Is it worth it to marry at 40?

[enterr10]

Is it worth it and ok to get married for the first ever time at the age of 40?

Or it's too late now and better to be single and unmarried now at this age?

It's perfectly fine to get married first ever time at 40

It's a bit too late. There would be problem in having and raising children

It's too late now. Better to live an unmarried single life

[RavVid]

I think you should do a cost benefit analysis as you would for any business purchase. Two children will cost about 700K.

Median time to a wife unilaterally divorcing you is 8 years. What would a suitable house cost and how much would you lose in a divorce?

How much would go into supporting a wife - she would expect a better lifestyle than she has as a single woman. Make an estimate. Will she be stay at home? Average female earnings are 40K so 800K for 20 years. 320K for a median 8 year marriage.

If she is about 40 then it is quite likely she may need fertility treatment. I see widely varying estimates - up to 100K. You should get a good estimate because it seems variable enough to be a wildcard.

It is looking like at least a million plus for a wife and kiddies. How much happier will that make you compared to a cheaper girlfriend?

Plus the downside is pretty bad if she unilaterally divorces you. In the US do you get to pay off the mortgage when you are unilaterally divorced? Do you have to pay her alimony.

For myself I have already decided I'd prefer spending that money on myself and a wife and kiddies is a bum deal.

[RavVid]

Thanks a MHO. A wild card risk are courts legislating.

[AngryCarl2]

It's fine to marry at 40. Whether you'd be having kids is another matter. Biology doesn't wait for anyone.

[enterr10]

Is it better to be married or single unmarried forever?

[AngryCarl2]

There's only one way to find out. Thanks for MHO.

[Hawkes_Lady]

If you are in love with another person it is perfectly acceptable to marry that person and live your life together no matter what either of your ages are. Age is just a number. I would much rather spend my golden years married to the person I love, over being alone and lonely.

[OlderAndWiser]

It is late to start having children but that is only one of the reasons to get married. You are never too late to find love and begin a permanent relationship. I am getting married on April 27.

[Avicenna]

That's not the question you should be asking. You should be asking whether the woman you want to marry is worth marrying.

[Anonymous]

Is it worth it to pay top dollar for a car with 200k miles rusting a bit worn upholstery. A slight knock in the engine, bald tires and leaking fluid? Because that is most women past 40. A good woman NEVER loses value. But if she's a good woman than why is she single after 40? See what I'm saying? Some questions answer themselves. I think as a guy you Ned to remember that after 40 the power shifts (I know this angers women). But the 40's are typically the man's prime income earning years. Well after 40 women are definitely starting to lose their looks (some say 30's I personally think women look their best at mid to late 30's. It's like the old saying that fruit is sweetest at it's ripest right before it turns).

I think it's OK for a guy to marry after 40. But for God sakes take your time. If you did things right you have a lot to lose at this point and what's typically left in the dating pool is leftovers generally as far as women go just looking for a revenue stream. So be careful.

[Lliam]

My wife and I met when I was 40 and we got married two years later when I was 42. She's 2.5 years younger. Both of us had lived full and fulfilling lives before we met, but neither of us had been married.
We've been happily married now for over 26 years.

[enterr10]

You both were in some kind of relationship before meeting eachother?

[enterr10]

What about kids? How many kids did you both have after marriage?

[Lliam]

I had been in boyfriend-girlfriend relationships since I was 16. My last one ended a little over two years before I met my wife.

She had been in relationships, too. That's part of having a full and fulfilling life. I don't know the details of her relationship history. But she wasn't in one when we met.

I was never interested in having kids. She wanted one after we got married, but she had two miscarriages and decided that it wasn't meant to be. We've talked about kids since and are both now happy that we don't have any.

[exitseven]

40 is the new 20. Most young people cannot even move out of their parents house before 30 because they are so buried in student debt and their gender studies degree only got them a job at Dunkin Donuts.

[molonski2]

If you want to get married , and you have the right person 40 is a fine age to do so.

[DannyUk2017]

Nope.. i guess we are done and dusted!

[enterr10]

You haven't married yet?

[DannyUk2017]

Not anymore! Don't need anymore drama/toxic relationships in my life. 🤷‍♂️

[enterr10]

You were married before?

[DannyUk2017]

Yes i was.

[enterr10]

How does life feels being and living all alone?

[Curmudgeon]

How old is the lady in question?

[enterr10]

Umm say about 35
Why?

[Curmudgeon]

Ok, her biological clock is probably going off if you have a family in mind.

[NathanDavis]

if you're in love... age won't matter

[enterr10]

Is it okay to search for love at 40 and then plan to get married at that age?

[NathanDavis]

if you're in love... age won't matter

[slatyb]

Many people get married far older than 40.

[BarryLiverstone]

Better to be in a healthy marriage

[enterr10]

Than being single forever?

[BarryLiverstone]

For sure. Two are better than one

[DextroShade]

That is perfectly fine only if you are a man.

[Joker_]

marriage is worth it at 40

[Jmmmfi4]

PROBABLY NOT... I DON'T HAVE ANY HOPE

[enterr10]

You never married?

[Jmmmfi4]

Nooooooo

[enterr10]

Virgin too?

[Jmmmfi4]

Noooooooooooo

[strateguy632]

,3rd

[Jimmy8254]

To me age is really just a number