I met this guy professionally and I felt we had great chemistry - he encouraged me to stay in touch from the start. He is very responsive when I reach out asking for his help and so sweet. We spoke a few times and so I asked him to meet for coffee as I enjoyed talking with him. At this point I did not know he had a girlfriend. I did ask him what he was up to on weekends and he never mentioned anyone. When I asked to meet for coffee, he did not clearly answer, but then told me to "stay in touch". I found out about his girlfriend on social media because she tagged him in a photo. Why wouldn't he just tell me he has a girlfriend when I asked him for coffee when I have clearly been flirting with him and he appears to reciprocate the interest but won't actually escalate anything? It had me confused. I was beginning to feel like I imagined things or that I did something wrong. If he wasn't interested, I would have imagined after I asked to meet up, he wouldn't encourage further contact by saying to stay in touch? And now I am confused as to whether he genuinely wants to be in touch but doesn't want me to know about his girlfriend? He could have simply mentioned her when explaining his plans over the weekend that she tagged him in. FYI, he does not know that I know about the girlfriend.
My guess is that he's enjoying the attention but he isn't really looking to do anything but talk. My guess is that he's not always had the easiest time with women and so it's hard for him to resist the attention he's getting.
If he intended to try to cheat on his girlfriend with you, he'd likely have been much more forward, and since he wasn't, I think he's just enjoying the attention. I'm not saying that's okay - I don't believe in leading people on or otherwise being unclear - I'm just explaining what I believe he's doing and thinking. Obviously I don't know him and could be mistaken.
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Because he was debating on whether he should go with you or not, considering he has a girlfriend, He is basically contemplating on whether he should cheat on his girlfriend with you or not? If he does end up going with you? Understand he more than likely wants to hook up with you and probably have sex with you. Don’t think otherwise
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My take:
He has a girlfriend but the relationship is not good and may end soon. He wants you to be available for him when that happens. I don't see anything wrong with that. It's not like he's married.
He would quite like a side chick (we all would) but is unsure of the consequences.
His current girlfriend is a known quantity but as yet you aren't despite his attraction to you.
So I think he wants to keep you in play while thinks more.
Well... if his current relationship goes down in blaze of glory, he can always give you a call. It's a nice way of saying, I am taken for now, but you can be my back-up plan.
Both my parents are of two different races. And here I am people say I look like my mom, however my Asian family is very much Muslim and as a result see me as another race separate from them. With my father's family they have written me off since I was a kid
So yes... Interracial relationships lead to my Conception. And I wouldn't be alive it it hadn't happened. However this can lead to your Child having an identity crisis. I am still dealing with my identity crisis as my mom is Asian and my dad is Of Eurasian decent
Either he’s one of those guys who likes helping people but when it comes to girls he always makes it look like he has a crush on them, or he is just another average Joe playing games with peoples emotions.
Your the other woman
You dodged a bullet
Have you ever heard of a back up quarterback just in case that’s wrong but sometimes guys do that
Its an ego gratification thing. he's telling himself there's an exit strategy.
He's looking at you as a potential next girlfriend.
Sometimes guys just genuinely enjoy interacting with women as people. As crazy as that sounds in today's time; those sorts of people do exist.
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