How do I kindly but clearly tell my clingy, needy flatmate that I don’t want to have dinner with her every night nor I want a family substitute?

[Anonymous]

I moved in a new flat two weeks ago with a 30 years old woman I didn’t know. She expects me to eat with her every night and is visibly upset when I tell her I made other plans. She has friends, but expects me to become part of her friends group, on Saturday she asked me to go on a walk with her and her friends, I told her I had to do the groceries etc and didn’t have time, and she got upset. I would like to explain to her that we are two people who don’t know each other and not a family and that I have an independent life. How do I do that kindly?

[Luckycharms12]

Eat in your room and do your own thing she get the massage

[Asker]

I’ve been doing that or eating at friends for one week and a half but if she sees me go out around dinner time she asks me if I’ll be back for dinner... and was upset when I told her I was spending the weekend at my parents because “she wanted to do a pizza night”...

[Luckycharms12]

She have to get over herself