tick)

[Flatmanlewis]

This question is just too big. Chief among them however - manipulating. Controlling is your boss at work or the cop directing traffic at a crash. This is far more skillful and devious. It’s a deeper level of control that uses your emotions and love as leverage.

[Lyndsielee666]

They’re controlling. I wasn’t allowed to work for years and when I finally did he took everything I made in tips every day, wasn’t allowed to see my friends or family. I was coerced into sex I didn’t want , love bombed. He called the cops on himself once then beat himself up and said I did it. Extremely self centered. Then I couldn’t leave even though I was being abused cause I was trauma bonded and now have irreversible bpd from him lmfao

[Tomisworthless]

Hot guys b like that

[Lyndsielee666]

@Tomisworthless he was 5’2 and ugly as fuck… only thing he had going for him was his largely stretched ears and green eyes

[Tomisworthless]

oh weird you're pretty so i figured youd date up in looks

[Tomisworthless]

im fairly narcissistic everywhere i go people gossip and talk crap about me in my vacinity makes me feel like the world revolves around me but im i guess shy never talk and average looking at best like a 3

[sage2021]

Go to Quora. com They have all kinds of information on narcissists.

There are just too many of them to count here but Quora. com should answer your question in details.

[TacosRAwesome]

When everything is about them and you have to deal with it.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Self-centered behavior, wanting attention all the time.

[jimmy2]

Don't care about you but care about me
Go fuck around any time I want
It's all about me dimbass

[Anonymous]

Self contentedness, only caring about themselves. And very vain too.

[DreamLife7]

How do u not know is the question