Should I reach out to the woman who I suspect my man of cheating with?

[princessprettyxoxo]

I confronted my man about a woman’s number he is constantly calling and vice versa for the past week. I find out because he left an old iPhone at my apt and as I was cleaning I stumbled upon it and unknowingly thinking it was one of my old phones. When I turned it on, it was my man and the call logs popped up. Constant calling back and forth at various times of the day which is extremely inappropriate when you have a girl. Before I confronted him and he was on his way to my apt, it showed in the phone he deleted the name and blocked the number smh. When I finally confronted him he stated it was someone he met in passing before we got into a relationship and they were catching up about life. I told him I need confirmation and he stated he deleted the number because it was unnecessary to keep. I asked him if he’d be ok if I did the same thing he said no and he won’t be reaching out to her again. I don’t have a problem with him having female friends but this is way too suspicious. When he left I looked at the phone at night and he unblocked the number and re-saved it. My boyfriend has never did anything suspicious that I’ve seen and this caught me off guard. I’m so pissed off because we had an hour long convo and I thought we came to some clarity. I am on the verge of contacting the woman and seeing if this is a completely innocent situation. Should I or not? How should I handle it?

[Lowly_Grump]

Should you reach out to this hussy, this home-wrecking harlot, this... this... MAN STEALER? Absolutely NOT! Why lower yourself to the level of this cheap, lip-glossed strumpet? She's probably got more chins than a Chinese phone book and breath that smells like a dragon's fart after a week-long bean diet.

No, my dear, the real issue here is your so-called "man." This two-timing, phone-juggling scoundrel has some serious explaining to do! He's blocking and unblocking numbers like it's a bloody tap dance routine. What a nincompoop!

Here's what you do, my distressed damsel:

• Grab that old iPhone like it's a medieval mace and confront your husband again. Demand answers and don't take no for an answer. He's got some serious splainin' to do!
• If he tries to weasel his way out of it, threaten to change his ringtone to "It's Raining Men" and blast it every time he gets a call. That'll teach him!
• And finally, if all else fails, remember the age-old saying: "All's fair in love and war." So, declare war on this scoundrel and that hussy! Glue glitter to their door handles, fill their mailboxes with confetti, and release a swarm of angry bees into their car vents. That'll show 'em!

Remember, princessprettyxoxo, you are a strong, independent woman who doesn't need this nonsense. So, kick these cheating fools to the curb and find yourself a real man, one who doesn't hide behind blocked numbers and deleted call logs.

As for you, Mr. Cheater Pants, consider yourself warned. Lowly Grump is watching, and I have an arsenal of glitter bombs ready to deploy!

[Saggitariusdiva]

Lol.😂.
An absolute first class answer I couldn't have said it better

[Lowly_Grump]

@Saggitariusdiva "first class" as in one year after kindergarten?

[ManOnFire]

Hmmm. The part I'm a little confused about is how was he able to change stuff in his phone without being there? I don't use iPhone so not sure if they have some kind of remote feature? Also, how old were the call logs when you first saw them? Like, did they have a call very recently to when you discovered them?

The thing that says Guilty is that even after you had the conversation with him he went and unblocked her number and then saved it. That would definitely destroy a lot of trust. Any time someone in a relationship is being tip-tooey or doing unclear things like he is, it is not for innocent reasons.

Should you contact her? I don't think so. Faithfulness to you is his responsibility far more than it is hers. He is the one who is ultimately disrespecting you, and you have to decide if you're going to tolerate that or not.

[_Maya_]

So, you have a boyfriend and a husband? Are you cheating too then?

How and when do I approach my husband about possibly cheating?

You just said yesterday your husband. Now you have a boyfriend. Is this correct? "My boyfriend has never did anything suspicious that I’ve seen and this caught me off guard" Are you trolling or just plain lying? Either way why are you going through someone's phone and clearly without permission. Do you not extend privacy to your boyfriend and your husband? Do you expect privacy from them? Are you insecure? I think what you need to do is sit down with your boyfriend and your husband and sort this all out. I am sure they would love to meet each other and hang out. Just make sure you let them know which one of them you are going home with after.

