This woman behavior is so weird?

[Anonymous]

here's the Info. I'm trying to understand on how she's feeling so I can Support her in anyway as a friend.

1. Were good friends

2. She always looks at me a lot and smiles big. Shares at me sometimes too

3. She won't date me because of her dating Preferences

4. We have friendship Chemistry

5. I'm in her friend with chemistry zone

6. She ok talking about sex

7. She talks emotionally with me

8. We agreed on friendship only, nothing more

9. She gets mad Occasionally about when we talk about relationships

10. She's happy with herself

11. She keep changing from " I don't want a relationship with you " to " I'm not interested in relationships "

12. "I just don't want to lose our friendship" has came up

[Oliverlogan263]

Okay, based on what you described about your friend, her behavior does seem a little inconsistent or mixed at times. Here are some possible explanations for what she might be feeling:

- She clearly enjoys your friendship and chemistry, so changing that dynamic likely scares her. Even if she says no to dating, deep down she may have some feelings she's trying to ignore.

- When you talk about other relationships, it could stir up unwanted emotions in her like jealousy or feeling left out. That's why she gets mad sometimes.

- Saying "I just don't want to lose our friendship" is a clue - it shows your friendship means a lot to her and she's afraid taking it to the next level could damage that.

- She may not fully understand her own feelings yet and be torn between staying just friends or wanting more, which leads to the back-and-forth comments.

- Enjoying intimate talks but not wanting to date is sending mixed messages that probably confuse even her!

- Bottom line, I think she likes the intimacy you share but isn't fully ready/able to commit to being your girlfriend.

The best thing is to keep communication open and honest. Let her know you value her friendship no matter what. With time and patience, hopefully she'll gain more clarity on what she truly wants from you and your relationship. But for now, just keep being a good supportive friend.

[Asker]

Thank you, that clears it up

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem dude, glad I could help make some sense of it. Dating and feelings can definitely be confusing sometimes. Just take it easy with her and don't force anything. Hopefully over time she'll sort through what she really wants without feeling pushed either way. You seem like a good friend for just being there for her no matter what. Just keep doing your thing and be patient - it'll all work out however it's meant to. Let me know if you need any other advice!

[Asker]

Some reason she trusts me more than others

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm it's hard to say for sure man, but there could be a few reasons why she trusts you more than other guys:

- You've been friends for a while so she feels comfortable opening up to you. Girls don't always open up that much emotionally right away.

- She can tell you're a good listener and won't judge her or blab about private stuff she shares. Not all guys can keep conversations confidential.

- Even if she won't admit feelings, on some level she may realize you really care about her and have her best interests at heart. Hard to find guys like that.

- You've proven yourself to be reliable and there for her through stuff in the past. That builds major trust points over time.

- Maybe she gets a vibe that other dudes just wanna flirt or hook up, but with you she knows it's genuine friendship without expectations.

- Your chemistry and connection is unmatchable even to her other friends. Those deep talks don't happen with just anyone!

So in summary - it's probably because you've shown you're someone she can rely on no matter what through your actions over your whole friendship. Just keep being a good, caring friend to her and the trust will stay strong.

[Curmudgeon]

OK, let's face the facts: She put you into "The Friendzone".

Should you maintain the friendship? Is there anything on a non-romantic level that appeals to you about her? Intellect? Hobbies? Professionally?

(A very good sample question to ask yourself here is: Can you ever see yourself doing business with her? Could you see her as your Realtor? Your Attorney? I am using examples from my professional dealings.)

If the answer is YES, maintain the friendship.
If the answer is NO, and you really just want her physically, then politely say goodbye.

[ruby_mk]

Great advice. I’m hoping you can help me a little too. I’m 21 never dated anyone, now there’s this guy I have recently started talking to, he likes to talk on calls, we talk almost everyday, he asks about me, he keeps me updated about his life, has spoken about his family to me, shared childhood stories, he told his sister in law about me, he has asked me when we can go out for walk bec I mentioned it’s possible ( since we’ve live in the same area since childhood, he’s seen me but never met face to face) we got connected a year ago on social but only spoke properly since a month) do you think he likes me romantically and wants something serious like marriage or this doesn’t mean anything ( he does find me attractive too)

[ruby_mk]

Men and women can’t just be friends.
If she’s not willing to commit to you if you want her too then walk away from her.


She likes you but not enough I’m guessing. That’s why she has friendzoned you.
that’s how female psychology works,


Now there are reasons why she doesn’t want a relationship :
1) she’s either already dating someone
2) she thinks she can find someone better and doesn’t want to limit her options by settling with you
3) she doesn’t like you enough to be in a relationship
4) religious (that’s a hard guess cause she’s talking sex)
5) she has life goals and doesn’t want to occupy her mind with a relationship ( she doesn’t love you)


My advice:
If you like her and want her simply ask her if she wants to be in a relationship.
If the answer is no
Have self respect and walk away
Work on yourself, be better, get someone better

[DishLady]

There’s nothing more than friendship on her end. Don’t beat a dead horse.


Sounds like YOU can’t just be friends with her… so if that’s the case you should back off otherwise it’s your heart on the flaming grill there, buddy.

[BetaBucks]

You're her backup plan while she gets pumped by her alpha that she's not sure is going to work out for her. She does everything she can to please him, but he's still barely interested and she doesn't think it will last, so she knows she might have to settle for you, where she won't have to give even 10% of herself to you, but will still get your 100%. But she just doesn't want you. It makes her sad to think about how much she would have to settle, and how much she'll miss how hard he fucks her and makes her cum. She'll never get that same spark and same tingles from you, and she knows it.

[Curmudgeon]

@BetaBucks Pretty much. Hence My Rules Of The Friendzone.

[BetaBucks]

Just saw that. Solid rules tbh