What do you think of this guy's behaviour?

[Anonymous]

So a few months ago I ended my long term relationship, the last year have been very suffocating and heavy and at the moment I don't want anything serious.

I have a guy friend who also ended a relationship a year ago with an obsessive girl (when he broke up with her she stalked and threatened him) and he says that he isn't looking for serious relationships because the last one has been very stressful for him.

When I told him that I was single he started inviting me to events, also with his friends (we never hung up alone and we are in an another group of friends) and to seek physical contact with me (brushing against me, touching my arm, nothing sexually direct).

After few weeks we had sex (I initiated) and since then we hang out 2/3 times a week and he almost every time sleeps at my place. At the beginning he was very "cold" physically (not cuddling with me or kissing much) but now he is more soft and reciprocates. Also he keeps inviting me to events or parties (some are taking place in months) and we talked about going abroad this winter for a concert. Next week he'll move to his own apartment and he already invited me to come and we talked about movies and games that we can watch and play. He also told me that if I want I can leave there some of my stuff without problems. Lastly, we talked a lot about his last relationship and he told me things that he never told to anybody else.

What do you think of his behaviour? He keeps saying that he doesn't want relationships for some years so he sees me only as company/friend? Usually I'm good at understanding people but he kinda confuses me 😅

[Insecure2]

I'm not really good with relationship issues, but I would say that he is getting comfortable with you. He is starting to open up to you, he likes spending time with you, he wants you in his life. At first he probably really didn't want a relationship, but might have changed his mind. We always assume that what people said at one point will be set in stone forever, but it's not. Time passed, he got over IT and now he is ready for a another relationship. He probably never said anything, because you didn't say that you want a relationship. So the both of you might be just too self-conscious and afraid to make a move.

[DishLady]

I think you should ask him if he’s trying to be you’re new boyfriend or if this is a friends with benefits situation for him.

[MisterWack]

I think you are both in a relationship however he doesn’t want to admit to it. You both have a lot in common, have banged multiple times, enjoy each other’s company, and he invites you to a lot of gatherings since he loves having you around also you accept because you enjoy his company as he enjoys yours. Initiate relationship, ask him to be your boyfriend and you be his girlfriend!

[exitseven]

It sounds like exactly what each of you need at this time in your respective lives. Why pick it aoart,

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[waterliliestxt]

You guys seem to be having a wonderful time and I’m sorry to say this but I think you both made a mistake. It’s easy to get caught up in the surface level emotions. If he doesn’t see a relationship with you but you do, I wouldn’t stay. You don’t have to leave, but don’t make him your priority.

[aengus27]

There may be something, but it's hard to know
I mean, you can be close friends without being in a relationship. It just depends on what you want I guess
And then again, sometimes you just need someone to tell things to

[mattthefatbat]

Sounds like this new guy that is showing interest in you is wanting a relationship with you, and could possibly lead to you two being In a longterm relationship

[Bubblegum143]

It sounds like he does not want to be serious, but he is enjoying your love attention and company. I would just do your thing and if you guys hang out great but be careful not to put too much into him

[WhitneySnow]

I think he really likes you but he’s scared of calling it a relationship

[DarkLegacy]

It is just casual sex and saying he is suffocating you is just melodramatic

[Asker]

The relationship I ended was suffocating

[noohair]

Men used to have to make a commitment to a woman for sex. It was usually courtship and marriage. Women wanted freedom and equality. This is what freedom and equality looks like.

[Nikki1989]

He wants a relationship with you. Run with it.

[SoJust]

Are you disturbed?

[Asker]

Why being so mean?

[Twalli]

You're in a relationship in all but name