[princessprettyxoxo]

Lmfaooo he’s my husband. We’re legally married I’m young so I call him either or. It’s what I’m used to I guess but I am not cheating and never cheated.

[_Maya_]

I have never heard anyone in my entire life refer to their husband as boyfriend. You are so young? Geez, I'm just a baby then I guess.

[princessprettyxoxo]

I mean they start off as your boyfriend right? Maybe you call a friend a boyfriend. NO. Where I come from boyfriend is someone you are IN a relationship with. Not a friend that’s a boy. So yeah maybe you are a baby

[Anonymous]

NO DON'T YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO SIT HIM DOWN AND TALK ABOUT IT WHY WILL YOU CONTACT HER IF HE ISN'T ACTUALLY CHEATING SHE'LL THINK AND KNOW YOU'RE INSECURE AND FEEL THREATENED BY HER.

AND ALSO TRUST IS A MUST IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP IF YOU DON'T TRUST HIM WHY ARE YOU EVEN WITH HIM.

I WONDER HOW YOUR HUSBAND WILL FEEL KNOWING YOU DON'T TRUST HIM AND YOU ASKED FOR ADVICE ONLINE... YOU'RE MATURED ENOUGH TO THINK AND PONDER ON WHAT TO DO IF YOU CAN'T IT SIMPLY SHOWS YOU AREN'T EMOTIONALLY MATURED FOR MARRIAGE

I'M A KID SO WHAT DO I KNOW

...😒🙄...

[Anonymous]

No don’t. She might cover for him or it could be nothing and you might end up causing drama. If you want maybe you can look up her phone number online and see what pops up. I think it’s better that you gather some more evidence but never confront the other woman directly,

[provokeesmokee]

Yeah, reach out.

Worst case, she knows about you and you get confirmation so you can start the breakup. Best case, she doesn't know about you and you're BOTH protected from a cheater.

[DishLady]

Yikes. No, please don’t escalate the drama. Just confront your guy with it and decide if you want to stay with a cheater or leave him.

[katiesmuff]

If your boyfriend won't give you a reasonable reason for all the interactions with this other chick I'd just dump him.

[fantasticass]

Nope. Men who cheat, will always cheat and blame you. I suggest you leave him and find someone who will treat you properly

[MrDaveAPSI]

Usually, the accuser, is the one who's actually committing the crime. You ever notice hot trump will start accusing biden of everything TRUMP is actually doing. It's called deflection from guilt

he's A FUCKING ASS

[nawtee_me]

Why would you do such a thing without proof? If it is not her then you have put undue feelings upon her. If you think your guy is cheating then leave him because it is his fault not hers. She didn’t cheat on you he did.

[Billlewis]

It may be the only way to put your mind at ease.

[exitseven]

Get a private investigator to check it out. It may be expensive but how much is peace of mind worth?

[RedInnocent69]

Fuck no. Your problem is him. She has nothing to do with it. Except lending him her vulva. And probably sucking his cock.

[SotiCoto]

Sure. Reach out and grab her by the throat.

[rienna888]

Oh gee, it sounds like he’s doing something he shouldn’t be. Dump him

[loveslongnails]

Go to her house so you can see her reaction face to face. Then you'll know.

[Anonymous]

But she doesn’t owe u a explanation. U do understand?

[Crazzyyworld]

No I would just leave it. Don’t say anything until he say something.

[Anonymous]

If your man is a high value man, you need to get used to the idea of sharing him.

[spartan55]

Yeah, contact the woman. That's a GREAT idea...🙄

[RavVid]

If he s going to cheat and be stupid, do it

[Anonymous]

No texts, IM, or emails?

[DreamLife7]

Why don't u leave? He doesn't like you obviously