What does it mean if a girl is hesitant to do something alone with a guy?

[RiseofArtemis]

A girl and I know each other for a few months. We have spent time together a few times already for an hour talking a lot and she always said yes, but we never did an activity with just us alone. We went out twice with her brother and a friend. But when I asked her to do something with just her alone, "going on a bike ride" she hesitated and said she doesn't know, she will see next week if she wants and just wants to relax a bit for now. Either that means she's not interested or she's too nervous to be with me alone, (possible sign of liking me and afraid to screw up) Which I don't think is the case, if she was into me she'd say yes to anything probably.

She gladly comes onto Discord to play games together and talk. For a bit of a background she always wears hoddies, even in summer and likes to stay at home when its too hot and rarely goes outside. Same goes actualy for me as I hate the heat.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, it's kind of hard to say for sure what her hesitation means. A few possibilities:

- Like you said, she could be nervous or shy about doing something one-on-one yet if she likes you. Some girls get timid.

- Or she may only see you as a friend and isn't interested in anything more. Going solo could cross a line in her mind.

- Her predisposition to staying in may play a role too. Stepping out alone with a guy she doesn't know super well might take her extra effort.

- Could also be she's just not ready yet and wants to take things slowly. No rush to rush into anything solo.

My advice would be don't take it too personally either way for now. Continue including her in group activities and hanging out that way to help her feel more comfortable around you casually first.

In the meantime, ask again in a week or two about a low-key daytime thing together so she knows you're still interested but no pressure. See what she says then once she's had more time. Baby steps are best with shy girls sometimes. Don't lose hope yet!

[DarkLegacy]

It usually means she does not want to do anything like that with you. Im guessing she is not into you as much as you think she is.

[katiesmuff]

It usually means she is not quite sure or ready for whatever adventure you were working on with her.

[Anonymous]

You literally answered your own question.

[RiseofArtemis]

I know she likes me or else she wouldn't say yes to meeting up to talk every time I ask her, the only times she says no or she doesn't know is when doing an activity together with just us. So I think she just wants to stay in a place where she is more comfortable or secure when alone with me, near her home.

The part about meeting up with just us is what confuses me most. If I was shy which I was in the past I wouldn't want to meet up alone with someone I had feelings for, for an activity out of fear to screw up something. If think there is a difference if she was atracted to me sexualy or had feelings for me romanticaly.

[Christoph4er]

Doesn’t want any funny business?

[RiseofArtemis]

We are both not that far into a possible relaitonship, I still have to ask her out to be my girlfriend and she just graduated highschol, having done the exams just this week.

Sex would be a far away still and she never had a boyfriend and I would be the first, she admited it herself and she's still a virgin even, unkissed from what I could understand. She doesn't like to socialize and likes to stay home.

[Christoph4er]

Some girls get really nervous about that stuff. I work with students everyday and I can see how for some shy girls it’s all a big deal