It’s not uncommon to see, however guys tend to feel less of a direct investment in a girl if they aren’t the ones to initiate a few milestone actions… they subconsciously are just doing what YOU want and responding to you rather than doing what THEY want and feeling that sense of pride that comes with accomplishing a task.
It’s something I’ve observed from my own experience and I’m seeing friends go through a number of failed attempts at connecting with a gal. I’d you ask them why they’re not still with a certain girl, it’s usually bc they got bored of her doing everything… she was basically in a relationship with herself and asking the guy to participate in her schedule. (And what gal looking for love really wants THAT? None.)
So… let the guy initiate. Let him be the “doer” so he can develop a sense of pride and accomplishment just for being with his girl, esp if you’re expecting him to stay with you long-term.
If you’re only interested in short-term then it’s not important WHO initiates because you’re just expecting a friends with benefits/Hookup/Situationship that’s temporary.
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because we've been conditionned to think it's just guys that are supposed to make the first move. and if you're a girl and do it that it might turn the guy off
Because everyone sees it as men are supposed to approach and women just have to choose
Because the expecting has always been men making the first move
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Because the church has brainwashed the masses to believe that men should do the approach
It's a combination of cowardice and entitlement.
I don't know why, but I wish they would.
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