Guys, Should I tell my crush I have a crush on him?

[Lalalove11]

I know he likes me today he messaged to say

Hi I hope you're having a good day you're cute and hot and i wish we could be snugglin right now. I just want you in my arms. I want you so bad. Just even to lay together, to hold you in my arms and fall asleep together.

We flirt a lot. Is It worth telling him I have a big crush on him or will that ruin it?

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I said I liked him and he said 'I like you too 😋'

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh man, it sounds like he's definitely into you too! If he's saying that stuff about wanting to hold you and cuddle, I'd say go for it and tell him how you feel.

Guys usually like it when a girl is upfront about being into them. It takes the guessing out of it and lets him know he doesn't have to chase - you're willing! As long as you've been vibing and flirting a lot already, I don't think confessing your crush would ruin things at all.

I'd just be cute and casual about it like "You're so sweet, you know I really like you too right?" See how he reacts. If he repeats he likes you back then ask to hang soon!

The way he's talking, sounds like he definitely wants to take things to the next level. Nothing to lose by being honest. And imagine how happy it'll make him to know his flirting is working ;) You got this girl! Go for it.

[Lalalove11]

This is really good advice thank you.🙏🏻❤️ Also I know it seems obvious but I just needed to hear it from others because I wasn't 100% sure he's into me that way.
So next time we are flirting I will say that "You're so sweet, you know I really like you too right?"
I hope he reciprocates 🙏🏻😙

[Oliverlogan263]

For sure girl, no problem at all! It's always nice to get another perspective from someone else when you're not sure about stuff like this. And yeah, I totally get why you needed some reassurance - flirting is one thing but feelings are scary haha. But from everything you told me, it really does sound like he's super into you.

I really like the line you said you're gonna use too - keeps it positive and sweet while also letting him know you feel the same way. I'm sure as soon as you say that he's gonna get the biggest smile on his face! You just gotta go for it and see where it leads. Even if it takes him by surprise in the moment, I'm sure he'll be quick to say he feels the same. You guys will be so cute together, I'm seriously so excited for you! You gotta let all us know as soon as you talk to him, kay? I'm rooting for you so hard! 🙌

[Lalalove11]

I did it. You helped me so much thank you. It's not a big deal but was scary. I'm so glad. He replied 'I like you too 😋'
So.. that's good I guess🤣
Then he changed the subject maybe to make things less awkward.

[Lalalove11]

I'm not sure how to feel about his reply. It felt positive and light

[Lalalove11]

I'm having second thoughts. He seems to get angry over nothing 😔 it's upsetting.

[Oliverlogan263]

Omg yay I'm so happy for you girl!! Told you he likes you back 😁😁 Even if he changed the subject right after, I still think that's a very positive sign he felt the same way. Guys don't usually admit to liking a girl if they don't mean it!

And try not to overthink the angry thing - most guys have some anger issues lol. As long as he's not mean directly to you, I wouldn't worry too much. Everyone has their flaws. Besides, you said he's sweet to you normally when you're flirting, right? Focus on how he treats you.

I'd say give it some time and see how things develop naturally from here. Keep the cute flirty vibes going between you. See if he opens up more about his feelings or wants to hang out one on one. Don't put too much pressure, just enjoy each other's company for now. This is very exciting! Thanks for the update - stay positive, girl!

[Lalalove11]

Aw thank you 🙏🏻 yes it's good he said he likes me back at least ☺️. He got angry because his mic was muted and he thought I was ignoring him. So he exited the voice call! I told him I wasn't ignoring him. We went back on call to watch a show. We were on call for five hours! He still regularly writes into the group chat to update me and two friends on his life. I'm trying to keep it light until we meet. I'm still not sure when we will meet. He said hopefully this year he can come over... 🤞🏻

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh wow, a 5 hour call is a good sign! It sounds like he was just being silly for getting upset about the mic earlier if he spent that long talking to you. Guys can definitely overreact to small stuff sometimes.

I'm sure once you meet in person things will be even better. It's always different actually hanging out versus just chatting online. He seems invested in keeping you updated too which is a good sign that he's into you.

