What if we never mention anything about kids, would men naturally want kids too?

[Anonymous]

I understand they don't like their gfs nagging about wanting kids, being scared of being baby-trapped and feeling pressured into it. Ok let's say we were to play dumb, never baby-trap you and never mention anything about wanting kids, would men naturally want kids too? Would they be capable of bringing up the topic themselves if the woman doesn't even remind them? Do they naturally (free will) want kids or not?

Here is the irony, they don't like being nagged but if some of them were to be suffering infertility (unable to ever impregnant a woman), several wouldn't like that either. One of my good friends is a fertility nurse. Several years ago, one of her patients was a married couple that's been trying to conceive for 3 years. It was discovered (teste 3 times) the guy had no sperm count and he actually left the office in tears.

Yes, even if a woman never mentions it

No, it naturally comes from women

[BetaBucks]

We still have moms, sisters and grandma's that have been telling us our whole lives that we need to make kids. I was a preteen when my grandma started filling my head with what my responsibilities were as a man. And she always made sure to say I need to buy my wife a house first. I got my wife pregnant before we even finished moving in to the first house I bought. Point is, the programming is strong.

Now, if no one told guys to have kids, ever, I think we'd just go back to being cavemen and trying to bang as many different girls as possible, with no regards for the aftermath.

[slatyb]

Just like women, some men want children and others do not. A woman hoping to start a family should bring this up on the first or second date "Why are you dating? Where would you like to be in five years?"

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has spoken with me about having kids and I hadn’t brought up the topic.

[Asker]

Interesting.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, but I think it’s a matter of intentions. Like obviously he could just not want to be a dad, that’s very common these days. But he’s not avoiding that topic like the plague because he does want a family one day. He’s also serious about me, which I think if he weren’t then he’d be scared, leery or avoidant entirely when it comes to that topic.

[Anonymous]

According to some polls, men are more likely to want children than women in the United States. Makes sense women are the ones who give birth and since we hear about women making most of the sacrifices associated with children and do the lion's share of the grunt work relating to them. (A lot of these women could have picked better men to have kids with though. They aren't blameless)

[PapaJedi]

Yes most of us want kids even we don't say that often.

Quite unexpected I guess lol

[Asker]

yeah interesting. I was also shocked to hear what my friend told me about that man. Wow, the news literally destroyed him. He really felt it and was super sad.

[jahaims]

You should discuss your morals, values and goals prior to it being serious.