If a guy is talking about his ex girlfriend in a negative way all the time , do you assume it’s because he hates her or isn’t over it?

[strawberrybaby3]

[DishLady]

It means there's something unresolved there. A guy who has resolved his past relationship issues will say something like "my ex" and roll his eyes, shake his head or just make one cranky sound when directly asked about her -- he wouldn't sit around making constant mention of her. Something's up, kiddo. At the very least either he saw her recently or someone mentioned her and now she's on his mind. If you haven't DIRECTLY asked him about her (to learn about his past, for example), then there's really no actual reason for him to be talking about her often... at all.

[strawberrybaby3]

From what I’ve been told , on two separate occasions in the last week he’s brought me up out of now where , where people thought our breakup just happened by the way he was speaking

[DishLady]

Oh, YOU are the ex? I didn't get that from your question... There's nothing YOU can do if he's just talking about you all the time. That's his problem. You can only keep moving on. If you want, make sure he's blocked on all your social media and on your phone so he's not tempted to follow and look at all your stuff and keep thinking about you. While I don't like to recommend this approach, sometimes it's really the kindest thing to do for the guy.

[strawberrybaby3]

The funny thing is we already have each other blocked on everything. I’ve had him blocked for months and he just blocked me a few months ago out of the blue. Now he’s talking about me all the time

[strawberrybaby3]

I think he’s mad that I started ignoring him first

[lornakrys]

I hate to ask but is it possible that you are not over him and hope he's still into you and that's why he's doing this? The truth is, it shouldn't matter. He's your ex so unless you are still friends, it doesn't help to get into the whole what is he doing/saying and why. Just move on, do you and ignore him. That said, it does sound like he's still thinking about you.

[strawberrybaby3]

No. It’s because I know he spreads bullshit around and lies. That’s the issue.

[lornakrys]

That's f**ked up. If it's to mutual friends it could also be knowing he was shit and wanting to make you look bad so they don't listen to you in case you tell them how shitty he was.

[strawberrybaby3]

True, but what makes it weird is I’ve been told he randomly brings me up, like he is doing it impulsively and sounds so angry about it

[nawtee_me]

Because he still blames her when he should be looking at the part he had played. It is never just one persons fault.

[strawberrybaby3]

Yeah but why bring it up unprovoked?

[nawtee_me]

It is a shame he puts you in the middle. I t like being in a threesome with him and his ex….

[strawberrybaby3]

You make no sense lol what does that have to do with what I just said

[AviatorTom]

More likely, he doesn't hate her, he's hurt and still grieving about the breakup.

[kylee2437]

Isn’t over it, and the break up was most likely his fault

[HelpfulWoman]

depending on context, it could just be because she's an asshole

[exitseven]

He could still be hurt from getting dumped or he misses her. .

[Danny_dan92]

In this context? He’s more than likely not over her

[Anonymous]

He hates her because she’s probably too good for him and won’t ever like him the way he likes her

[PeachyPie93]

He isn't over her.

[LunarEclipse433]

He still has feelings for her

[NathanDavis]

both...

[RMSTitanic]

I feel bad for you

[Bklynbadboy12]

He's an asshole