What do you do when your self esteem drops this low?

[Anonymous]

Like I have over time become so self conscious about my appearance that I don’t like leaving the house and when I do like today going to the store and feeling that some women were looking at me it gave me immense anxiety

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are some tips for dealing with low self-esteem:

- Remember that everyone judges themselves more harshly than others judge them. Those women were probably just shopping and not paying close attention.

- Do small things each day to take care of yourself, like taking a shower, getting dressed in clothes that make you feel good. Baby steps to boosting self-care and confidence.

- Spend time with good friends who lift you up and make you laugh. Their support can help drown out the noise in your head.

- Remind yourself daily of a few things you like about yourself, even if they seem small. Our flaws aren't all we are.

- Avoid comparing yourself to others on social media. People usually only show the good, so it's not realistic.

- Talk to someone you trust, like a counselor, parent or mentor. Getting these feelings off your chest can help you gain perspective.

- Remember this is just a phase and won't last forever. You've got this, bro! Stay strong.

[coxoabean]

I would recommend doing things you enjoy, as to not allow yourself to get any worse. Doing things you like can help distract you. When we usually just sit idle, and have time to think it causes us problems. So, finding things to do is great. You can get a journal and everyday write at least 10 things you do like about yourself.

Write what you liked about your day too! What you may have not liked about your day, and then too write how you can try to do better the next. But if you do write what you can try to do better the next day, you should make it a goal to follow it. Don't let your mistakes tear you down, everyone makes mistakes!

You should also change the way you think, as we'll often think the worst, causing us to feel so down. A positive mind is key. If the reasons you are feeling down are fixable, such as you feel your too skinny, or the other way around, you could find a way to fix it, by working out. If you don't like your appearance you could find ways to fix it to, such as if you need a haircut or to find a new haircut style to try. (I'm not saying to totally be unhappy with yourself and the way God made you, but if you think there are things that you can help to improve what you don't like, go ahead.) Things like that. You should learn though to find the positive as well, more than the negative as it can help. It's not necessarily bad for you to try and find the negative you didn't like about yourself as you can do so to try and fix it (if it can be).

Listen to encouraging interviews from people who talk about boosting your confidence, who are positive. There are plenty of videos on the Internet that tell you how to learn to be more positive.

You could also read books on these things.

Also, don't listen to negative music, as the music you listen to has a huge impact on your mood and who you are.

[Asker]

Things are not enjoyable doing it alone and I don’t have friends

[coxoabean]

I'm sorry, I understand. If you ever need encouragement or someone to talk to I'm here. I know it's hard when you have nobody

[SweetJoyGirl]

As a psychology student, I will suggest seeing a therapist to help you get through that. There may be a more underlining issue. 💜

[SweetJoyGirl]

Underlying*

[Asker]

What do you mean I can’t just be hideous

[SweetJoyGirl]

Idk…I have not seen you. I am going based off what you said.

[Asker]

Well when women stare I assume I’m hideous

[SweetJoyGirl]

That is not what that means. Please, see a therapist. 💜

[BetaBucks]

Exercise. But not for aesthetics. For mental health. Do whatever feels best. Change it up. Just stay active and don't isolate yourself. Then, when you're feeling up to it, go bang some hookers and do blow. Maybe not that last part. I don't know.

[Anonymous]

I like your writing @coxobeans.. I missed lots of months in my balance life... now it's some backfire in carrier.. and less focus towards goal and have trouble what to fix as trouble