A lot of guys donβt want to come off looking desperate because they think it might drive you away, so they usually wait a bit to show that they are not desperate. Also they are very worried about what they write and may brood over how to respond for a while. Its just a silly thing we do, if you want him to text you back faster tell him you like it when he replies right away, then he will do it all the time, freaking out all the way that he might say something that might come off wrong.
I just think that they might be busy. After a while if not hearing from them I just assume they weren't interested and didn't have the balls to actually tell me so I just move on. Clearly they aren't worth my time.
Depends on people, and has nothing to do with dating either. Some just do everything else before replying to any kind of messages even in group chats. And it's freaking annoying. I'm trying to organize the evening for EVERYONE, don't you realize you answering 8 hours late is slowing us down too?
For me, I just like enjoying my own time. I have a life, full of adventure and barely any sleeping. I got priorities too, and I know you're one too but let's be real, I got things to do for the both of us and mostly myself. Idek if your words are just words, you can be unloyal asf to me. I don't know, texting ain't nothing but a conversation in our heads. Sure, you want to talk to me, but most guys need their time alone.
Texting is lame. I put almost zero effort into it as to just use it to set up a meeting. and to answer: If you text back right away all the time they assume I'm desperate and stop texting me. Story of my life, this is also why I hate texting... It takes a VITAL human element out of interactions.
Either busy or unsure what to say, as many women fameously look too deep into something, assume the worst and then get mad. So really we're just sitting ducks since you also get mad if we don't reply right away. Also in my opinion, playing hard to get just gives the impression that youaren't interested. Which might be the reason for slow replies
If we're really into you, we won't make you wait to hear from us. That said, I work in construction, the only times I can talk is when I'm off, sleeping, or it's the weekend. If I can, I'll let her know when I can talk or when I can't.
he might be busy, he might forget to reply or he might do the not desperate rule that boys and girls do and wait an amount of time before. my mate does it and its stupid but does keep convos going for longer.
@YoYoNibba I dont get what all the people have about all that Facebook, Snapchat, Pinterest, Twitter, etc. thing. people, live your lives, not social media
@Anifauqa well... a kind of, but not exactly in the original meaning of the word. Cooking website are social sites of some sort, whole Internet is. It is difficult to border the lines for that.
@Anifauqa LOL what's your deal, boy? Nope, The Internet is supposed to be social, saying it is a social site is a little too much rough. And hahah no, I'm not anti-Internet, if I was, I wouldn't be here, don't you think? Relax
@Anifauqa OH GOD. Again, I am NOT SAYING it is not. Of course it IS. I already said that in one of the previous reply, my point is, that it is not a social SITE exactly. That is all.
why wait just sms from someone? 😂😂 if no reply than 1 hour... for me lets move on the next 😂😂😂 and next... no reason to wait if he doesn't care to reply u. . .
I respond when I can, and in college I forgot often. I don't complain when someone takes hours, people have lives of their own. The types that can't understand that I don't need
I have experienced this before where my ex wanted me to respond in a timely fashion to her text messages which meant right away but most of the time I was working and because of privacy regulations I couldn't have my cell phone on me because of my job she can understand that so realize it could be work it is nothing directed towards you to make you feel angry
I hate when playing games and when girls do it too. The only time I would be late replying to a text if I'm busy with something going on in my life or, I'm giving you your personal space. I respect that and I don't want to come off as clingy.
If I'm busy with something. I let them know ahead of time what I'm doing and can't talk or tell them afterwords why I wasn't responding.
Because we're not glued to our phones 24/7. We got a lot of stuff to do. Hanging out with friends, sports, gym, GAMING, goofing around and seasons. So, it takes us late to reply.
Take it easy and make yourself busy then you won't put your attention on when reply will arrive... it all matter of priority you're at. @ nobody is too busy
It's a losing battle for both sides because neither person wants to come off as clingy nor distant. We don't know when the best/most convenient time to reply is. I just reply whenever I get around to it.
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So this question is basically "I want this person I texted to immediately drop everything else they are doing and answer me now!"
Sorry, sweetie pie. I answer you on my timeline not the one you have set in your mind.
A lot of guys donβt want to come off looking desperate because they think it might drive you away, so they usually wait a bit to show that they are not desperate. Also they are very worried about what they write and may brood over how to respond for a while. Its just a silly thing we do, if you want him to text you back faster tell him you like it when he replies right away, then he will do it all the time, freaking out all the way that he might say something that might come off wrong.
