Most (single) guys don't have and don't want female friends (and I mean a close friend that you regularly spend time alone with). If they appear to have them, most of them secretly (or not so secretly) want to have sex with those girls, and are hoping to eventually do so. And if the day comes when they realize that sex isn't likely to ever happen, those "friendships" tend to fade quickly away.
This is because a single man's first and primary priority with any remotely age-appropriate female is to get laid, and it is difficult to think about much else until that problem has been solved - much as a starving man can barely think about anything but food until he is getting regular meals.
Most women don't seem to realize this or are in denial about it, but if you ask them "if you showed an interest, would your male 'friend' have sex with you?", most would answer "yes." And in that case, the guy is NOT her friend, really, because that desire to sleep with her greatly affects how he treats her - and will greatly affect how he treats her if he realizes it will never happen.
It should be obvious that this doesn't normally apply to guys in a happy, healthy relationship already, and, sure, there are some guys who are very emotionally mature who can handle a friendship with an attractive, age-appropriate girl without sexual desire, but that's very much the exception to the rule.
One of the reason so many woman are confused about men is that they simply refuse to believe what I'm saying here - mostly because most women don't work like men and are perfectly capable of having a male friendship without wanting to bang the guy, so they assume that men MUST be the same (we are NOT!).
Man and woman can not be friends it is a mith! The only way is when man is ' Friend zoned ', even then he still expecting to get out from there some day, that is why he is your ' friend '.
Man always will want sex and women are not in possition to change it, even man can't! The only way is for man to stop wanting sex is when he loose ability or loose man parts all together.
I forgot, there is those, who lie to women or to themselves.
I would stay friends, there is 10% chance she will like you back ( not 0...) and there is MUCH bigger chance that she will introduce you to her friend, that happened to me few times.
No! Unless they're lusting after her simply for sex, it has to be something more there besides looks. All the more reason why a lot of guys would prefer to look on the sidelines come instead of just going for any girl simply because he's attracted to her.
I already had all that happen and I had to shut them down. Because as a Christian, and then being of different religious or secular we did not have the same values. I'm still friends with them too. They did it for the people what it worked out or not, but I do not regret my decision.
In my experiences, most of the time yes, I had a friends group of about 10 guys and at least 7 of them confessed to liking me at one point or another
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Not as much as you might think. If there's an attraction at the start I will mention it otherwise it's a normal friendship.
No, that is why they are just friends.
Nah. Quality control. You can want to fuck a girl, on a purely physical level. Doesn't mean you'd do so or date her. Women always harp on about how men don't meet their standards. Well, every man should have standards, too. And guess what, a lot of women don't meet them.
Please stop denigrating men in the automatic conception of them as being unable to control themselves, and being akin to animals.
I don't know about the guys and what they think of me but I usually end up falling for all of my guy friends at some point, usually very easily. if i see them laughing they are added to my list of 346578909 crushes because laughing and smiling I cannot resist ESPECIALLY if it is because of me or something I said.
I don't think they like me though.
And lots of the really good guy friends I have are gay. :( i have no chance
I've had female friends and aquintences I don't fancy that much, especially true in church engagements where "love" displaces "desire". But in general, desire is presented at some point in meeting someone new with a question mark... e. g. "what is this?" Some of those were interested in me.
I've actually dated or done stuff with. 70 percent of my female friends. Otherwise we have both mutually fancied each other at some point. Seems to just happen because you hang out with them so much and talk to them a lot. We eventually get feeling for each other in some way. Sometimes it doesn't work out and you go back to being friends.
I’ve had many female friends that I would never consider dating, or even sleeping with. Some of them I even find attractive but I knew we weren’t compatible. But I have had a few female friends I did consider dating. So no not all guys fancy their female friends, but I would bet most guys have or have had a female friend (s) that they did fancy.
Not all, by any means. not even most. Oh, we'd happily have sex with our friends; most men are more than willing to have sex without "fancying" them first. But we're not always attracted to them in any meaningful way. I have several female friends that I may think are attractive, but feel no yearning towards sexually.
I've heard this is true for many guys, but I personally can't relate. Many of them seem to be trying to explore their options, but I don't really relate to that. I'm a very closed off kind of person when it comes to female friends and having any romantic interest.
I don't think so, but I'm pretty sure that most men wouldn't mind sleeping with their female friends. I'm friends with some guys and they sometimes joke about sleeping with me and that they "won't tell my boyfriend".
No, not all of them. Generally it's easier to befriend a girl when I find something attractive about her--physically or otherwise--but it's not strictly necessary, nor does it always lead to a crush. If we have enough things in common and you don't sound like a raving lunatic when you talk to me, I will probably find you agreeable.
It depends if the guy is physically attracted to the girl. And the thing is, guys usually have female friends who are in their league in terms of looks, so yes, there is usually a good possibility of the guy ending up fancying (one of his) female friends.
I don't think so. I've had perfectly healthy friendships with guys. Sure, some bystanders might disagree, but that's just because of the assumption that we're currently discussing.
I think every guy comes to fancy every girl they spend time with. But depends on the person whether it is a serious crush kinda thing or just yeah i thought about it kinda thing.
No. at least I have never felt like that. I feel attraction early on in my interactions, so, if I am friends with a girl, that means I'll always be friends with her.
Nah, I might think they're cute but I can keep it friendly and I don't really catch feelings, I seek out other girls I don't know instead. Having more options makes it easy.
I've had lots of female friends. They are the majority by far. Only one make friend. It's almost like being friends with an ex. You think about it, but if it's not there and they are good people, why not be friends?
Nope. I have female friends I'm not, and have never been, interested in.
Mostly. Who better to fancy?
Also, of course you befriend people you’re interested in and try to develop more, so naturally the people you like are going to be friends.
I'd say it's good when a relationship starts out as a friendship, if he gets friend zoned that's a different story 😅
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