Why do guys just randomly disappear for a day or two and then come back like nothing happened?

[Anonymous]

OK so I'll talk to my boyfriend every day of the week and then once in a while there will be these random days that he disappears. Couldn't he at least tell you if he was going to busy instead of making us girls worry all the time?

[theville]

My boyfriend does it all of the time - it is weird but I am LEARNING that it is normal for men and like he said when we get together later in the week he acts like nothing is wrong -because nothing is wrong he just wants to do his life - and he is not doing anything bad - from what I can see and it has been a year for us - he is still around I could see him if I like but he is with the guys then home with his son - and he also does positive things for himself - see he does NOT want us to be his mom - ie have to check in etc -- let him BE and you have a ball do your thing and don't punish him and be mad when you get together next - as long as your quality time together IS quality and he is loving and affectionate and the communication is great -- be happy he just had guy time/space to LIVE... Like he DID before u... SEE I finally get it - I used to flip out on him EVERY time this happened.. LOL - now I GET IT.. men really are from MARS.. LOL

[Anonymous]

Really well I think it's pig headed and selfish if u want space then say u want space if u want to be alone then explain. This shouldn't happen in serious commited relationships, it's just pure selfish to dissapear for days and not have the decency to let someone know that ur ok. If a woman did it it would be different. I see it this way how nice is it for you that ur man is happy to go days without knowing how you are and not caring to tell u how he is. If he does that again hit him up with his own medicine for twice as long. Men will take the piss if u allow them to don't wait on him get on with. Maybe then when ur ready u decide when u want to speak to him

[RMcl57]

Thats really weird and not part of a normal relationship. Its fine to need time alone but to disappear without a word for days is a really strange thing to do. If that ever happened to me, I'd assume he's either way too into camping or moonlighting as one of the village people and break it off.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, Me personally, I take a day once in a while to just be alone, and sometimes, in a relationship, things just come up, like stress from school/work/friends, and I just hang out at home, or ride to the beach, or go on a really long adventure (on my bike) and leave the phone home, just to get away, sometimes, everyone needs a little alone time, now at the same time, I would be suspicious, if he doesn't tell you that he's taking off... But that's just me, I tell my girl, "Hey I'll talk to you Monday, no I'm not mad, and no its not you, I just need time to chill alone." anyway, there's my thoughts ^_^ but I'm defiantly not a normal guy lol

[daviddavid]

In my experience as a guy, a lot of times over the years I'd spend a day or two out of contact with my current girlfriend. Usually those days I'd be off with an ex or whatever, reminiscing about the times we had. Or with another girl that I liked trying to see if we could hook up. Those times it became really awkward to answer the phone if my current girlfriend was calling 'cause she'd just start wrecking my head if she knew where I was and who I was with. But sometimes I liked to just be alone too.

[moaterboat]

Sometimes us guys forget that we are your property. Sorry 'bout that.

[toulouse]

Sometimes people not just guys like to go off by themselves. its nice sometimes:)

& yea the property thing too ^^

[Asker]

I didn't mean it like I'm mad or anything but what happened was that we hardly talked yesterday and he said he'd call me today and such and I never heard from him so it just worries me is all. I don't care if he goes out or anything but when its unexpected I start to worry. I don't want to sound clingy! but...what should a girl do though?

[blah52]

I wasn't aware that we needed to check in all the time. Give him some space.

[TornApart]

i don't know. but I can tell you that guys are very weird like that