Why don't you think your attractive?

[Anonymous]

too many minor flaws, or a couple of major flaws

just too plain, not too many appealing features

too small

too chubby

I feel I am

I don't know

[Anonymous]

I have keratosis Polaris.
it makes me feel ugly. I can’t wear cute clothes and feel confident m. People always end up staring at my skin and trying to make suggestions about what I should do to clear it up. I just feel even extra ugly when they do this. So then I cover myself up and the same people ask me “why do you wear long sleeves all the time? You shouldn’t care what other people say, nobody even looks at your skin it’s all in your head”

that coming from the same people that stared at my skin jumping right away to suggest what I should do to remove these things.

I’m annoyed by stupidity. Then they have the nerve to say “you’re just paranoid, nobody even cares about that” yeah if nobody cares then they couldn’t be staring and then trying to give a million suggestions about what I should do. They all know it’s ugly and it makes people look, otherwise they wouldn’t be trying to give suggestions on how I can try to fix it.

I wish I had clear skin on my body.

[AmandaYVR]

Everything you said is valid. But also, as my other used to say when I was complaining about whatever thing (my fair skin, yada yada), "Don't waste your life being unhappy about things you can't change. Be happy with what you've got." She was right.

Everybody's got something (s). Remind yourself that. No one is perfect. And most hide or try to de-emphasize things they don't like. Someone, either guy or girl, man or woman, who you may think has it all going for them, nothing to worry about physically - even they have shit they don't like and feel self-conscious about.

And, it's keratosis pilaris. As in, of the skin; not of the sky.

[Opinion Owner]

@AmandaYVR I don’t know what you mean about the sky but thank you for your comment, your mother is right it’s good advice yet it’s difficult to do. I can keep trying.

[AmandaYVR]

Actually, I got that a bit wrong, it's not 'of the sky' but of the north star (polaris). Just a small typo.
And, you're welcome. Hang in there. I know it's hard. We are often our own worse enemies and harshest critics. (Although I sometimes half-jokingly say, if I'm not, who else will be, lol.)

[Opinion Owner]

@AmandaYVR :))) thank you!

[wiltingrosepetal]

I would say I'm slightly over average, maybe a 6 or a 7? But my appearance isn't quite an issue for me since people date the personality. Once you like someone, they begin to look more attractive to you. My boyfriend thinks I'm a supermodel. No other opinion matters 😄

[Asker]

Feature wise, What do you think puts you a little bit over average? Sometimes when people say slightly or kind of attractive, I wonder why they don't feel like their all the way attractive

[Finchie40]

Because I am my own worst enemy at times , especially when things in my life haven’t been going so well , I tend to lose confidence in myself , or if I pack on some pounds , I start feeling like I am not that good looking , so when I get that way or feel that way , i eventually push myself to start working out again and that usually helps me feel positive and better about myself again.

[grega239]

Dont know.

I was told im too nice or not pushy enough.

i dont understand why being nice is a turn off because it doesn't seem to bother women that im "too nice" when they need help.

Why dont they just ask someone whos less nice for help?

[grega239]

My ex also caised me to develoo an inferiority complex so i just assume im repulsive to women and dont bother engaging with them

[AI Opinion]

Oh, that’s a deep question. I think everyone has moments of self-doubt. For me, attractiveness isn’t just about physical appearance; it’s about how you feel inside and your confidence. Sometimes, I might feel down or compare myself to others, but I remind myself that everyone is unique and beautiful in their own way. How about you? What makes you feel your best?

[19magic]

I've been told countless times how ugly I am, how bad I look, how my sense of style is lacking that I pretty much don't believe it when people say I'm anything more than cute or pretty.

[Anilkumar3277]

yeah your look so pretty my friend

[Asker]

Aren't cute and pretty some of the highest compliments a woman could receive, so what does "anything more than" mean? Also, if they think your style is lacking, that doesn't make you automatically unattractive, maybe they're saying you could be attractive with better style?

[19magic]

I'll elaborate more, I do love those compliments but I mean to put anything more, I automatically disbelieve like beautiful, or stunning. As for cute and pretty I might believe on a good day aka, if I'm wearing makeup, a pretty dress, my hair's done nicely - things like that. Any other day I'm okay, but I'm more run of the mill than anything else.

[Asker]

And Okay is Okay right? In terms of people say all the time "there's nothing wrong with being average of ok looking"

[Caroline91]

What’s wrong with cute and pretty? Cute is the main one I get on a regular basis.

[19magic]

Yeah I don't mind being alright, but your question was why don't you think you're attractive and I answered, I don't think I'm attractive.

@Caroline91 And I never once said cute and pretty is wrong, I said I don't believe in the compliment when given to me.

