What’s considered a dealbreaker for you?

[avony12]

Say if you was already in a long term relationship with someone and they did something that was considered a dealbreaker for you. Would you stay and work it out or just break up with them?

[FinalFantasyBro]

Believe me ladies I am usually super chill but even I have my own standards. Of I have a girl who behave like anyone of these it's usually wouldn't end well with us.

1. A woman who is really full of herself, I don't find ladies who thinks do high of herself attractive.
2. Mean girls, these types of bitches doesn't fly with me. I prefer nicer girls!
3. Women who acting like she needs validation from others, I can understand we all have our days where we doesn't feel good about ourselves. But I generally think there are some women out there who crave attention, I don't find girls like this interesting.
4. Feminist who wants female superiority, believe me I am all for equality but I don't like feminist who claims to want to stop sexism with sexism.
5. Girls who doesn't have any goals that doesn't involve her physical appearance. I am sorry but that shit won't fly, she has to be more except just straight up looks.
6. I don't want a girl who would cheat on me, I don't do well with cheaters.
7. Having conversations with ex, it's seems incredibly sketchy.

[FinalFantasyBro]

8. Abusive Girl
9. I don't want to date a girl who wants me to put her in a pedo stool, or she wants to put me in a pedo stool. Remember we might love each other but we are still individuals.
10. I don't want to date a boring girl, come on ladies let both be interesting.

[KrakenAttackin]

-Cheating.
-Social media obsession.
-Tattoos/odd piercings.
-Attention whoring.

[lilyanony1]

Hmm a deal breaker.
Well what ended my relationship was my father passing away. He told me he'd be here for me but then he disappeared. I get that it was the pandemic and everyone was going through crap. But he ghosted me for like 2 months.
When he returned he started bragging he was working and how great his life was.
I wasn't unemployed I was furloughed at returning in June. But never once did he ask how I was coping.
I knew there and then that whatever we were before, couldn't recover.

I never competed with him, ever.

[JustinTimberlegs]

I'm sorry that someone you loved wasn't there for you when you needed them most, and above all did not even have the self awareness to feel bad about it.

I'm also sorry for the death of your father. I hope you have other people to support you 🫂

[lilyanony1]

Thank you. There were a few people who flew off the radar at that time. And tried to make a come back at a later time. Mostly because their life blew up in their face. Yet again it was about saving themselves then really considering me

[FinalFantasyBro]

I am extremely sorry for your father being a deadbeat asshole.

[Anonymous]

Not being able to take care of himself such as personal hygiene and style.

[t-8900]

Damn now this is a really hard one and it depends on the relationship. Like I could see us breaking up only under a few conditions that are realistic. Aside from the crazy shit like her trying to murder me or something. Realistically? I mean if she had a kid with another guy behind my back? That'd be some shit right there. That would probably destroy me. I pray shit like that never happens. If she cheated on me? That's a hard one too. It would be extremely hard to forgive her and I'm not even sure I could. Her and I work out a lot of things together and we make sure we are honest and on the same page. I believe she would actually tell me if she screwed up and weather or not she did something intentionally and I would know. It's hard to fathom the idea now and I hope it never happens. I believe she's a good woman who cares about me and I certainly care a lot about her.

[user1516]

1. Self praise. I hate when a guy talks about his muscles all the time and flexes them ALL of the time especially when they look in the mirror 🙄🧹
2. Narcissistic.
3. Aggression.
4. When they think they “own” me.
5. When they tell me I can’t go somewhere even if it’s a family vacation. Fool 🙄 we’re not married I’m gonna go vacation at my aunts vineyard for the weekend with my family.
5. Gaslighting ass men.
6. Talking badly about my friends or family. Who tf are you?
7. Abusive.
8. Disregards my feelings but expects me to be there for him and only him whenever he wants to dump his feelings.
9. Talks about his exes, tf?
10. Defends his girl- friends and not me 😀………………


If you’re a man don’t be like this please.

[user1516]

Adding for #1 and they tell me to kiss their crusty muscles or ask me if they look good all of the time. 😑 oddly specific , yes.

