Why a 50+ guy still thinks he can have any 20+ chippy he wants?

[DishLady]

I work with a 52yo guy who is so vain he takes at least 20 selfies a day to post to his dating app profiles, yet he doesn’t even know how to set his hair — literally suffocates his hair with globs of gel and uses really bad home-card due rather than to let his salt-and-pepper shine through, etc. (Yikes what a look.)

Yesterday he reveals his look is designed to attract his future Mrs. and I did a really genuine double take bc (1) none of the women I know would be attracted to a guy who looks and acts like Fred Rogers (creator and host of Mr Rogers Neighborhood), (2) none of the very spelt women I know in their 20s would want a lanky old bear-bellied guy whose main interest in them would be to marry and make babies from now to kingdom come…

Meanwhile, he treats women his age really poorly for no other reason than that they’re not breeding material. (Even me, and we’re actually on friendly terms with each other, but I find a lot of what he says and does either offensive or just plain ridiculous.)

Anyway, to help him out I shoved a few catalogues his way and offered to burn his horrible blah sweater and fling his hair gel gun into the ocean to be swept away for all eternity. But otherwise I’m not inclined to offer any guidance because he’s basically a “dirty old man” type literally trying to camouflage his age to get a young choppy to breed. Period.

So tell me, guys, what makes a socially awkward, stylistically-challenged guy think he can just go out and find Mrs 20-Something rather than just dating someone closer to his age?

[TonyMetal___86]

Miss dish, couldn't stop laughing when i read the details in your questions and this paragraph many time "a lanky old bear-bellied guy whose main interest in them would be to marry and make babies from now to kingdom come…" 😂😂

I guess this answers everything, let him keep living in his dreams till the kingdom comes" 🤣🤣

When a man looks at a woman JUST for breading material than he doesn't actually deserves a woman!

[TonyMetal___86]

Thanks for the mho miss dish 😌

[BoobMan]

A 52 year old taking selfies? LMFAO! As to what makes him think he'll be successful in his endeavor, I have no idea. But it's certainly the case that even weirder guys have had success, so I guess if it works for him it's all good. Does it work? What's his dating history like?

[DishLady]

Unsuccessful now in three countries and counting.

[BoobMan]

LOL! Wow--that's not a great track record!

[DishLady]

No, but if you saw him you’d understand.

[BoobMan]

I'd love to hear more about it! You should ping me since it seems I can no longer ping you!

[NamerOfStars]

Plenty really CAN'T understand want, can it?

He doesn't think he can have anyone he wants; that's why he goes through so much effort to get it. If he truly felt he was entitled, he'd just take them. He doesn't. He's driven to seek out younger women by the basic biological imperatives that lead our species to everything it has now. How dare he.

The real question is why you feel entitled to men like him. There's no difference between saying people have to date someone in their age range and saying people have to date someone in their melanin range. This is a man you don't even WANT, and yet it bothers you that he seeks women who have traits you can't match.

You need to do a little self-reflection. Your hypocrisy is showing.

[DishLady]

Oh… he “takes” them. Don’t presume.

[DishLady]

And how is it hypocrisy? I stay in my own lane and actually helped the moron. Get a dictionary, Mr savior-of-the-species.

[LiamS95]

He delusional just like some of the women his age that try to dress look and act like a young 20 year old girl.

[DishLady]

Agreed. Neither one should be making that conceptual leap.