I just think that they might be busy. After a while if not hearing from them I just assume they weren't interested and didn't have the balls to actually tell me so I just move on. Clearly they aren't worth my time.
of not hearing*
Depends on people, and has nothing to do with dating either. Some just do everything else before replying to any kind of messages even in group chats.
And it's freaking annoying. I'm trying to organize the evening for EVERYONE, don't you realize you answering 8 hours late is slowing us down too?
Well i know man also have their business.. But come one at least at night not busy right
Currently my "close" friend missing for last 2 night...
I wonderingvwhat happened...
Seems like nothing is wrong
For me, I just like enjoying my own time. I have a life, full of adventure and barely any sleeping. I got priorities too, and I know you're one too but let's be real, I got things to do for the both of us and mostly myself. Idek if your words are just words, you can be unloyal asf to me. I don't know, texting ain't nothing but a conversation in our heads. Sure, you want to talk to me, but most guys need their time alone.
Texting is lame. I put almost zero effort into it as to just use it to set up a meeting. and to answer: If you text back right away all the time they assume I'm desperate and stop texting me. Story of my life, this is also why I hate texting... It takes a VITAL human element out of interactions.
Either busy or unsure what to say, as many women fameously look too deep into something, assume the worst and then get mad. So really we're just sitting ducks since you also get mad if we don't reply right away. Also in my opinion, playing hard to get just gives the impression that youaren't interested. Which might be the reason for slow replies
If we're really into you, we won't make you wait to hear from us. That said, I work in construction, the only times I can talk is when I'm off, sleeping, or it's the weekend. If I can, I'll let her know when I can talk or when I can't.
he might be busy, he might forget to reply or he might do the not desperate rule that boys and girls do and wait an amount of time before. my mate does it and its stupid but does keep convos going for longer.
they dont care as much about texts. plus, they dont have their phone attached to theri hands as many girls do.
tell that to the girl who left me on read for 3 days or the other girl who hasn't opened my Snapchat in 30 hours
@YoYoNibba I dont get what all the people have about all that Facebook, Snapchat, Pinterest, Twitter, etc. thing. people, live your lives, not social media
I wonder how people communicated before electricity
@Anifauqa well? by mouth? LOL :-D dont get me wrong, I love to have my cell phone on handy too, but I am just not social site addicted, LOL
Or the smoke signs, LOL
GAG is a social site, whether you like it or not...
@Anifauqa well... a kind of, but not exactly in the original meaning of the word. Cooking website are social sites of some sort, whole Internet is. It is difficult to border the lines for that.
With comment sections being added everywhere, the internet is essentially social, so, are you then saying you're "anti-internet"
@Anifauqa LOL what's your deal, boy? Nope, The Internet is supposed to be social, saying it is a social site is a little too much rough. And hahah no, I'm not anti-Internet, if I was, I wouldn't be here, don't you think? Relax
People have met on here, married.. had sex.. the internet IS social
Stop, you guys are spamming my notifications
@Anifauqa OH GOD. Again, I am NOT SAYING it is not. Of course it IS. I already said that in one of the previous reply, my point is, that it is not a social SITE exactly. That is all.
Stop
why wait just sms from someone? 😂😂 if no reply than 1 hour... for me lets move on the next 😂😂😂 and next... no reason to wait if he doesn't care to reply u. . .
Exactly ! Like no time wasted for a guy who just want to string someone along Noo Noo boo
cause when they do it too fast, we say they are needy. there is no winning with us women... .
I respond when I can, and in college I forgot often. I don't complain when someone takes hours, people have lives of their own. The types that can't understand that I don't need
I have experienced this before where my ex wanted me to respond in a timely fashion to her text messages which meant right away but most of the time I was working and because of privacy regulations I couldn't have my cell phone on me because of my job she can understand that so realize it could be work it is nothing directed towards you to make you feel angry
I hate when playing games and when girls do it too. The only time I would be late replying to a text if I'm busy with something going on in my life or, I'm giving you your personal space. I respect that and I don't want to come off as clingy.
If I'm busy with something. I let them know ahead of time what I'm doing and can't talk or tell them afterwords why I wasn't responding.
Because we're not glued to our phones 24/7. We got a lot of stuff to do. Hanging out with friends, sports, gym, GAMING, goofing around and seasons. So, it takes us late to reply.
Take it easy and make yourself busy then you won't put your attention on when reply will arrive... it all matter of priority you're at.
@ nobody is too busy
I generally assume he is busy and will reply when he has a moment, seems to be working :) if I'm busy I don't reply immediately either
It's a losing battle for both sides because neither person wants to come off as clingy nor distant. We don't know when the best/most convenient time to reply is. I just reply whenever I get around to it.