Do all women pull back to make men chase? Women: please answer poll

[JOSHisAdude]

!Even if you don't answer please respond to the poll.! (Women only please)

Ok sometimes women are really confusing. & I think I got a glimpse into the female mind when I read what a woman posted in a question.

"Should I pull back and hope he'll chase me? I really want to be with him and am trying hard to not let him know that"

So the question is does every woman do this?

Yes I pull back to make men chase

No I don't pull back to make men chase

It depends

When I pull back its rejection

Updates

+1 y

Hey everyone thanks for the response!

[Anonymous]

Why do women do this? Well I used to hate this kind of thing, it's game playing. But now that I have been through the ringer, I know exactly why women do it.

They do it so they don't appear desperate and it makes the guy actually want to be with them. If a guy knows you want him, then he may not appreciate you as much. I know because I had this happen to me.

I was a really great girlfriend. I cooked, took care of him, made sure he had everything he needed. I was at his beck and call most times. I always planned my life around him. And you know where it got me? Singlesville!

You have to at least not appear the most eager to be with a guy. Take your time and see what options you have. Get to know him first, find out if he is right for you.

Let him put effort into the relationship. If he wants to be with you, he will make it happen!

Not saying guys should be the only one's to put effort into a relationship. Women should too. It doesn't hurt to do some things.

[confused415]

This is absolutely true!

[why-makoto-kun]

Yes!

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks ladies for the support! :)

[confused415]

Anything and everything a girl does is for attention. Personally, I pull back as a defense mechanism. I think most girls don't "play" these games when guys dont. If he acts interested from the beginning and is consistent then I am generally going to be the same way. However, it seems as though men have taken the control to gauge who likes who and how much. I feel as though its the guys playing the games whether they like us, want us as girlfriends, or hookups or a passing fling. Too many times I hear guys sleep with a girl knowingly they don't like her and never will and could care less. Girls just want to prevent this situation so our only defense and control is to play coy and hard to get so we can gauge how much a guy really likes us. It seems that its the guys who now have control these days, not girls.

[why-makoto-kun]

I feel the same. I mean, some guys will even go as far as getting into a committed relationship and saying "I love you" when all they wanted was sex a couple of times.

[green22]

i agree with you. I think most women don't pull back as game-playing at all. Defenses, yes. Also agree that men play games far too much. Blah.

[likeabird]

It depends who initiated.

If the guy is the one who made the first move/ asked me out, then pulling away would most likely mean that I'm trying to let him down gently/ figure out how to break up.

On the other hand, if I'm the one who initiated/ asked him out (in this situation atm), then pulling back is more of a test of their interest in me - I want to know if they're interested for sure and not just going along with it and making me do all the work.

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Do you think that's reasonable? I'd quite like to get some people's thoughts on that approach...

[readthis87]

It's natural for men to chase women to an extent. You don't need to be desperate or clingy to chase a women. Just man up and ask for what you want without being a jerk about it. Women will like it when the man has enough balls and confidence to ask for what he wants. When you come out and ask for what you want there should be no guessing left, you'll have your answer.

[Ichron]

My girlfriend pulled back when we were kinda dating because she wasn't sure if she was ready for a relationship yet because she wasn't completely over her ex and her past relationships didn't work out well at all. I kept up because I knew I wasn't being rejected, and eventually she decided to give us a try, and it's worked out great so far.

[RedSmartie]

When I pull back, I am rejecting the guy. It's so annoying when I pull back and he thinks it means that I want him to try harder. If I was interested, I would chase back. But then again, not all women are in possession of their full metal faculties.

[why-makoto-kun]

Not all women do this, but I certainly will not throw myself at a man. I let him pursue me when he knows I am interested, lol. So, maybe I let him do 60% of the initiation while I do 40%. Then over the course of a relationship it becomes 50-50, ideally.

As for when I'm not interested? I tell him I'm not interested and cease contact.

