Why is it so important for your partner to stay devoted and monogamous to you? If you don't believe in monogamy, what are your main reasons?

[Rab1901]

If you are a true follower a set of religious or spiritual practices/beliefs, I completely understand, but if you don't, what's your reason?

Are you bad at socializing with others? Do you feel like one-on-one creates a stronger bond?

Is it too much work to juggle people? Is it too much work to find a good partner in the first place?

Are you unable to attract anyone of higher quality? Do you want your story to be like Disney? Do you have no idea, and have I given you incentive to explore your options?

Updates

1 y

I am completely aware that some of you are down to cheat but still want your partner to stay loyal to just you. This question is asking why you want your partner to stay committed to just you. If you cheated or are open to cheating while wanting loyalty, please share why.
Do you just want new experiences but you feel powerful because you have complete commitment from someone? What is it? Do you just not have any self-control when you see someone hot? Do you not think it's morally wrong or?

Updates

1 y

Just in case you're wondering, I personally have always loved the idea of a monogamous committed relationship. Maybe it is because I grew up going to church every Sunday. It just feels right to me. I don't know if it's just traditional thinking, but I do feel adding another person usually creates jealousy and complications. Also more likely to get an STD. Also how does taking care of kids work? Do they all love each kid like their own or never have kids? Restricting birth seems unnatural to me.

[jennifer_bloom]

I would only have three reasons for not committing to a guy if he showed interest -

- 1 is I do not have a financial plan for how we can pay for our daily living expenses and do not know if its possible to financially support the whole family in a relationship with him

- 2 is I see flaws in his personality and do not believe he would boost my emotional or spiritual health

- 3 would be I do not know if he is the safest or most secure choice - I anticipate a high risk of divorce or break up or feel his love is too conditional or demanding or I am not sure if a relationship with him is ethical because of his ex lovers and children or status.

[Rab1901]

Thank you for your breakdown, but my question really is asking, why monogamy instead of polygamy? I'm guessing it's the Christianity value for you but correct me if you have another reason or reasons

[dynamicyandere]

For me, you hit the nail on the head with, “Do you feel like one-on-one creates a stronger bond?”


For me, closeness and intimacy and bond is super important.


If I’m going to be with someone in a serious relationship, I want to have a serious bond.


It’s ride or die. That kind of Bonnie and Clyde level of loyalty to each other. Where we have each other’s back, no matter what.


We only have so much time to live in this world. And, as career-oriented person, I don’t have much time left when I’m working 70-80 hour weeks.


The time I do have left, I want to invest carefully and intentionally with the people that matter.


In my case, my SO takes top priority.


Nothing can replace one-on-one undivided attention.

If I want the strongest and deepest bond, monogamy would be a better path than polygamy or polyamory.

[Berethor]

Some animals are monogamous too, they not religious, I just don't want to be with a ho.

[Anonymous]

Religious views and just wanting ‘my own partner;’ to grow old with.

[Anonymous]

I just want someone to love me unconditionally without the fear that they will leave me because they find someone better than me.

[serious]

I believe in monogamy.

[Rab1901]

My question is asking why