I’ve (21F) have been dating this guy (31M) for about 4 weeks. He told me that he’s an electrician and a plumber for a family owned company. One night he asked me to buy him a pack of cigarettes I told him no I didn’t have any money to buy him cigarettes. A couple days later his phone gets cut off, because he didn’t pay the bill. And now he is currently using a text free number. He asked me again to buy him some cigarettes, and he will pay me back once I arrive. He never paid me back. He asked me for $40 dollars, because his sister went to jail, and he spent his last bonding her out of jail. I of course told him no. I really think that he doesn’t really have a job. Is this guy trying to use me. Should I break it off with this guy?
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If this all happened within the first month of dating you, then this will always be a pattern and become too much. He can’t afford to pay you back, he can’t afford a girlfriend period, he just wants one. You have decide if this is the dynamic you see yourself in for however long you’re dating him.
I think she's fucking a guy that's almost as sexy as me. Women don't naturally go into full-on retardation for no reason... just saying.
But I'm a dude that literally expects women to buy me much more than a pack of cigarettes. So she could be fat and him just some average guy. I think we're looking at average people's interactions here is all I'm saying about that.
If that’s the expectation you set with a woman and she’s fine with that then cool, every relationship has its own dynamic. But for the average person, man or woman, it’s a pretty big red flag when this brand new person is asking for money or to have things bought for them. I couldn’t imagine asking to borrow a dime from a man I knew for two weeks.
@D_Bone_Steak I was thinking the same thing. This guy has to be a walking Thundercock... just like you buddy 😉
@KrakenAttackin Right? Him turning to look at what's going on behind him must knock two chicks out with his penis... at the very least.
A dude is just standing there like his arm is still around her... wondering how the fuck his chick just got dicked down by this guy.
How’d we wind up here guys😭😭💀
@HollyK21. It's how we roll 😎
Whether he actually has a job or not, constantly asking you for money is a complete dealbreaker and you should break up with him.
Why can't you date someone poor like me who wouldn't ask you for money?
Also not even that he proved himself untrustworthy once he didn't pay you back.
If he did then it would be a good sign though he still shouldn't be asking.
Women break rules for abusive Chad... make rules for looksmatch.
My pick up line for you is...
Fuck you.
Admit it... that made your pussy wet.
Yes and yes you should break up. Wtf. Get some standards. Why are you dating guys like this? Seriously.
There’s a difference between a bum and someone who’s broke. Sounds like this guy’s a bum.
Yes. Run away. The cell phone getting cut off beforehand tells you the sister jail bail is made up. He's mooching and you're too young to have to deal with an allegedly grown ass man acting like that. Escape now.
Lmao yes this guy is a bum and if he really loved/liked you he wouldn’t be asking you for money or he would’ve paid you back. Find one who has a stable job
He is neither an Electrician or a Plumber, he is a general laborer who does what he's told on a random job site. Certified Electricians and Plumbers make very good money.
He's definitely not an electrician or a plumber. He's the new guy the journeyman sends to the truck to get the left-handed screwdriver
@BonzoInBitburg 😂 🤣 Left-handed screwdriver never gets old. It's like sending the new guy to the office to sign his ID-10-T form.
We send guys to the truck to get the matterdaddy. They always ask "What's the matterdaddy?"
You should have broken it off when her asked you to buy him cigarettes. He's probably lying about working.
Break it off
If he's good in those fields and unionized he'd be making 100k by now
You need us to tell you that?
Typical woman.
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