[green22]

Of course I like to feel wanted, but I don't encourage a chase AT ALL. I don't think many women do encourage a chase. We want a guy who is direct, clear, reliable and with ---FOLLOW THROUGH--

i.e. he likes me, he asks me out, he turns up to the date, he makes an effort to get to know me.

If a girl says "i hope he'll chase me", she's missed the point. Guess he's not into her, huh? If a guy wants a girl, acting aloof ain't gonna reel her in. Seriously! He's GOT TO be clear.

[Anonymous]

I learned through experience that the ones who play games aren't that interested & could take it or leave it. It's best to walk clean away when you see that behavior. As one girl said, she won't play games if she really liked the guy. That's true for most women.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

I personally don't bother with women who pull back or play hard to get or any of that bullsh*t. Not gonna show interest? Not gonna bother.

[Libra89]

u like women who beg?

[NoOneListens21]

XD BOO TO YOU TOO! Hmph. lol. Tsk-tsk.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Um... women who beg? Since when would a woman coming up and being "hey, do you wanna go out?" be begging? Showing interest != begging... oye... woman logic is dumb.

[NoOneListens21]

I only find this to be true when women don't want to appear desparte/clingy. Men want things they can't get easily. They like a challenge but not too much of one. It's a game.

[NoOneListens21]

Desperate

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Bullsh*t :| Men don't want to waste time chasing someone that isn't interested in them. Only players or little boys who want things they can't have do that. BOO YOU!

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#3 deary :P it's logical!

[green22]

i agree with Leto- a man may desire that which he can't have (like Angelina Jolie), but he sure as hell won't be chasing her all over the shop trying to get her to like him. If the guy doesn't come out straight and ask for a date, he's a player/ loser/ jerk/ immature.

[NoOneListens21]

In most opinions you can't generalize and say this applies to every single person. I won't call the guys who like the "chase" any of those things because it's been this way for the longest time. AND it doesn't apply to only men. Women don't want a man too eager and neither does a man. Some light teasing/flirting is enjoyed mostly by a lot of people but like I said not too much of a challenge or they'll find someone else. Besides, people misread signals all the time.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Why does the man have to ask for a date? If the woman is interested she can damn well EQUALIZE the dating world a bit and ask a guy :|

[NoOneListens21]

*pokes you* Not everyone is the same =P Some people are too shy to do so. Male or female.

[skinandbones]

no... but sometimes guys can be really inattentive and aloof so...how else are you gonna find out if its real? especially if they don't like to talk? lol. vicious cycle.

[backagainagain]

I only pull back when I feel he is. There is no point in chasing someone who does not want me. I am sure plenty of women do though.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I pull back to make them chase, I never chase them because I feel as if I am easy and I will not be sure that the guy is totally interested If he doesn´t chase me. Besides, it is more fun like this.

[katkaintkwit]

The only time I do is if I know it can't work or he's getting cocky. I don't pull back for fun. Lol

[green22]

indeed. option a) totally. option b) sometimes I do this too... but then it's also as I feel he's not being clear with me. he's pretending somehow.

[Anonymous]

If I like a guy, I act like I like him, haha!

I don't play hard to get or pretend I'm too busy for him, etc.

[BackAgain]

morre like testing if you stop pursuing does he like you enough to do the same

[dwiller943]

Depends. Sometimes I chase. And sometimes I take a break and let myself be chased.

[Prof_Don]

Unfortunately many girls do the pulling away thing to make a guy chase.

[Anonymous]

I may be more reserved in the beginning but I don't play games if I really do like the guy..

[Anonymous]

i sure try to pull back to make men chase,but when I really love someone I can't keep the act up for long

[cecebaby2913]

not every girl does but sometimes we do it to see if you really care. Especially when guys send mix signals

[celestialdaeva]

No, but every woman should.

[smithamy]

No I don't pull back to make men chase

[dyefvkx]

Yes I pull back to make men chase