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The main driver is that I’ve had so many men make me feel like I’m not enough for them. I’ve worked extensively on myself and I feel like I constantly hit a dead end. I've even done some modeling and still guys don’t think I’m pretty enough. I’m smart and an engineer. Anyway, I’m frustrated also because I feel like even if I get someone they’ll be looking at younger hotter girls the whole time especially as I get older. I just low key don’t care anymore.
I’m not interested in dating or getting married anymore. How do I change my mindset?
Anonymous
(25-29) 
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Find your self an older guy , Most older guys’ love younger girls ‘ and most younger girls’ love older guys’ mainly because of the maturity level and Most older guys’ don’t play games , they are pretty much over that shit , Me personally would value and cherish a girl like you , I am old school when it comes to relationships and most older guys’ are as well. Most of us just want one girl only , we don’t need variety , But sadly most younger girls’ do , , so if you don’t? Go for an older guy
Girl, I totally get where you're coming from. Dating can be so frustrating when you constantly feel like you're not good enough. And who wants to settle for a guy who's just gonna stare at other chicks forever!
But try not to let past losers make you close yourself off from love completely. Easier said than done, I know. But at some point you gotta get back out there for you, not for them.
My advice would be to take some time to fully love yourself first before jumping back in. Focus on your hobbies, career, friends - all the stuff that brings you joy without a man. Build your confidence from the inside.
When you feel truly happy being single, that's when you'll attract a dude worthy of your fine self! I know it's hard, but you gotta believe that what they think of you says more about them than you.
Don't close that chapter yet sis. The right one is out there, you just gotta feel secure enough to see your own value first. We're all a work in progress. You'll get through this, bet! Keep shining.
Hmm. Well I wouldn't sacrifice any possible roads to future happiness based on how some individual guys may seem. Given your appearance ( assuming that was a photo of you along with question) shows that looks are not any reason. Obviously, given your field of study & expertise, you are smart and either do or will be getting a very rewarding career.
I happen to be self-0confident enough to know that women cream their jeans just looking at me. Over-educated and believe I know far more than I actually do. So in both cases- yours as well as my own- its can be intimating to potential lovers. A larger perspective will show that - though it is possible for us to both feel like that; my assessment ids based on fantasy, Irish whiskey and yours is a bit more reality based.
Let us not confuse the issue with facts however.
The fact that in your words, "just low key and don't care anymore" gives you an emotional independence that can wallop the self-esteem of men who do not have the physical aesthetics, the multiple portfolios & did not get invited to Davos this year- altogether give me an aura that enhances my already formidable attraction too women is a little unusual for many men who sport their emotional immaturity, lack of physical beauty, et al means that you could have a case of "why would a woman that good looking, intelligent, cultured, conniseur of perfumes & lingerie as well as a voracious sexual appetite" want to go out with me? Approach them as they do with cobras in the far east. Play music to them to charm them & allow them to slowly rise at and due to your permission.
Hope this helps
I'd suggest not wasting your time now because once you are older (mid 30s +) your options will be MUCH less than they are now to find a quality partner.
The two things that I see a problem with in your post are "so many men" and "done some modeling." What that tells me is that you like people checking you out, which means you likely have provocative/revealing pictures online which makes you less appealing to a quality partner. The same goes for having a past of too many partners.
You’re talking like you’re 95….. You're just in your 20s. It’s none of my business what “so many men” could possibly mean in your world, but you certainly need to back away from the dating pool and figure out wth you want out of life (beyond sex) instead of striving to “change your mindset” just so you can go on another rabid rampage through another round of guys….
By giving yourself time to heal from past pain and allow yourself positive experiences with guys. As long as you´re not comfortable around a guy there´s no chance that you´ll be in a relationship or a marriage. Maybe reflect on what type guys you dated in the past and find a way to avoid them.
Ideally you could be submissive woman and become a house wife and support husband and so on. In reality, all men are like a mayfly looking for a mate while he is alive for one day out of water. They all move on or get bored at some point. But you have to give it a chance. I mean don’t listen to negative things like life is nothing we all die someday, love fade away blah blah. Be positive. Love can last and it could be a good memory. Life is once so live. Live big. Be brave because you live anyway.
Just focus on yourself for now and don’t go out looking for a guy. If you’re meant to meet someone, it’ll happen without a lot of searching on your part. If not, you’ll always have your friends.
Need to shoot for higher quality men. You're probably amazing and a catch, but you'll never be good enough for low quality guys.
Don't change
focus on working, get rich and if you can't turn off the desires then get a toy boy
I'm focusing on work but don't exactly expect to get rich but at least I trained away my sense of desire
I’m not looking at a man ever again tbh
Not interested in women, just literally not attracted to anyone anymore
Good, that what I did and I'm happier than ever
Consider pursuing a relationship with a submissive, 'pleaser' type guy.
I think I’m done with everything for good.
I won't say you're pretty because I honestly don't know. I can tell you that while guys look, if they're good guys that's all they do. My girlfriend knows I look at nudes of other girls, she also knows I would cross the street to avoid meeting them.
Just keep focusing on your life. You will already find the right man. Because when you look for someone, you find nobody. I know it's so weird.
Why do you want to? If that’s what you’re wanting, I think it may be safe to say you might be more interested in dating and getting married than you would like to believe. Or admit.
Dating and finding the right person, happens when you least expect it. Let it happen naturally.
Why change your mindset if you aren't interested? You are interested if you want to change your mindset.
If you don’t care anymore you can focus on other parts of life
Why would you want to change that? As far as I'm concerned you've arrived.😆
You don’t have to date or marry. It’s not a requirement in life
Find a church guy