Why would people flirt , gossip and try every ways to hurt someone s feeling in workplace?

[Jojojojojojojo]

i ve been working in this company for around a year. When i first got here there s a guy (i would call him A) in finance department, a manager, and the boss s brother.

The other co workers would try persuading me to date A, made it sounds like A likes me. A did threw hints.

but i dont think i can date people from my workplace. It might turn into nightmares… or people would make fun of me.

I ignored them for half year.
Then they started calling me arrogant / waiting for people to chase.

The gossip went on and off. i was mentally stressed.

They would send me pic of him talking to another girl , told me to make a move or else it will be too late.

Weeks ago, A officially started dating a girl. He shared everything about her in the office. He usually in his room but now he would go out and share in open areas /even in conference. Her pics , videos , what she likes , what she doesn't like.
I feel worse because they once compare her to me.

and the others would put pressure on me like it s weird that i m still single.
What would u do if u were me?
Why would people try to make workplace toxic? What s the purpose of that?
i feel like no matter what i did rumour goes on

[kmg9150]

Just do you, when people say things dont ignore them, respond with a whitty comment that directs it on them. Like wow, I’m flattered that my life is that interesting for you to lose interest in your own.



Or, “You know I feel like a bad coworker, you spend all this energy looking into my life in which I spend none into yours.


My favorite, Monkey see, monkey do, thats you see me but I dont see you.


I know its hard, but find peace and try to not let it bother you. They do these things because they are sad inside. The boss and coworkers. I mean he feels deep down inside others need to be envious of him to feel like he matter…. The others delve into others lives due there's being one they are not happy with and dont want to think about…. Its actual sad when you realize how many people are like this. Being single does not mean anything is wrong with you.

[Jojojojojojojo]

Ugh.. i guess i would.
They literally grossed me out.

I would look at A girlfriend s pic and
Be Like : let me how the girl looks like👀
Oooh looks like your daughter haha.
Oh
Congratulations u finally end up dating someone at the age of almost 35 or 40.
Finally no longer a silly puppy love u r all about.

For The girl sitting behind me that would tell people she slept with someone and End up getting ghosted.

I noticed she would also take pics of people without their permission. Like taking photos of how my boss dressed like and laugh.

I will be putting a phone in front of her but not taking pics. Try to see how would she react. Lol

And then tell the boss i saw your pics in her phone👀 i was surprised she missed u so much that she carries your pics everywhere.

[kmg9150]

@Jojojojojojojo the other option is look for another job or start a your own business so you dont have succumb yourself to such a toxic work environment.

[eagle1951]

they are called bullies nowadays, in my days they were called ass holes

[Amur8711]

They just want drama because their lives are boring

[Danny_dan92]

Ones that do this are immature

[Anonymous]

Boredom.