How to tell someone they're getting fatter without being mean?

[Popo21]

So long story short: when I first met my husband, he was pretty thin and fit. Now, a year into our marriage, he's gained a lot of pounds including a belly
which I don't really mind
but.. I really don't want him getting heavier since I'm just not attracted to that and since I'm such a health freak
how do I say it nicely?

[chloecheree42]

First of all, you might want to get rid of everything unhealthy in your house, and get rid of all the temptations to eat unhealthy. Maybe don't even tell him that he's getting big, but tell him that it's time to start getting healthier again. Just back it up with evidence of all the bad things when you don't eat healthy or exercise.

[kaylaS91]

You don't need to tell him that he's getting 'fat'. Just mention, in a really nice way, that you've noticed that he put on a bit of weight recently and that you think it'd be a nice idea if you both started to eat healthier , and set up a workout routine together.

[Red_Arrow]

That much in a year is a sign that he feels he attracted you and got you, and now he can let himself go. It is not very hard to keep your weight down. Certainly a lot easier that losing the weight after putting it on. He needs to stop gaining and work on losing.

[abc3643]

You don't. Instead, you control his diet at home more, eliminate anything with wasteful carbs, and have him do more chores. Google Atkins diet.

Don't say; do.

[Popo21]

But he's so picky and literally won't eat any greens
He just likes pizza lol

[abc3643]

Is he buying pizza? Have him eat at home. If he wants a pizza, cook it, but use a whole grain crust. Use vegetables as toppings and not meats. For pastas, use whole grain pastas.

Look: You need to stop this NOW. What he doesn't realize is that he's getting older now and his metabolism is slowing down so he can't eat now what he was eating at 17. He's peaked. That's it; it's all downhill from here. So, if you don't want your husband to be the Before Guy for a weight loss add, you need to stop his behavior. This is where a woman needs to be smart and not talk about the problem but control it. Pretend he's a kid (which he is really) and be pro-active on controlling what goes in his mouth and what he does with his time.

[SongBird3]

go for the cute approach,
cuddle with him and put ur head on this stomach and be all cute like, "ur so pudgy and soft."
but then again, ur married, you can be upfront.
or just dont bring junk in the house and work out together.

[Cmasterson]

Just tell him that you both should start hitting the gym, he's your husband so you have to be honest because he probably genuinely doesn't notice.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

"bruh, you're getting fatter. stop it!" he's your husband. i think he'll be fine if you straight up tell him

[ichot]

This right here. All this walking around the bush on fire isn't going to help you or him.

Unless he's a little pansy that can't take a bit of criticism (and so long as you aren't actually bullying him) it will be fine. People think they have all the time in their lives to fix something... That is not the case... well unless you're already financially set for life.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

@ichot exactly, unlike most girls, guys are generally fine if you just straight up tell them. as long long as you aren't bullying him about being fat, it's fine

[TheLawProf]

Just be honest. Let him know you don't mind that he's gaining weight, but you do care about his health. Let him know of your support.

[abc3643]

That's not going to work until he's 300 pounds.

[kittykatbrat]

He obviously knows and doesn't care.
I don't think anything you can say will matter.

[Abe90]

I don't really think there's a nice way to say it. You can just tell him that you're concerned.

[Anonymous]

Weight shouldn't matter if you love someone. He can still be healthy if his chubby

[ConsultantIsBack]

Tough love sis, give him some tough love

[Anonymous]

Try to ask him if he wants to start living a healthier life style/diet with you and always offer for him to go to the gym with you