How much is your time worth to you?

[Anonymous]

According to current research, a clear mark of affection for a current/prospective partner is when they are reliably punctual, which shows they value your time, which makes me thinks... those of you with busy schedules who make time for your SO... how much is your time worth? Is it disrespectful for someone to keep scheduling things and then just flaking out?

[HawkPerception]

Honestly time is definitely the most valuable asset we have, but as long as a girl communicates that she'll be late for whatever reason, I'm okay with it. And same goes for me. Obviously the intention of being on time should be there and you should definitely respect the other person's time, but life happens and you can't be expected to be perfect.

I will always respect people's time, but I also believe that open and honest communication is the other important half.

[Asker]

Sure, I understand if an emergency or something comes up and the meeting must change or be cancelled -- and you text or call the person to cancel. But if the person is consistently late to meet with or call you (in an ldr) and doesn't try to text and say "running late" and so on... would you still keep trying to see this person or would you consider it a waste of your time at some point?

[HawkPerception]

Honestly FOR ME, yes. As long as they are communicative with me and say something along the lines of "Hey I'm running late. I might be about 30 minutes late. Is that okay? If you want to cancel, I understand." It's another story if there's no communication or intention of communication (had no way to communicate, but tried their best to get in touch).

Not everyone is super strict with deadlines and time. It's not necessarily that don't respect your time. It's could just be a personality thing.

However if they're consistently late (almost every time), then you should openly and honestly communicate with them and say something like "Hey I get that time might not be as important to you as it is for me, but I'd really appreciate if you could put a little more effort on showing up on time. It's always a pretty big let down for me when you're not there on time. If you can't consistently make it on time to dates, then I don't think this'll workout." If there's no change in their end after you make a comment like that, then yeah you should probably end it.

[Asker]

Exactly. Thanks so much! MHO! ☺️

[KrakenAttackin]

If someone is consistently late, that pisses me off. My ex is only on time when there are consequences (i. e. reporting to work). If it takes consequences for you to be on time, you suck as a person.

[Asker]

Agreed. Thanks.

[Ευδεμονια]

Honestly speaking, unfortunately I end up giving away my time.
I work a lot over time and I don’t make space for anything else, except during weekends. I end up every day after work too much tired to do anything and also I finish working too much late for planning anything.
But I never dumped someone for my job, I simply don’t make commitments if I know I can’t deal with them.
This is my main regret, since often I end up avoiding things so I don’t have to force my schedule.
That’s also one of the reasons why I never got a partner, even if I wish I had, because I can’t make space for anything 5 days a week.

[ProbablyClueless]

My time is worth a lot to me. I have a lot going on, so it's a big deal for me to set aside time for someone.

It upsets me if I'm dealing with someone who schedules things and then flakes out. But it actually legitimately pisses me off if I also planned things out for them to flake on me because that's additional time and effort I've spent on a situation that I actually wanted to do.

[Asker]

Agreed.

[dustybiker2]

Life happens. It really depends what comes up and how they decline to keep a date. I don't mind someone canceling if they are genuine doing so.

[Asker]

What if the person is constantly missing the time they are supposed to be meeting with you -- be several hours? Most people would just consider that disrespectful.

[dustybiker2]

If they are part of your life one would assume it would be expected. Manipulate them by telling them its an earlier time when it isn't.

[Anonymous]

I value time. If a business meeting, I'm early. I'm not saying other meetings aren't just as well as important, but I could be late. Also time is just another way to label and control. As you get older, you realize time is just a part of economics.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

My time is precious but when I’m on the job my time is worth a lot more.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Serious conversations and tasks to help others come second to me fucking my anime pillow.

I might have a serious conversation, or help others, but when I do... my nutts are drained.

[lorenzomichael]

Yeah I think so. If you’re feeling someone you should always give them your best. Because isn’t that what you want from them? It can’t be one sided it will never work that way.

[LaurenM1997]

I have people sometimes arrange things with me then drop out at last minute it’s so annoying

[exitseven]

My time is valuable. I only have so much and will not gat any more.

[Jason2469]

More and more with every passing second. The less you have the more valuable it is.

[DreamLife7]

He doesn't like you. Lol move on sheesh

[Asker]

He says he does, but he's always late. It's really irritating. :(

[DreamLife7]

He doesn't like you. Men say whatever you want to hear when they don't like u and using you lol

[SoJust]

The value of time is very important to me.

[Nikki1989]

$75.00 per hour, apparently.

[Asker]

😲 😲 😲

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would always make time for her

[MacDaddyRico]

$65/hour with a two-hour minimum

[Asker]

Oh my…

[legalboxers]

Priceless.