How do I stop feeling depressed at seeing things reminding me that only men are incles and women can't be?

[Anonymous]

[MCheetah]

Stop desiring women and stop thinking of sex and women in this romanticized fantasy way you picture in your mind. I used to be the same way in my early to mid 20's, which was only ten years ago. I kept think a relationship with the right girl would make my life "complete." Only to realize that it's an illusion. It's not real. Certain men call these girls "unicorns" for a reason. Most women (let alone, human beings) are annoying, selfish, and a pain in the ass to deal with. It's true we can't live without each other, but no one is going to be that "special loving woman" us modern men always think about, when we think about falling in love and marriage and all that stuff. That's why the metaphor is "take the red pill." (Not that I'm endorsing it or saying it's what you need to do.) It's because we can wake up from The Matrix and see the world for the ugly truth of what it is.

Now to STOP yourself from being cynical and nihilistic in such a world? Own a dog. (Or a cat if you live in a crappy studio apartment.) Try to work out more. And ALWAYS SET GOALS IN LIFE! A man without a goal is like a boat without a destination. It'll just drift in a sea of porn, fast food, and depression. I myself am working on my own goals, and they won't come easy or quick. But you NEED to set goals for yourself, and try to achieve them. And women should NOT be on that list of goals, especially since they are out of your control.

[Asker]

I agree with the goals part, but I think I should still be "allowed" to have a woman, don't want to be single for my entire life.

[MCheetah]

But that's the problem. you're waiting on someone else to bring you happiness. You can still want a woman, but unless you drug and kidnap someone, you can't MAKE a woman be with you. Too many men, if not most, waste much of their lives trying to rely on someone else to bring them happiness.

[ChrisMaster69]

By growing up and actually being a guy and not playing the victim.

it’s all a bit melodramatic.

[EnglishEuropean]

Stop letting women define you.

[EnglishEuropean]

Also women can be incels.