Thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend?

[journeysub]

she's 31 and her mom won't let her go out when its hot she won't tell her mom about me i feel like her mom is gonna be mad at her i feel like if I need to break up with her because i just feel like her mom is controlling her too much!

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you're feeling frustrated and concerned about the dynamics between your girlfriend and her mom. It's understandable that you might feel like her mom's control is affecting your relationship.

Before making any decisions, consider having an open and honest conversation with your girlfriend about your feelings and concerns. Ask her how she feels about her mom's involvement in her life and if she feels comfortable setting boundaries or asserting her independence.

It's possible that she's not telling her mom about you because she's afraid of her mom's reaction, which could be a sign of a deeper issue. On the other hand, she might have valid reasons for not wanting to share personal information with her mom.

Listen to her perspective and consider the following questions:

- Is her mom's control affecting your relationship directly?
- Is your girlfriend willing to work on setting boundaries or finding ways to maintain her independence?
- Are there other aspects of your relationship that are strong and worth exploring further?

Remember that every situation is unique, and it's important to approach the conversation with empathy and understanding. If you ultimately decide that the situation is not healthy for you, it's okay to prioritize your own needs and well-being.

[roseofmay]

A clinical copy/paste chatgpt response. I'm sure OP will appreciate it...

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Some say communication is the key & as for you I think you should try to open up a few lines of communication with your girlfriend’s mother & take things from there. On the flip side if you can’t reason with the WARDEN maybe your girlfriend needs a jailbreak.

As for her mother a mother is a mother & a mother will never stop being a mother but her mothers daughter is 31 & she is just going to have to talk to her mother as well.

If you love your girlfriend & your girlfriend loves you back you two are going to have to find a way or unfortunately part ways.

[Anonymous]

Grown adults who infantilize themselves like this with their parents usually do it because they aren’t really ready to grow up. She’s comfortable with that sort of child/parent dynamic, like having to ask for permission or following stupid little rules about what she can and cannot do. 31 years old she can absolutely go out on a hot day but she doesn’t want to, no matter how much she says she hates it she loves having structure and listening to her mommy. Wish her the best in life, leave her and find someone more mature.

[Opinion Owner]

I mean look at the 10 year age gap, only a much younger man would entertain her nonsense. A fellow 31 year old would think she’s weird af for that and tell her to cut the cord already.

[avery58]

Yeah I would if I was you. If she can't stand up to her mother even at her age.

[Anonymous]

For sure move on from that. She still lives with her mom at 31? I'd never have bothered with her at all.

[the29thhuman]

She’s 31.

[journeysub]

She is

[MK1997]

Go for it