Looking momentarily is okay. We all do it, but you're giving us information that indicate you aren't actually ready to be a in a relationship. The fact you desire the validation of other men other than your partner is a tell-tale you need to work on yourself before you string someone (your boyfriend) along. Or perhaps you're just not the type for a monogamous relationship. I've seen many relationships fail because one person couldn't give up the need of validation of people other than their partner. I've dated such a woman myself. They all ended up becoming toxic and eventually everyone went their separate ways.
You may not cheat and don't intend to, but given the fact you desire other men's attention/validation, the door to cheating isn't actually closed. It only takes 1 dude who knows what to do and say to swipe you off your feet. I'm not saying you are going to cheat, at the same time you cannot tell us you wouldn't because every cheater has 1 thing in common: Their interest in the benefits of people other than their partner.
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There's nothing wrong with LOOKING as long as you're not doing anything else. Giving other men signals or flirting is wrong because it's disrespectful to your boyfriend and because it can very easily lead to the next step which is cheating. You may eventually become tempted to act out on your desires and that would be very wrong. Also, you're supposed to be committed to your boyfriend as he is to you. How would you feel if he was soliciting attention from other women?
Most people don't consider checking out other people as cheating. Your boyfriend probably does this too. He's only human
I just have to ask,
How would you feel if he did the same?
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No, my ex girlfriend i used to love her, When i did, I wanted to bang hot football players and cheerleaders i thought about it all the time, But i did not cheat, Your boyfriend 100% looked at other girls, I could have the hottest boyfriend/girlfriend and still be horny for others, Its how humans are programed, Your only a bad girlfriend if you ACT on those urges
Men love to look at hot girls.. I am 71, I like to look at Hot girls... some are young enought to be my "Great Grand Daughters" BUT, they are Not... there si no reason that you shouldn't do the same.. "Eye candy" is good no matter what age or gender you are
I call bullshit. You would 100% cheat. You're not even being honest when you say you'd never do anything other than look, because you already admitted to flirting. It's looking at other guys wrong? No. But flirting with other men to get them to approach you just so you can reject them? That's some hardcore narcissistic shit right there.
Looking isn't bad, but...
"I love looking hot around them and seeing them watch me, and getting their attention"
"I love giving them flirtatious glances or doing double takes on them"
Unless your boyfriend knows this and okay with it, this is suspicious. There are people who showed less signs but cheated anyways when before said "I would never cheat"Totally harmless BUT don’t do it when you’re with him. You wouldn’t like it if he did that to you.
quite normal. a part of human biology does have us at least entertain the thought/s of variety of partners. the trouble often comes from acting on that baser instinct.
No, its natural. To me its insulting to try and hide otherwise from either sex.
Interesting question. Well in my opinion it kind of does make you a bad girlfriend. Who wants a girl seeking attention and leading other men on? That’s not a good person let alone a girlfriend. I know I would deserve much better. Although it is fine and normal to see beauty in the opposite sex. You’re playing a game you can’t win at and bringing down other people with it. What’s the point?
No, why would that be bad? You can also fantasize about other men and masturbate to them, there's nothing wrong with that and it has nothing to do with your relationship.
It is if your S. O. is with you when you are doing it
I think flirting is natural. But I know that it could be harming your boyfriend. It is cumulative harm and everyone has a breaking point. Keep that in mind even if he says that it does not bother him.
No looking is fine but do not go past that it’s fine to look but if you’re going out of your way to be flirtatious with them to make them come up to you are you sure you only want to look?
It's natural and normal. Just don't make it too obvious to him.
What a told my step son when either the wife or I are looking at others: "Son, we're happily married. Not dead."
Its fine, just don't ever do it in front of your boyfriend or act on it.
You're 18-24 and you want to spend the rest of your life with your boyfriend. Give me a fking break.
No it’s natural. Don’t even have to look good. Sometime people can’t turn away from an accident.
You can look but not touch.
Look just don't touch
Not really, at least your honest about it.
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