What type of man goes after not just sex but also money?

[Vesuvius87]

Inspired by the question regarding if men mainly use a woman for sex, I think I've encountered a different, strange breed. Supposedly once they use a woman for sex, they're gone but this wasn't my case. My first ex boyfriend went further than just sex.

This is all he took from me:

Bonding, friendship, relationship, sex and MONEY I never got back. Scammed by not just any man nor one of those Nigerian scammers.. he was my boyfriend. Then one time he kept asking how much my grandma pays for her rent or how much does my father gets paid for his properties. Lastly, he once suggested me to later on start researching about my father's living will. So apparently sex wasn't enough.

Obviously I'm in a happy stage right now but do more of those men like that exist? Someone like him isn't just your average player. What type of man goes after both sex and money?

Updates

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My mother said men like that actually always existed too but they're not in the majority. Most users would just get sex and leave. He went much further than that.

[Goahead76]

This type of men are also known as a Kriminal, or the more common spelling "Criminal".

Criminal
adjective

1. Of, involving, or having the nature of crime.

2. Relating to the administration of penal law.

3. Guilty of crime.

*The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language

[Vesuvius87]

yeah, a scumbag, lowlife, no good for nothing
Now that I'm engaged, that scumbag had the nerves to text me a ''Congratulations on your engagement'' from another different number. I blocked that number too and set my FB and whatsapp profile to private. Those criminals don't stop poking up from time to time, wow.

[Goahead76]

Makes you wish you could warn any of his next potential victims.

[hahahmm]

Con artists. I explain how it works in Don't Be a Sucker

[Vesuvius87]

Thank you for sharing that post. I've just read it and wow he fits practically all in your description. At some point, he start becoming demanding and somewhat authoritarian, that I had to sudden to him and his needs. He definitely guilt tripped and use trivial ultimatums that if I made stupid mistakes, he would block me and our relationship is over. I feel stupid for ever giving him the time of the day. I regret ever meeting him.

[hahahmm]

Just don't be one of the people who attract this type of person. You'll be fine. This may help you too. Although it has a story from a guy's POV the same idea applies to women: A Note On Giving Trust ↗

[DannyUk2017]

The type that haven't worked Too much in his entire life... The type that got "comfortable" with having Everything "ready for him" without too or any Effort... The type that does drugs and becomes repulsive & demanding because "his needs" need to be fulfilled... The tyoe that "sees you" as his Cash Cow (no pun intented) and nothing else past that... That's what i came to a conclusion also after a Brand new House built, A Family car bought, and now she talks to her "friends"...: i need to do this "to my house", i need to do that "to my house", is Bot Our House anymore... Is Her House...🤷‍♂️

[DannyUk2017]

Is "not" Our House anymore... Sorry, tryin to type Fast...😅😁

[Finchie40]

I don’t pursue girls’ for money , but I only pursue a girl that has her shit together and not looking to mooch off of me , I like girls’ that are perfectly capable of taking care of herself , that aren’t looking for a hand out , I want a girl that is my partner , we work together as a team , we spoil each other and have each others’ backs no matter what

[Vesuvius87]

Exactly. That's how it should be.

[DryGermanGuy]

"No man. No man at all."

- Gustavo Fring, Breaking Bad

[Vesuvius87]

Nice phrase.

[dolemite58]

There’s definitely loser type guys that want a sugar mama out there, I think most men have more self respect than that though.

[Vesuvius87]

Yeah a total loser and a liar. This loser wouldn't stop trying to contact me. I found better and I'm engaged by now. He had the nerve to congratulate me for my engagement. I've blocked that new number too.

[Billlewis]

I know this is probably a little off topic, but I enjoy being in a relationship with a woman who uses me for money, without letting me have any penetrative sex with her.

[Vesuvius87]

It's more commen a woman that's in need of money (though I'm financially stable myself) than a man getting money from us.

[Billlewis]

Yes, I agree. Guys who want to take advantage of women disgust me, but I think a guy who is interested in having a male pay pig serve he and his girlfriend are incredibly hot.

[QuietRunner]

Men that don't want to work from themselves. That they have been told previous male dominated jobs must accept more women and that a man's ability to earn money is not valued

These are the men that will take money from you and instead of earning it themselves.

If you need a helping hand to get back to work, accept it. However men should not live off the wealth and hard work of others if they are capable of working themselves.

[Vesuvius87]

Indeed. At some point he started getting obsessed with me growing a food business. Suddenly the conversation would go on that if I had a business, like 50-60% would go towards him. Sick man.
My father was very disgusted and considers him a monster and a total disgrace for the whole male gender.

[ProbablyClueless]

You'll be able to recognize them. Those kinds of guys give off sleaze vibes like no one's business.

[Vesuvius87]

I wasn't experienced at the time.

[ProbablyClueless]

It doesn't take much experience, honestly. All you need to do is encounter that sort of person once, even if it's only casually, or you're seeing them out in public and interacting with you. Once you see it once, you'll know it when you see it again.

It really IS a whole thing. It's super noticeable.

[Jackblue]

A man who exploits you one way will likely exploit you for everything he can.

[Wolf_Thunderspirit]

That's not a man, by my definition - for either reason.

[Anonymous]

I think the better question is what type of woman falls for a guy like that.

[Vesuvius87]

I was naivee and very inexperienced at the time. I thought I was helping a boyfriend in need.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, at least you learned from it right? Unfortunately there are those types of people on both sides of the gender line. An opportunist will take whatever they can get.

[Vesuvius87]

yeah I learned. By now I'm jealous with my money and no one can access it except if I had to ask my parents to do it. It's just that we're always told about being careful with men using us for sex and leaving but not about one that's after money too.

[Opinion Owner]

So what you're saying is you got a taste of what it's like to be a man all the time. Because there are a lot of opportunistic women. And if a guy was to post this on here the overwhelming response to him from women would be, "don't choose a gold diggers next time".
I'm not saying what happened to you isn't unfortunate. But women would NOT feel bad this happening to a man one iota.

[Vesuvius87]

I actually feel horrible when it happens to anyone. I hate users of both genders. I'm currently in a better relationship by now and actually a fiancee for the first time. I'm marrying for the right reasons and have no problems signing a prenup. I hated having my hard earned money taken and not ever doing this to anymore. No one deserves to ever get used. It's just that at the time, I didn't know these types of men also existed for the longest. My mother said they do exist but not too much.

[Vesuvius87]

I hate that opportunists of any genders. They suck. I hate people that take away someone else's hard earned money.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, you're in a better situation now. That's what's important right? Sometimes we have to learn the hard way. I was raised that all women were "ladies". And I believed that till I was 40. Despite many signs to the contrary. So I get what you're saying. Nobody likes being played for the fool. The last woman who played me played me for a almost a decade before I wised up. You don't think I didn't feel like a grade A jackass. I'm still glad I met her and went through it all the because I like I think I've learned from it. The only regret I have now is I don't think I can fully trust ever again. Maybe there's a bit of you who feels that way. It's unfortunate, but this is life. At least you got fooled when you were young and naive. Apparently I held my naivete a bit longer.

[Nice222]

Well with equality and equal opportunity employment. I was expect both men and women to go for money these days.

[NathanDavis]

those are not men though...

[Vesuvius87]

My father considered him a total disgrace for the whole male gender, an actual disgusting being.

[Bklynbadboy12]

A man definitely 2ouldnt do that

[RedInnocent69]

A poor one. 😂