So this dude had a falling with me about a month ago, we went no contact for 3 weeks, then HE broke it, so I told him this:
"So I want to share my thoughts
I feel like we've been having a hard time connecting lately, & I'm not sure what's going on. I just hope you are more open to me about where you're at instead of leaving me wonder & read between the lines. I think we're both adults & can handle having an honest conversation about this..
I think you're so sweet, & I do enjoy our connection. It's just that we've been talking for a couple of months now& it's a little bit of a shame to jump into conclusion & throw our connection out the window simply because of the mixed signals - but I'm also left wondering whether I've done something to warrant this style of communication because it isn't fair-It seems a little disheartening
I haven't tried you for the past month bec I thought you just pulled the brakes on whatever it is we have without even talking to me about it, but I clearly like you, or I wouldn't have wasted months believing there's potential that this might work because you never gave me a reason to believe otherwise until you straight up went ghost.
So for me, it seems like you're using me to entertain a dull day & that doesn't sit right with me because friendships or relationships shouldn't be that hard,& I simply find it rude to ghost those who we supposedly care about.
I want this to work because I genuinely care for you. I appreciate what we have, and I'll be there when you need me, but I also can't ignore the feeling that you might pull away again.
I'm just hoping we can be honest with each other, & not waste each other's time?"
He responded like that:
"You are right.
It’s a shitty thing to do to a friend.
I may take awhile to reply but I won’t drop the ball completely."
So I double tapped & left him alone.
Today he texts me:
"Hey ☺️!
Hope you're having a good weekend."
I don't get it. What's he want?
"So I want to share my thoughts
I feel like we've been having a hard time connecting lately, & I'm not sure what's going on. I just hope you are more open to me about where you're at instead of leaving me wonder & read between the lines. I think we're both adults & can handle having an honest conversation about this..
I think you're so sweet, & I do enjoy our connection. It's just that we've been talking for a couple of months now& it's a little bit of a shame to jump into conclusion & throw our connection out the window simply because of the mixed signals - but I'm also left wondering whether I've done something to warrant this style of communication because it isn't fair-It seems a little disheartening
I haven't tried you for the past month bec I thought you just pulled the brakes on whatever it is we have without even talking to me about it, but I clearly like you, or I wouldn't have wasted months believing there's potential that this might work because you never gave me a reason to believe otherwise until you straight up went ghost.
So for me, it seems like you're using me to entertain a dull day & that doesn't sit right with me because friendships or relationships shouldn't be that hard,& I simply find it rude to ghost those who we supposedly care about.
I want this to work because I genuinely care for you. I appreciate what we have, and I'll be there when you need me, but I also can't ignore the feeling that you might pull away again.
I'm just hoping we can be honest with each other, & not waste each other's time?"
He responded like that:
"You are right.
It’s a shitty thing to do to a friend.
I may take awhile to reply but I won’t drop the ball completely."
So I double tapped & left him alone.
Today he texts me:
"Hey ☺️!
Hope you're having a good weekend."
I don't get it. What's he want?
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Also YESTERDAY- I saw him online & typing for a WHOLE MINUTE. But didn't send anything.
I don't know if he's just clapping back at me because he's still upset or what? (With the friend-zone I mean). How do I handle him politely? (Also he's not a fuck boy. He's introverted)
I don't know if he's just clapping back at me because he's still upset or what? (With the friend-zone I mean). How do I handle him politely? (Also he's not a fuck boy. He's introverted)
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You know those online monitor things are not accurate. Which is hilarious because girls treat it like gospel.
That's not an answer to my question😅
That's right it isn't
He was on to you. He's playing the same game now.😆
Uhm. I told him I liked him- he friend zoned me. I backed off, and left him alone. Yesterday I saw him online + typing, but didn't send anything. Today I got the "hey hope you're weekends good" text.
I'm not playing a game. And neither is he by the way. I don't get it.
Well, clearly you have it all figured out which is why you asked this question.
You can't make people act the way they should. I posted what I did because typically women ignore men (play hard to get) first. Then get angry when the guy plays the same game back. Don't know, don't care whether he has any interest in you or you in him. But I will say this, and this would be my advice to either gender. Treat people how you'd want to be treated. And don't tolerate nonsense. There are simply too many people in the world or fish in the sea if you will to do that.