What is happening?

[Anonymous]

So lately I've been thinking a lot about my future husband. I'm still 19! My life is kinda mess, I'm busy with looking for admissions in universities, got a lot of work. I know I haven't met him yet but I surely know he's a green forest but also feel I'm not gonna meet him anytime soon cause my life is literal mess but most of the time I find myself imagining some situation with him or thinking about what he must be doing right now. I've thought so much that I think I shouldn't waste my these years thinking about him instead focus on me only. What do I do and howw? I don't even know why is this happening!

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw girl, don't stress so much! You're only 19, of course you have plenty of time to figure things out before settling down. It's totally normal at this age to daydream about relationships and what your future partner might be like. I think every girl goes through that phase!

My advice would be don't obsess over it or overthink to the point that it distracts you from your goals now. But also don't feel bad for letting your imagination wander sometimes - it's harmless fun. When those thoughts creep in, try refocusing your energy into things within your control like school, hobbies you enjoy, spending time with friends. Stay busy with your real life.

Chances are once you find a direction and get settled into university, meeting new people there, the daydreaming will happen less cause you'll be engaged in your present. No need to force it - just let those thoughts come and go naturally without stressing the meaning. Your person will come along when the time is right. Focus on you now and the rest will fall into place! Keep your chin up girl, you've got this.

[HighValue]

Now through your 20s is the best opportunity to find a good partner as long as you are a good person too. Making bad decisions could forever disqualify you for a good partner in the future. Don't have casual sex/friends with benefits/ons, don't do drugs or drink lots of alcohol, don't get tattoos to ruin your looks, and if you get a degree, expect to work and don't expect to be provided for in the future or expect any future partner to pay for student loan debt.

Also, most of the time you should ignore women's advice because they often purposely sabotage other women that they see as potential competition.

[coxoabean]

I totally understand!! I do the same thing haha! I think it is great to have a balance!! Focus on yourself now, and preparing to be a good wife for him later, but it is ok to think about him! That's what I do. I read a lot of books on marriage and stuff like that, so that I can learn now to be a good wife for my future husband. Although, I would say, you should also focus on you more until he comes into your life.

[kylee2437]

Never say never. I met my boyfriend in my current mess of a life, and he is definitely the highlight of my year.

[HawkPerception]

Stop stressing. You're 19. I'm 30 and still haven't found love or the person I want to marry. Just focus on your own life and having fun in the process. You'll eventually find someone out there for you. Girls also find love a lot more easily than guys. As long as you're socializing enough, you'll find the right guy.

[DishLady]

I think you're stressed about school etc. and trying to distract yourself with this idea of your future guy...

[Amandanator]

You are so young! The husband can wait, trust me. Build your life up first and make the best of it.

[Theodoricus]

Just focus on your life. If you're lucky, he'll find you.