Guy rejects me then texts me?

[Anonymous]

So this dude had a falling with me about a month ago, we went no contact for 3 weeks, then HE broke it, so I told him this:

"So I want to share my thoughts
I feel like we've been having a hard timd connecting lately, & I'm not really sure what's going on. I just hope you are more open to me about where you're at instead of leaving me to wonder & read between the lines. I think we're both adults & can handle having an honest conversation about this..

I think you're so sweet, & I do enjoy our connection. It's just that we've been talking for a couple of months now. & it's a little bit of a shame to jump into conclusion & throw our connection out the window simply because of the mixed signals - but I'm also left wondering whether I've done something to warrant this style of communication because it isn't fair. It seems a little disheartening

I haven't tried you for the past month because I thought you just pulled the brakes on whatever it is we have without even talking to me about it, but I clearly like you, or I wouldn't have wasted months believing there's potential that this might work because you never gave me a reason to believe otherwise until you straight up went ghost.

So for me, it seems like you're using me to entertain a dull day & that doesn't sit right with me because friendships or relationships shouldn't be that hard,& I simply find it rude to ghost those who we supposedly care about.

I want this to work because I genuinely care for you. I appreciate what we have, and I'll be there when you need me, but I also can't ignore the feeling that you might pull away again.

I'm just hoping we can be honest with each other, & not waste each other's time?"

He responded like that:
"You are right.
It’s a shitty thing to do to a friend.
I may take awhile to reply but I won’t drop the ball completely."

So I double tapped & left him alone.

Today he texts me:
"Hey ☺️!
Hope you're having a good weekend."


I don't understand. What does he want?

[StarWarGirl]

He knows very well what he is doing and he seems not interested in you but you are just an option for him to spend his free time when no one else is around.

Earlier I used to bother much about every text any one would do to me and I was wasting my lot's of time explaining to other person that I don't want this kind relationship etc. Then one day one guy told me "if you don't want then don't respond to my message". And that was kind of enlightenment for me that "yes it's absolutely correct".

So every guy who would be just simply using you, or for whom you are just time pass they all don't care about how you feel. They will keep texting you to check that are you still available or not. And they don't care even if you are no more available they will go for someone else. So in such case after clearly keeping our words that "No I don't want this kind thing". It's completely ok to ghost such person and not care about their any other text instead nothing wrong to use them also just time pass on days we are getting tooooo bored and has nothing else to do.

[Asker]

Dayumm girl! Best MHO

[StarWarGirl]

Pleased to help you 😊

[Anonymous]

He very well knows what he did , and why he ghosted u. Don’t let him manipulate u

[Asker]

Right? I don't know what he wants. Does he like me? Why's he back to my dms? Why didn't he leave it at that? I mean I left him alone when he said we were friends.
I also see him texting & stopping (not sending anything)

[Opinion Owner]

He’s messing with u. Reaching out when he needs a chick to chat up. Seen zone and move on

[Asker]

Thank you so much

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo girl, don't even stress about that dude! He clearly has no idea what he wants and is just gonna keep playing games with you.

I wouldn't even respond to his text. You said your piece already and he still can't get his shit together. He's just hitting you up out of boredom again I bet.

You deserve way better than someone who's hot and cold like that! Like you said, a real connection shouldn't be that hard.

If he really cared, he would've made more effort after your message instead of waiting this long to text like nothing happened. Actions speak louder than words with guys like that.

Keep doing you and living your best life. He's gonna have to work a lot harder to earn your time and trust back after pulling that disappearing act. You don't need that kind of stress, girl! His loss. 💅