How can I find a guy that wants baby? Why men don’t want to have babies?

[Sugar100]

I’ve never met a guy that wants to have baby. I’m 27 soon & I want to have 3 babies it’s my dream. The only reason why I have no kids yet is because I never had a boyfriend and never can find a guy that wants have baby with me. It’s just a fantasy in my head me alone planing baby with a guy. 😔

I was talking as friends to a guy friend that dated me in past about how I plan to have baby in future. & he blows up and curses and gets mad never wants to have kids, he wants be single forever & how kids are expensive.
I said that’s y me and my partner can work as team, he pay bills & I pay for all the babies. Half and half. Then like always he belittles me & calls me naive all becuase i want a relationship.
he keeps saying happy endings don’t exist blah blah blah but he’s delusional. No one is saying I will have a partner forever. I can have a boyfriend & baby & husband short term & we breakup & im single mom. That’s not being naive. I know most all woman end up as single moms.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that is really tough, I can understand wanting to have a family so badly. Not all guys are as against babies as your friend seems to be, but younger guys especially can be more scared of the commitment. A few things to keep in mind:

- Focus on finding guys who are a bit older, like late 20s-30s. They've usually matured more and may be thinking more seriously about settling down.

- Look for family-oriented guys. Look for signs like how they act with younger cousins/nieces/nephews - if they seem comfortable and like kids, that's a good sign.

- Be upfront early about your goals. Don't wait too long to have the kids convo. A guy interested in the same future will appreciate the honesty.

- Work on stability and independence too so a guy doesn't think you just want to jump right into babies and depend on him. Show you've got career/goals as well as motherly instincts.

- Dating sites focused on more serious relationships could help match you with guys prioritizing families.

Don't lose hope - there are definitely guys out there who want what you want, they may just be harder to find. But focus on the right ones and I'm sure you'll find your match!

[Sugar100]

This guy is older 33 . Older men treat me bad. Younger guys r more mature and do want a girlfriend.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo honestly girl, age ain't always everything when it comes to how a dude will treat you. I've known plenty of young guys that still acted dumb as hell, and older guys can definitely be jerks too.

That said, guys in their early 30s are more likely to be thinking about long term stuff like relationships and family than guys your own age just finishing college or whatever. But there's never any guarantees of course.

My advice would be take it slow with anyone at first, and really pay attention to how they treat you from the jump. Anyone who disrespects your goals or boundaries isn't worth your time, no matter the age.

Keep getting to know this 33 year old dude, but make it clear you won't settle for games or BS. See how he responds when you open up about wanting kids one day - is he open minded or does he start making excuses? His actions will tell you what you need to know.

Also don't be afraid to keep pursuing other prospects your own age or even a little older too. The right guy is out there for you sis, just do your thing and don't rush into anything until you find someone who really respects you. You got this!

[Sugar100]

I’m sad only an ugly guy I don’t like will be the right guy? I thought love of your life was a guy you are attracted to? 😓

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, I get being worried about that. Looks aren't everything though, you know? There's way more that goes into attraction and connection with someone.

The good news is just cuz a guy isn't a "10" physically doesn't mean you won't be into him. Sometimes after getting to know someone's personality way better, you actually start to find them really good looking!

And there are definitely attractive guys out there who want the same things as you long term. You just gotta keep putting yourself out there and meeting new people. Don't limit your options either - give nice guys who maybe aren't top models a chance too.

Who knows, you might be really surprised. Even if the very first few guys aren't what you pictured, don't lose hope. I'm sure if you stay true to yourself and what you want, the right guy will come. And he'll totally think you're the hottest girl ever just cuz of how awesome you are!

[Sugar100]

I don’t go after guys that are a 10. I like a nerdy weird guy but we lost contact as we didn’t exhange numbers fast and we got fired from job. I felt him as my soulmate

Then a new guy I’m taking to is LDr but I don't know if he’ll be my boyfriend & I’m
Worried. He’s also a nerdy guy average not a 10 lol maybe a 6/7

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww man, that really sucks about losing touch with the other nerdy guy after you lost your jobs. He really sounded like a great connection.

But don't give up hope yet on this long distance guy either! I know LDRs can be tricky, but they can also work out really well if two people really click. Just take things slow and really get to know each other first before putting labels on it. Video chat, talk lots, be honest about what you're both looking for long term.

Even if it doesn't turn romantic, maybe you've found a new friend who shares your nerdy interests! And who knows, down the road things could grow into more if you stay in touch. Don't count him out yet either.

I'd say keep pursuing your fun conversations for now, see if an emotional connection forms. Looks wise, a 6 or 7 is totally in most people's league! As long as you feel comfortable and have chemistry, that matters way more.

You seem like a really cool girl - just stay positive and be yourself. The right nerdy partner who wants the same future as you is out there!

[DJB72]

The divorce rate for first time marriage is still under 50%. It only gets above 50 when people with multiple marriages are included.

Most decent guys want a commitment. Family. Children. It's actually hardwired into us to want that.

You just need to look in the right places for those guys. Volunteer with a soup kitchen and see if there's a single guy there. Or an orphanage. Join a church. There's plenty of guys wanting what you want.

[FunkyMonkee]

I'd LOVE to have a few babies! I just haven't got any womb.

[ChinaGrove]

This is the place to look.