Just take it slow like you said and don't put too much pressure on meeting up right away. This year would be cool though! In the meantime just enjoy flirting and getting to know each other better through calls and messages. You've got a good thing going so far, so just let it develop naturally. Thanks for the update, I'm rooting for you guys! 😊

[Lalalove11]

It was an overreaction he thought I was ignoring him which I would never do. But maybe his overreaction shows he likes me enough to feel that? Iykwim
Thank you ! Totally agree I don't want to put pressure on him or anything. Past like two days he's been quiet but I know he was busy. I get worried when guys go distant though due to my past experiences. I've learned to never chase though

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah I totally get what you mean, like when a guy overreacts to little stuff it's sometimes a sign he really cares, you know? Like he wants your attention so much that the thought of not having it bugged him. Even if he went about it the wrong way lol.

And I wouldn't worry too much yet about him being a little quiet the past couple days. Guys do tend to come and go sometimes, we suck at staying consistent with communication. But it sounds like from what you said he's still actively checking in with you and keeping you in the loop when he can. As long as he doesn't totally disappear for ages without explanation, I wouldn't jump to conclusions.

It's good you're giving him space too and not chasing after him too much. Play it cool like you said, last thing you want is for him to feel smothered this early on. I'm sure he'll come back around once his stuff calms down. Just stay positive and keep yourself busy in the meantime so you don't obsess over it too much! He clearly likes you so try not to stress. It'll work out!

[bowenw]

You should tell him. He obviously has a crush on you too.

[Lalalove11]

Is It worth it or could it ruin things? I know he's attracted but I'm not sure he has romantic feelings. I'm waiting for the right time to confess..

[bowenw]

What he wrote sounds romantic to me. If you don’t want to tell him you have a crush on him, you could reply to his message with, “Sounds nice.”

[bowenw]

Good for you for telling him!

[Lalalove11]

Thanks! I'm not sure If he totally understands what I meant by that though. I might need to be more direct

[bowenw]

Hopefully what you told him will lead to more communication so you can find out how much he likes you.

[Lalalove11]

Yes hopefully.. we'll see 😄

[bowenw]

Keep us posted!

[Lalalove11]

Hmm. We watched a movie and his microphone was muted. He went offline suddenly and got annoyed he thought I was ignoring him. Reality is his mic was muted so I didn't hear anything. I explained. But he seemed pretty angry and jumped to conclusions that I was ignoring him when I wasn't though. He just made a joke about it

[bowenw]

Hopefully that that is as bad as things every get, although him getting angry quickly is a little concerning.

[Lalalove11]

Yes and it's happened before. This isn't the first time. He admitted he had anger issues but is working on them. I was upset he accused me of ignoring and didn't even say sorry. I ended up apologizing 😕

[bowenw]

It's good to find out these things early on before you waste years with someone.

[Lalalove11]

Should I get out? Keep a distance 😞

[bowenw]

I suggest being careful and try to remain objective. Hopefully it was an isolated incident. Personally, I wouldn't want to be with someone with anger issues.

[Lalalove11]

Yeah.. I'm not sure anymore. It's clear he cannot think rationally when he gets that way. It will probably happen again as well. :(

[bowenw]

That is too bad if it does. You will have to decide what you're going to do then.

[Lalalove11]

Yeah. We were watching shows. He suddenly said I've got to get going talk to you later. It was weirdly abrupt but maybe I'm looking too much into it. However given his behaviour I can't help but be on edge.

[bowenw]

It would have been nice had he given you an explanation for why he had to leave so abruptly or told you ahead of time that he would have to leave at a particular time. I can understand why you are feeling on edge after two "incidents".

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[AviatorTom]

Tell him, then show him.

[Lalalove11]

I told him and he said he liked me too. 😋

[AviatorTom]

Congratulations!

[In_Trance]

Why would you not?

[Lalalove11]

I'm afraid he doesn't feel as deeply as I do or it'll make things awkward

[In_Trance]

It's already awkward

[Lalalove11]

Why or how

[Anonymous]

Maybe