How do girls get married if no guy is religous and wants sex til marriage?

[Sugar100]

I’ve never in my life met a guy that wants sex after marriage.
i see one famous YouTube girl she lived with boyfriend, had baby then got engaged. then second baby then finally married.

I met one ugly nerdy guy with a wheelchair disabled on a Christian dating app, & he doesn’t want sex til marriage. He kept talking of sex and that I’m too beautiful no one can resist waiting til marriage for sex.

i met a guy from Ireland once that was a virgin, wanted marriage with me , meet my family, but he didn’t believe in sex til marriage. He did agree to meet family first but I’m sure he expected sex after that.

im worried as being firm on getting married doesn’t make men marry me or want be my first boyfriend. So who will be the guy that loves me?

im thinking all of this is a myth & in order to get married you don’t need wait for sex til marriage, but simply if he’s the one for you , you will get married period.

everything people say if a fucking lie.

[bobby_bush_eater]

Go to church.

I recently have made the decision to wait until marriage to have sex again. Before I was not a saint but not a "fuck boy". I realized quickly what I chased was an empty shallow pleasure. The times I had sex with connection were amazing but they were with people who would never be my wife and a mother to my kids. They were a bad influence on me.

I think more men would be willing to do this if they felt the woman was worth it. Nowadays with all the stories and things you see online it makes men more hesitant and it's easy to say modern women are trash/whores. They rarely self reflect though and realize you only need to meet one good woman to change your life. They also feel entitled to sex especially when a girl may have a lot of sex then wants to settle down, that causes a lot of trust issues for insecure guys and honestly dumb shallow women.

You need to put yourself in environments where men will be aligned to waiting until marriage. Church, community events, volunteering is a good start. Also always be upfront with your intentions, it can be frustrating but it's better to not waste time.

Believe me if I met someone who I was drawn to and she set those expectations immediately I'd be thrilled. Don't give up!

[Sugar100]

How does a man know he met a good woman?

[bobby_bush_eater]

@Sugar100 Well it's not easy to just meet anyone and concretely believe if they're good or bad but relationship wise I at least have my own personal indications outside of gut feeling.

It starts with having the awkward hard conversations, being honest about whatever your past is, openly talking about your goals, morals, and values. Being able to openly disagree and have amicable open discussions without emotional ad hominems is sooooo important as well.

Also how you treat people in public, servers and strangers is always insightful to see how that person is. As time goes on though it's the love and support that will truly make me know she's a good woman, specifically when it's in a romantic relationship but not sexual in nature.

There's no perfect way to know and a lot of it is gut too (which has failed me before) but those are some indicators.

[Sugar100]

I just want to have. a first boyfriend it can be short term but no one wants be my first boyfriend. I want meet family for the first time ever in my life before I’m 30. I don’t want a first boyfriend til 30-40.

I never had a guy show up to a family party next to me, it’s my biggest dream. I can’t talk about this to guys cuz no guy calls me his girlfriend.

[Sugar100]

No guy gives me label.

[bobby_bush_eater]

@Sugar100

Well all I can suggest is to keep putting yourself out there and maintaining your self respect. Keep trying and don't give up!

[DJB72]

Perhaps it's where you're looking.

This site isn't exactly the best place to look for Godly advice for the most part. The majority here behave like they're their own god.

Join a good church and you'll find good men. I can't believe things are that different in churches now from when I was in my 20s. My friends who met their wives were all in church when they met them. Most were inexperienced sexually or had reverted to celibacy after becoming Christians until their wedding night and all but two are still married over 20 years later.

It's down to where you look - and online is almost never going to be the best place.

Almost... I met my wife online, but I'm the exception, not the rule.

[Sugar100]

But I don’t go to church. The church guys I talked to on the church dating app all want girls that go to church & that talk about the Bible all day 24/7. They all want a Virgin. Not finding the right guy on there. No guy I click with

[Sugar100]

The only thing I liked was that they all wanted marriage in one year which was good

[DJB72]

Church dating apps tend to be like most Christian rock groups - extremely poor imitations. And I promise you if they say they want to do nothing but Bible study they're liars - unless their intention is to be studying naked.

Best advice I can offer you is forget about online stuff. Physically go to the places where the type of guy you like is found and meet them the old way. In person.

It's worked for centuries. Boy meets girl, asks her out, they date, marry, etc.

But in every case, the boy actually meets the girl. In person.

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay. If you believe everyone is a liar, you ought to climb up the mountain, find a cave, and live there the rest of your life, because you are going to spend the rest of your life alone. Is that what you want?

[Sugar100]

I think it’s a lie that the one for you will be someone that never has sex with you.

As I said, I know one woman she had sex on first date and that guy married her and they have a baby and buying a house.

So I think that simply the right guy will be the right guy no matter what you do. Sex or not.

[Lliam]

Why would anyone get married if they didn't have sex first to see if they were sexually compatible?
Compatibility is everything else - spiritual beliefs, values, lifestyles, hopes for the future, etc. - are essential. So is sexual compatibility.

I wouldn't marry anybody without knowing those things.

[mayurr]

Religious guy is boring for girls. They exist but not accepted by today's generation.
There r many girls who said they never accept a guy who've never been in any relationship before. They would date & marry that guy who had multiple partners before.
Even I stopped believing se before marriage is a myth due to this.

[Sugar100]

We’ll I’m thinking in order to get a first boyfriend I need date a Virgin guy. As virgin guys neevr had a girlfriend or sex so they agree to be your boyfriend and some can fall in love with u too. Like my brother he never had a girlfriend at 18 and fell in love with his first girlfriend and married now.

I’m having trouble find a first boyfriend , and I've met guys that already had a girlfriend and they deny be my boyfriend cuz they already had a serious relationship before me.

[mayurr]

29 yo virgin here😌 Not a single emotional attachment till now.

[mayurr]

Women dont want virgin men.

[Juxtapose]

Why do you say that like it's something to be proud of?

[Juxtapose]

You're really missing out my guy.

[mayurr]

Missing what?

[Juxtapose]

Physical intimacy in general.

[mayurr]

That doesn't mean I should start sleeping with anyone.

[Darkchild25]

Virgin men still do exist at your age. They are rare but they are out there.
I think someone already said you need to go out and mingle. Not online.

Don't give up hope. You shouldn't settle.

And just because they've had a girlfriend before doesn't mean theyve had sex or will want sex from you.

As long as you make your intentions clear at the beginning. Should anything occur you can walk away knowing you were upfront front the beginning and he wasn't the one.

[Juxtapose]

Yeah the whole no sex before marriage thing is ridiculous and even my mother says you want to test sexual compatibility before getting married.

[Sugar100]

I’m starting to believe it’s a myth, what if the couples that suppsivly wait til marriage what if they in secret are setting sending nudes? That still counts as a type of intamicy.

[Juxtapose]

It definitely is a myth and there's nothing about you that becomes lesser just because you have sex.

[Sugar100]

What if u wait til marriage and end up dissapinted the day you finally have sex or the guy has a tiny dick and you are regretful marrying him? Lol

[Juxtapose]

Yep, guys can get disappointed in bed too. What if she just lays there and does nothing? What if she never wants it?

[DrPepper12]

If you're in love, sex is an expression of that love. No need to wait.

[LazerBean]

They exist, I married one.

[Sugar100]

I’m soon 27 and never met. Aguy that wants marriage first and sex later.

I can’t even find a first boyfriend and I’m close to 30.

[Sugar100]

I don't know if you read but it’s facts the right one doesn’t need wait til marriage.

That one girl lived with her boyfriend, had baby then engaged then had second baby now finally married

[LazerBean]

K then