[Caroline91]

@19magic No, you didn't say there's anything wrong with cute and pretty but when you say you don't believe it, I'm just saying I don't think those are bad things to be told. I mean, if you're convinced you're not attractive, there's nothing anyone can say to convince you otherwise. I just think it's kind of sad when a lovely girl thinks she's unattractive.

[19magic]

Nah they're not bad at all and at times really nice, it's more the reflex of if I'm in old clothes and my hair is a mess and I rarely wear makeup these days, only when going out. And someone says something nice like that to me, I have an instant yeah right, you're simply trying to be nice because I look shit and make me feel better. It does make me feel better cause they're trying to cheer me up, but it's not the same feels as feeling attractive.

If that makes sense

[Caroline91]

It makes perfect sense. BUT, that's more a girl thing. Most guys love a little bit messy, no makeup look. I never wear makeup, except occasionally a very light eye liner and I do wear lip gloss, sometimes colored gloss, but that's just to keep my lips in good condition. I get complimented all the time. Some girls look good, or even better without makeup. Just sayin'...

[IslaTheWitch]

I know I'm attractive, just my emotions don't follow :D

[JC_jester]

You are the most attractive, Isla; never doubt it!

[MisterWack]

I feel I am even though I’m not.
That is how most people feel, some don’t want to admit it however the majority including women & men feel insecure about their looks.

[Caroline91]

I guess that take surprises me. Nobody in my family and very few people in my friend group are insecure about their looks.

[MisterWack]

@Caroline91
Very good for you and your family.
My family & friends are.

[Caroline91]

@MisterWack I’m not necessarily saying we’re good looking. I’m just saying we’re not insecure about it. lol!

[MisterWack]

@Caroline91
I didn’t mean to be snarky or rude 🙏🏻
I meant “very good for you & your family” as genuine as I possibly can 😅, again I apologize.
I know you aren’t insecure lol, either way I’m sure you look like very lovely & warm & kind beautiful people. 😊

[Caroline91]

@MisterWack Things are fine, Wacky, I know you are kind hearted. But I do want to make it clear that I'm the most beautiful of the bunch... My ears stick way out from my head just right to hear everything really well; kind of like a donkey; my nose turns up on the end, like the cutest little pig snout; my eyes are all googly, just like a lizard, so I have great peripheral vision and can almost see past the back of my head... I am, indeed, the epitome of loveliness. So, you see, I have no reason whatsoever to be insecure about my looks! (can you see my eyelashes batting rapidly?). I was just surprised when you said you were because of how confidently you present yourself, which is a good thing!

[MisterWack]

@Caroline91
Truly the essence of beauty, God graced you with a lovely face ❤️

Also absolutely loved the over the top detailed parts, expertly crafted! 👌

[Twalli]

At 5'4", prematurely balding, and underweight I am not exactly a physical Adonis. So Ai don't rate myself highly. I know what can make me look better, but I don't think it will improve me to be irresistible.

[Asker]

Well I'm like 120 lol, but not balding, and a few inches taller than you, but I consider myself attractive. From your picture, you have a nice face (no homo) iny opinion.

[Twalli]

I'm wearing a baseball cap. That hides the fact that I'm balding and helps. My eyes aren't that special, a pale green, so they're not helping or hurting me. I'm not saying I'm ugly but probably can't top a 7 in looks.

[Caroline91]

Mmm love green eyes. Green is the most unusual eye color in the world. And 7 is a good rating, especially if you are a nice guy.

[Twalli]

@Caroline91 apparently I am. People tell me I'm a really nice person. More accurately they tell other people who then tell me that they were told.

[Caroline91]

@Twalli Well that’s a good thing!!

[ProbablyClueless]

I think my primary issue is being too heavy. I think I'm generally a good-looking guy, but being a chubster is a problem. Thankfully, it's also a fairly fixable problem.

[SotiCoto]

The question doesn't parse.

Why don't I think my attractive what?
What is the attractive thing that I have that I don't think something about?

[Kelley1]

That doesn't apply in my case. I'm attractive and I know it.

[electromagnetic]

Maybe if I pinned one of my ears back a bit

[LiamJHayden]

I'm average looking but attractive in other ways.

[ICanSmellTheCosmos]

My "gentle" eyes and boyish disposition (as in a naïve kid, not a brat). Women equate that to me being boring and a sucker.

[MikeyObrien]

Because I don't have any money. And am an introvert.

[Anonymous]

I don't fit the standard of what women find attractive.

[Asker]

but women have different standards?

[Opinion Owner]

By far! Men typically have a checklist of about 3 things. Women. Have a checklist of about 300 things.

[Anonymous]

Just the opposite

[12karen]

I feel like #2

[Iron_Man]

I am good looking

[JosyJosy]

I feel I am.

[LaurenM1997]

I’m not

[Caroline91]

I think you are cute for what it’s worth from another woman, I think that’s most likely how a man would view you…

[LaurenM1997]

@Caroline91 thanks ☺️