[t-8900]

eww i hate it when people bring up their exes. Never happened to me but the idea is repulsive. when I say "own" its in the sense that I own her and she owns me like as in our hearts :)

[whirled_up_girl]

I love your question! I just post a poll about deal breakers. I try to let the guy know what my deal breakers are right away and I try to find out from the guy what his are. I did have it happen though where he did not tell me about certain deal breakers upfront and that did lead to heartbreak because I wasn't willing to change who I was for him. I think to him it seemed small, and he thought he would change my mind if I loved him enough, but to me it seemed like manipulation. It lead to a lot of heart break for of us, but we both learned from it.

[ludorock]

I think it depends. What is the nature of our relationship? Long term dating? Then depending on the discretion then yeah, I'd just leave. We're dating and they cheat on me? No, hard pass.

Now, if we're married and they do something awful like cheat? Well... I guess it depends on how strong our relationship has been otherwise and how they tell me/how they act after the fact.

I don't think there's anything my partner right now could do that would warrant immediate divorce (other than murder, or pedophilia, obviously), so right now, pretty much no matter what it would be a conversation, at least, and then we'd go from there. Maybe we'd make up, maybe not. There's a lot of factors.

[t-8900]

i agree there's a lot of complexity and it's not as easy as saying "we're done" like people on TV try to make it out as. We are complex creatures and its not always clear cut

[Dchrls78104]

If I had a girl and she did any of the following I'd immediately walk away from her and the relationship:
1. Smoke, drink, or use drugs.
2. Curse or get disrespectful or violent.
3. Bring another person in our relationship in any way.
4. Wear thongs or the like.
5. Tattoo or pierce her body.
6. Do any kind of "boob job", "butt job", or the like.
7. Lie to me, cheat, or steal from me.
8. Ask for anal, oral, or period sex; or any other degrading stuff.
9. Watch porn while we are in the relationship.
10. Show herself a feminist or support abortion.

[Wester1967]

Guy friends. Friends with exes. Stop playing in the kiddie pool with floaters. There’s plenty of wimpy dudes who will love to get with you with mad love for your exes and boy toys. Not me buddy.


Meat heads. I’m veg. Plenty of dumb jocks who’ll hit it with you. Not me.


Can’t salsa dance and refuses to learn. This should explain itself.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=88dkRBljMIA

[NHI2017]

my dealbreakers are. As follows. And can't date anyone that does the following

lying,
stealing,
Or drugs


a girl can have kids. Bangged a bunch of guys, Porn, Ect……….
And thats all ok.

Just as long as she doesn’t steal, lie. Or use drugs

[Phoenix98]

Won’t get married and doesn't want kids.

if she doesn’t want both those things together or apart then she’s not for me.

[ChiPaPa]

I'd have made my deal breakers readily known very early on and would dump her ass, no matter how long we're together.

[madgoat]

If it's an absolute deal breaker then you pretty much have to leave. Like one wants kids and the other does not (and they're consistent about it).
Otherwise, you need to decide what's best for you.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Transgender
Feminist
Demanding/Too Needy
Abusive
Abusing Double Standards
Gaslighter
Complains a lot

[normalice]

No mutual physical attraction, sexual incompatibility, or glaring personality conflicts.

[Rlbrown]

Going out with another guy even an old friend goodbye

[joshctlee]

Dude for real that gets in my nerves

[FilmGuy93]

Depression, anxiety. Those are total dealbreakers for me.

[exitseven]

I would dump her. Thats why we call these things dealbreakers.

[Sugiyamasama]

Cheating, constantly lying, stealing, bad mouthing me or my family, damaging my property (especially my cars) are my deal breakers and nah thats an instant break up for me

[MrJMM]

Annoying people, haters, unnecessary dramatic people, parents being hypocritical, etc.

[Joshua0213]

Most things work through but there are some things I'd just instantly break up with her

[JesseJayNeak]

If she's a feminist or an sjw. Or if she's transgender

[RickVienna]

Most of the time the broke up with me! Why? Because I am too small endowed for a long therm relationship...🤷‍♂️