If a girl invites you over to watch a show is it an invitation to sex?

[Anonymous]

A girl I wanted to hookup with said she doesn’t casually hookup. I don’t want a relationship with her. But we had fun watching tv together. She has invited me the following weekend again to watch tv. Is this an invitation to sex and has she changed her mind? Or is it just a friendly show watching session?

[Billlewis]

When a woman invites me over, the only invitation I see is an invitation to try and see what I can do for her. I've been in that situation many times, and I always approach it the same way. 'Hey, how are you? How was your day', and then right to the point -- 'So, what can I do for you?' Believe me there's almost always something to do, and because I view it as an opportunity to make her feel good, I can't lose.

[Asker]

But she’s saying we should finish a show we started. And stopped me last time and said she wouldn’t hookup. So I’m wondering if she wants to watch tv or her mind has changed

[Billlewis]

So, either call/text her beforehand to ascertain whether she intends to finish watching the program, or wait until you get there and you'll find out then.

[Asker]

I don’t wanna assume. But she is very passionate about that program. I want to assume she would want to hookup but I don’t want to tell that to her in case she was inviting me as a friend

[BarryLiverstone]

She had fun watching tv, it’s not about sex

[Asker]

But she knows I don’t want a relationship with her. I want to hookup. Why would she invite me over unless her mind has changed

[BarryLiverstone]

You said you already watched tv. Didn’t she invite you over already?

[Asker]

Yes but we made out. She stopped me and said she wouldn’t casually hookup with me. I said I wasn’t looking for a relationship. So we stopped but we ended up watching more tv together.

[BarryLiverstone]

First time you have mentioned making out. Did I miss that in your question?

[Asker]

Yes I didn’t mention that in the initial question. First time we watched tv together we made out and she stopped me and said she wasn’t looking for casual hookups and I said I wasn’t looking for a relationship so we stopped and continued watching tv for another hour or two

[BarryLiverstone]

Then she doesn’t want to hook up. May want to make out again, guess you will find out. Why don’t you want a relationship?

[Asker]

She’s very fun but I’m not attracted to her like that. But I’m very turned on in her presence. I don’t think I can just make out. But I also wonder if she’s open to sex now

[BarryLiverstone]

I’m confused. If you can kiss her what’s she missing for attraction towards a relationship?

[Asker]

lol I don't know how to put this but I’m just not into her. But I haven’t had sex in a while and I’m kinda really trying to get some

[BarryLiverstone]

If you don’t know how to put it, then it may be a case of lower intelligence on your end

[Asker]

Well I don’t see myself in a committed long term relationship with her. We have cultural differences. But I don’t mind a casual hookup setup. Does that help explain the situation a bit better?

[Asker]

I also don’t think she has the ideal body type that I’d want my partner to have. I just know it’s not a long haul

[BarryLiverstone]

That better explains it. Don’t kiss her anymore

[BarryLiverstone]

And tbh if you respect her and stop kissing her, she can as a friend help you find someone you would prefer a relationship with. So why use her for sex?

[Asker]

But she kissed me back too. It’s not like only I kissed her. I think she likes me and would be open to have a relationship with me. I just said I don’t want a relationship for the blow to be soft. She just stopped us from going too further cause she said she doesn’t wanna casually hookup

[BarryLiverstone]

Then it’s time to reset expectations with her. If you feel like she has a crush just be honest that you don’t feel a romantic attraction. But you like hanging out as a friend. Any blow is on her to manage and work through.

You can do one of three things:

1. Be a quality guy by communicating honestly and building a new friendship.

2. Be dishonest by pretending to like her just to use her and have sex. Which will hurt her much more.

3. Tell her you don’t want to see her again.

[BarryLiverstone]

By body type are you saying she’s overweight?

[Asker]

Yeah she seems a bit fat to me. I used to be obese but have been working very hard at the gym and am at my ideal body weight

[BarryLiverstone]

Ok I thought so. Not sure why you couldn’t have just said that in the beginning. It also means she could hit the gym and lose weight

[Asker]

She does go to the gym and is loosing weight. But I don’t see too much changes from my end at least

[BarryLiverstone]

As a friend you could help encourage her to lose weight. And it’s not spelled loose, that’s the opposite of tight

[Asker]

Ehh she speaks a lot about it herself. She talks about gym and goes there everyday. I think if I said anything on top of it, I’d come across as shallow or bossy

[Cynicaldreamer]

"... said she doesn’t casually hookup." You just said she doesn't do hookups so... no, lol. She just wants to hang out as FRIENDS and nothing more. So enjoy some time with her, and try not to make things awkward. Better still, don't even bring up hooking up with her.

[Asker]

We are not THAT close friends that she’d wanna hangout with me 1:1

[Anonymous]

If you were really a woman like your profile says, you wouldn't be asking this. Get back on your blue one and keep better track of which you log into.

[Asker]

I’m not a woman. I’m a man. I messed up when creating my account

[AviatorTom]

She's invited you to watch TV together. She doesn't do casual hookups. What part of this are you missing. It's highly unlikely the invitation is for sex.

[Asker]

Then why is she inviting me knowing I wanna hookup?

[Asker]

Is she playing games

[AviatorTom]

She's letting you know that she's not the one to hookup with. If you want to hookup with someone else... well, that's up to you.

[AviatorTom]

Or, when you're watching TV together, male a pass at her. Her reaction will let you know for sure.

[BrassRaven]

She says doesn't do casual hookups... she's a friend and wants to spend time with you. Tf you think this is a "coffee after a date" situation. If she's inviting you over after telling you she doesn't do casual hookups. It is one of two things. Wither A. saying stick to the friend zone my guy. Or B. I really like you. Want to spend time with you, but I don't want you to waste my time with a one time thing.

[Asker]

But we kissed the first time we were watching a show over last weekend.

[BrassRaven]

Then she wants more than friends. Not a casual sexuation

[Asker]

But like she said she doesn’t wanna casually hookup and stopped after I said I’m not looking for a relationship. Is she trying to change my mind or has she changed hers

[exitseven]

Maybe. There is only ine way to find out