If someone cheats on you, it's not your fault. It's theirs. It doesn't mean you're unattractive. It means they are having an ugly character. Agree?

[Anonymous]

[sawno]

I agree because cheating has little to do with your attractiveness. Can be that he isn't the loyal type, can be that he has a strong desire for variety and is easily tempted, etc.

That said, another reason is if he is no longer satisfied sexually, that doesn't have to be looks, can be him being bored of the routine or you not doing something that he craves / not doing it as often as he needs it, etc.

[Asker]

If a man can't stay loyal in a relationship because he looks for variety isn't a boyfriend material. He belongs to streets where he can get satisfied by multiple women

[sawno]

Completely agree with you there, for me personally its reverse. I deeply long to be loyal to someone special.

[Asker]

Thats the greatest. Many men aren't great because they do disloyal shit. A great man is never disloyal and completely loyal

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

I struggled badly with this when my ex cheated on me. I felt like I did something wrong and that I was ugly compared to her. Finding someone new helped me get over him, but those feelings never really went away and even though I had body image issues before him, they were certainly worse after him.

[Asker]

Sis, don't feel. You're more beautiful than you think. She is not better than you. I repeat. You are far more beautiful than her in morals, values, character, thoughts, innocence. You are such a great woman to be cherished. If your ex treated you like shit, he is shit. If he said you or treated you like ugly, he is ugly. Accept it or not. You can see a devil with a cute and handsome makeover but does it mean that you should be with that devil? No right? It's scary inside of that appearance. Inside him, is a devil who attacks your self confidence, beautiful thoughts, self esteem. Don't be with such a person. If you stay with him, it's same like staying with a devil.

I would never accept a guy who cheated on his girlfriend either. Even if I look better than her I will not date such a guy. I will never marry a guy of sin. If she stayed with him hurting your feelings, it means that she is evil too. She is doing an unforgivable sin that God doesn't forgive. Her heart is absolutely ugly compared to you. Yours is beautiful. She is also an evil with a makeover which can fade with time. But a beautiful heart always remains beautiful. Face beauty will fade one day. He will realise that day who is great. By then he'll be already losing you. He doesn't deserve you. He is same like a devil if he cheated on you. I could never imagine myself cheating on a guy who loves me who I love back and have hopes for. So be very strong and don't let their stupid behaviour affect you in any away. You deserve a more better guy, more handsome guy who is even more beautiful in his heart

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Thank you for the kind words. Thankfully I did end up with a guy who treats me extremely well and I'm in a better place relationship wise. I've been very lucky with that.

With my ex, I just think it was opportunity for him. They were friends before I even met him and she lived closer than I did. I didn't love him any less though and I was always there to support him when he needed it.

When it happened, he didn't even acknowledge it to me. I found out they were now dating from her. She had no idea that he and I were dating, so I don't blame her. I still wanted to be part of his life and would still reach out to him and say we were friends, but inside I was dying.

Thankfully now, I'm past him but it has done a number on my self esteem, more than it already was messed up. I'm trying to work through it here over a year later.

[Asker]

You understanding that he and she to be blamed is the moment you start to heal and don't get hurt anymore. She might not know if earlier but after she knows too if she continued being with him, then he and she both are to be blamed. No one is forgivable.

[Asker]

When you have a better guy, just delete the memory of your ex. It's of use for nothing. Your ex is a piece of shit and you don't need to think about that shit.

[andy530]

Yes and no. It does not mean you’re ugly and it’s not 100% your fault but relationships take work from both ends and I’ve never met a couple who has suffered from infidelity where both partners didn’t have some things that needed to be changed in order for the relationship to grow

[Asker]

Cheaters are ugly by their characters

[andy530]

I would not argue with that

[LostSouls_]

Yep cheating is pure ugly behaviour. No one to blame for your disloyalty except you

[DarkLegacy]

Yes i do but women will always try and justify them cheating by switching the blame onto men.

[HotManPlayboy]

Nooo not agree

[jahaims]

More or less yeah