No, it was mutual. He told me to find another better. So angry I asked him for breaking up and he agreed. I really didn't want to break up with him, so I want to talk clearly again but he says nothing
Because you are our EX... you are garbage to us. He didn't remove you because he still wanted to see what you were up to, but he didn't want to have contact with you.
Girls who think we can be "friends" after a break up forget that the ONLY reason we are ever "friends" in the first place is that we want to have sex with you. Once that is off the table, you are useless to us.
@Kota-the-Unhearted Thanks for your opinion kota, please tell me about that fat ugly girl you make time in your day to call, text, or hang out with when there is no obligation to do so. That's right, there isn't one because we do NOT make time for girls we are not sexually interested in! (regardless of what you pretend to believe... unless this is a female pretending to be a male)
I have actually. she was a good friend of mine. Women aren't for sexual interests. Just because you think they're your tool to use doesn't mean all men believe in the same ideals. in my opinion those who hold those ideals aren't men they're still boys who just want to play around
@Kota-the-Unhearted Yeah so now I know that you are either a female pretending to be male, or gay. I at NO time said ALL men think this way... I was speaking in general (which would be obvious to anyone logical) and if you look at ANY social experiment about the topic... it is MOST guys.
I am neither a women or gay. I was just raised properly to be a man and use the head on my shoulders and not the one between my legs. Also no you didn't say all men specifically but you did indicate it by saying "we"
@Kota-the-Unhearted Stop with the white knight shaming attempts. I was raised properly as well bud. That has nothing to do with why we hang out with certain females. You are likely the same type of person who believes that a male who doesn't date trans people are "transphobic". There is NO correlation to your sexual preference and your personal moral code. You pretending that you can magically overcome biology because it makes you feel superior is sad. As a male primate, we are programmed to spread our seed, we are not meant to be monogamous, and we have sexual interest in females or the species. This is basic science. "Ehrlichman & Eichenstein, 1992"
"The human male has a drive to impregnate as many females as possible, to create as many offspring with his genes as possible. Thus, he applies criteria typical for a male animal. He looks for women who are impregnable... Beyond that, he doesn't really care."
It's normal to have little contact: you have to rip off the band-aid or else it will hurt more and longer. It's not reasonable to break up but still expect him to be your emotional crutch.
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Ok, really? What part of "ex" is that difficult to understand.
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He's got no reason too. My ex told me "don't be a stranger" after breaking up. I was okay with that since it was more of a sad breakup. But she never once, not once contacted me after that. I did contact her a few times but she treated me like a Martian.
As hard as it is you need to move on and find someone else.
That is the same thing as telling you he doesn't have feelings for you. You need to leave him alone or he is going to think you are stalking him. Move on.
well it's really hard to unfriend your ex, this is kinda punishment for her (which she obviously deserves). Although i never had a chance to see a breakup.
1. Girls do it too 2. Because talking to an ex after an emotionally charged breakup is hard and painful to do. I'd ignore or unfriend a potential ex as a rule.
Cause he needs to forget about you so he doesn't miss you and feels sad. That way he can move on and concentrate on other things on his life, and eventually dating someone else.
ok let's say he doesn't ignore but he does reply coz he said to message him anytime during break up. but doesn't initiate either. it's also a recent break up which he initiated. what does that mean?
so why would he leave the communication lines open if he doesn't want contact. he did say to feel free to message me anytime after a long ass love letter filled with nostalgic memories of us.
Have you seen The Shining? Whenever the kid saw something disturbing, he would look away, count to 10 and it would disappear. It is basically the same principal. If you don't acknowledge it, it goes away.
It's mutual. He's working far away, he has financial problems. Sometimes he told me to find someone better. So angry, I ask him for breaking up. He agreed and then he says nothing at all 😞
from hearing this it's because he might be self conscious and have low self-esteem. He wanted you to be happier and fine someone who will treat you better. I did the same thing with my ex. I still love her and miss her but she moved on and is happy and that's all I care about. He might be the same way but I could be wrong
Maybe he does still have feelings, but is afraid history will repeat and you'll separate again and is in conflict of wether or not he wants to take the risk. Well, I personally would always want to go back to friendship.
We don't. We sometimes want to keep fucking them, honestly. But we don't want to date them (for whatever reasons led to the breakup), just keep fucking them, which some girls aren't interested in sadly.
Men develop very-strong emotional bonds with women they love, and the only way they can break them is by cutting-off all contact. Even then, I can guarantee you he's heartbroken.
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He is your ex, why do you care enough to hate? If you cared so much why did you break up?
No, it was mutual. He told me to find another better. So angry I asked him for breaking up and he agreed. I really didn't want to break up with him, so I want to talk clearly again but he says nothing
Because you are our EX... you are garbage to us.
He didn't remove you because he still wanted to see what you were up to, but he didn't want to have contact with you.
Girls who think we can be "friends" after a break up forget that the ONLY reason we are ever "friends" in the first place is that we want to have sex with you. Once that is off the table, you are useless to us.
that's bullshit. You are conceited and self centered. Women are "tools" for you to fuck and push aside once you have no use for them
@Kota-the-Unhearted Thanks for your opinion kota, please tell me about that fat ugly girl you make time in your day to call, text, or hang out with when there is no obligation to do so.
