Did he lose interest?

[Anonymous]

I won't go into the full details of everything making me even question why my supposed boyfriend has lost interest but based on the following alone do you think so?

I recently got a second job which I plan to pay off debt, place more in savings, etc. I offered to help pay some of his debt so both our credit scores would be in better position. He said no. When I asked why he said I have more debt and his could easily be paid off.

I have to replace my ceiling fan light so I decided to probably just get a whole new unit (upgrade). I asked his input about the color and he said it didn't matter.

I'm already an anxious attachment style but I think it's moreso coming from other behaviors that I KNOW mean he can't like me causing me to think this.

[V_Injector]

Here is my question... how many dildos do you own?

Because you sound like you need some dick.

[PeachyPie93]

Do not be anxious, nothing turns people off more then being anxious and clingy. Calm down, do not text him first let him do it, since if he really wants to talk to you he will. Then just keep the flow going nice. Other then that, if you haven't been dating long talking about financial stuff together is a complete turn off, because if I haven't been with someone for at least 3 or 4 years I am not sharing anything financial. Your money and debt is yours and mine is mine. The light choice isn't very telling, since a lot of men would not care about that. I suggest watching videos about dating and stuff, I recommend Matthew Hussey, Stephen Speaks, Dr. John Delony, and Sadia Khan.

[es20490446e]

Currently I'm having the opposite problem, being my girlfriend the attached one.

Let me tell you what I see.

The only thing I need is her to just calm down, and be a functioning human being.

Versus absorbing all my mind space, till there is nothing left for anything else I care about.

I think my girlfriend needs to find some passions. Things that can challenge what already exists in the world.

Not just being with me, and expecting me to fill that gap. It won't happen.

If she finds passions, our exchanges will be more meaningful that just spend time together for the shake that we are in a relationship. We can exchange motivation, ideas, etc.

[Anonymous]

Based off this it just sounds like your anxious attachment style is revealing why maybe you shouldn’t be in a relationship. Worrying like this about each thing is just a living nightmare. Having someone pay off my debt would make me feel indebted to them now, yes even my boyfriend. That is a lot of money. Then about the ceiling fan color? I wouldn’t be very interested in that either it’s just not important to me. Just as if you asked what color nightstand should you get, like man I don't know. Do what you think looks good.

[Anonymous]

Based on the behaviors you've shared, it appears that his interest might be waning. Here's why:

1. He declined your offer to help with his debt, which could indicate that he's distancing himself from financial (and emotional) intimacy.

2. His response about your debt and his being easily paid off might suggest a lack of investment in your shared financial future.

3. His indifference about the ceiling fan color, a small decision, might indicate a lack of engagement in your life and interests.

These behaviors, combined with your anxious attachment style and other unspecified behaviors that have you questioning his interest, suggest that his enthusiasm for the relationship might be fading. Consider having an open and honest conversation with him to address your concerns and gauge his commitment to the relationship.

[DishLady]

Why are you offering to take care of this guy's financial problems? Not only does it seem like he's not interested, but he's probably upset that you're offering to take care of his life... as if he can't do that on his own. Just stop. He'll figure himself out.

[Anonymous]

What kind of work is it? Hopefully he didn’t lose interest