That's right, there isn't one because we do NOT make time for girls we are not sexually interested in!
(regardless of what you pretend to believe... unless this is a female pretending to be a male)
I have actually. she was a good friend of mine. Women aren't for sexual interests. Just because you think they're your tool to use doesn't mean all men believe in the same ideals. in my opinion those who hold those ideals aren't men they're still boys who just want to play around
@Kota-the-Unhearted Yeah so now I know that you are either a female pretending to be male, or gay. I at NO time said ALL men think this way... I was speaking in general (which would be obvious to anyone logical) and if you look at ANY social experiment about the topic... it is MOST guys.
I am neither a women or gay. I was just raised properly to be a man and use the head on my shoulders and not the one between my legs. Also no you didn't say all men specifically but you did indicate it by saying "we"
@Kota-the-Unhearted Stop with the white knight shaming attempts. I was raised properly as well bud. That has nothing to do with why we hang out with certain females.
You are likely the same type of person who believes that a male who doesn't date trans people are "transphobic". There is NO correlation to your sexual preference and your personal moral code.
You pretending that you can magically overcome biology because it makes you feel superior is sad. As a male primate, we are programmed to spread our seed, we are not meant to be monogamous, and we have sexual interest in females or the species. This is basic science.
"Ehrlichman & Eichenstein, 1992"
http://public.wsu.edu/~taflinge/socsex.html
"The human male has a drive to impregnate as many females as possible, to create as many offspring with his genes as possible. Thus, he applies criteria typical for a male animal. He looks for women who are impregnable... Beyond that, he doesn't really care."
He's right, men don't actually want to be friends with girls
It's normal to have little contact: you have to rip off the band-aid or else it will hurt more and longer. It's not reasonable to break up but still expect him to be your emotional crutch.
Ok, really? What part of "ex" is that difficult to understand.
He's got no reason too. My ex told me "don't be a stranger" after breaking up. I was okay with that since it was more of a sad breakup. But she never once, not once contacted me after that. I did contact her a few times but she treated me like a Martian.
As hard as it is you need to move on and find someone else.
You need to leave him alone and move on. It's the best thing for you and him.
That is the same thing as telling you he doesn't have feelings for you. You need to leave him alone or he is going to think you are stalking him. Move on.
well it's really hard to unfriend your ex, this is kinda punishment for her (which she obviously deserves). Although i never had a chance to see a breakup.
1. Girls do it too
2. Because talking to an ex after an emotionally charged breakup is hard and painful to do. I'd ignore or unfriend a potential ex as a rule.
Cause he needs to forget about you so he doesn't miss you and feels sad. That way he can move on and concentrate on other things on his life, and eventually dating someone else.
ok let's say he doesn't ignore but he does reply coz he said to message him anytime during break up. but doesn't initiate either. it's also a recent break up which he initiated. what does that mean?
@Pinay_ako It means if she wants to talk to him he'll respond reluctantly but ideally he would prefer no contact
so why would he leave the communication lines open if he doesn't want contact. he did say to feel free to message me anytime after a long ass love letter filled with nostalgic memories of us.
@Pinay_ako No idea. Maybe he gets kicks out of you showing interest in him after breaking up with you?
Lame. I don't want him back lol
Have you seen The Shining? Whenever the kid saw something disturbing, he would look away, count to 10 and it would disappear. It is basically the same principal. If you don't acknowledge it, it goes away.
you broke up, there is no reason to stay in contact
My most recent ex was a b- so I ignore her. My other ex's I remain friends with.
I'm sure I'm not a bitch at all 😞
I wasn't calling you a bitch. I'm just saying out of personal experience.
I know. I mean I'm not a bitch and he still ignores me 😞
did you leave him or did he leave you?
It's mutual. He's working far away, he has financial problems. Sometimes he told me to find someone better. So angry, I ask him for breaking up. He agreed and then he says nothing at all 😞
He might still be getting over you.
from hearing this it's because he might be self conscious and have low self-esteem. He wanted you to be happier and fine someone who will treat you better. I did the same thing with my ex. I still love her and miss her but she moved on and is happy and that's all I care about. He might be the same way but I could be wrong
Sounds like he doesn't feel like he's good enough for you so he's avoiding you so he doesn't feel crap about himself.
Maybe he does still have feelings, but is afraid history will repeat and you'll separate again and is in conflict of wether or not he wants to take the risk.
Well, I personally would always want to go back to friendship.
It's tough to move on from your ex when you're talking all the time.
We don't. We sometimes want to keep fucking them, honestly. But we don't want to date them (for whatever reasons led to the breakup), just keep fucking them, which some girls aren't interested in sadly.
He wants to see you in pain. Blocking him was the best thing to do. Past is in the past, an ex is their for a reason.
Why do girls stop having sex with a guy when they've broken up?
When you figure that out, flip it around. Same reason guys ignore girls after break up.
You supposed to stop having sex with an ex? 😳 Dang!
@Poppykate Most do :) But I would bet if she kept fucking him from time to time, he'd talk to the girl from time to time.
Men develop very-strong emotional bonds with women they love, and the only way they can break them is by cutting-off all contact. Even then, I can guarantee you he's heartbroken.
Being friends with ex or even being in touch is bad thing in my opinion.
why would he want to talk to you you are an ex and why are you annoyed he is an ex go your separate ways